I've dating this guy for almost 8 months. The key word is "Dating". I like him but I still really want to go out there and explore my options. In a way, I don't want to stop seeing him, but I don't want to feel later on that I'm stuck with him. We have alot of fun together, I just want to have a little fun with other people. I'm young and in the prime of my life, and very attractive ( well I think I look good). The point is if I'm not in a committed relationship, should I be feeling like I have to treat this like a committed relationship?
2006-10-23 15:59:59 · 14 answers · asked by aza_424 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
As long as you are upfront with him, and allow him the same, go for it. Frankly, I think if you used the term "stuck with", you'd have all the freedom you want.
Don't sneak around, don't make promises you can't keep, and don't blame him for moving on when he does.
2006-10-23 17:50:27 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that what you need to do is talk with this guy. Tell him your feelings. Because, yes, in a sense, if you want your relationship with him to get serious later, then it would be cheating on him to see other people. But maybe you two need a break from each other. To see if you are both really for each other or not and ready for a committed relationship. I would tell him that you want to remain friends...but you need some space. Just have to see how he takes it. It will be that or you will always wonder if you made the wrong mistake or feel guilty because you did see someone and not talk to him about it.
2006-10-23 23:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by chocoholic_40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're honest with the other person then it's ok to see other people. You don't have to be in a "committed relationship," but could just date, like you said. He should know where you stand, though, IMO.
Best wishes in your decision!
2006-10-23 23:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by chrysalislady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both open and upfront about this not being a committed relationship then I don't see it as cheating. However, if this has not been discussed then I would suggest that you talk about it BEFORE going out with anyone else.
2006-10-24 10:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't tell him, then yes it's cheating. If you want to see other people, be open about it and let him know.
Unless you're the type that thinks it's okay for you to see other people, but not for him.
Talk to him and see what he says. But don't do it behind his back, have him find out and break up with you, and then you realize too little, too late, that you missed out on something magical.
2006-10-23 23:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, as long as he does not think it is a committed relationship. Just make sure you are on the same page.
2006-10-23 23:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by shepherd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES---if you are dating it would be cheating-----unless you tell your partner. Just tell the person you are with what you told us and you to can go on your marry ways and if it was right you will be together again. But obiously if you feel this way it isnt true love or you wouldnt want to be with others.
2006-10-23 23:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 months in the gay world is a lot of time...maybe he thinks that you're his boyfriend by now. Seriously.
One thing you said, you don't want to be stuck with him? Dump him for his sake, he's probably mad for you and if you're not reciprocal do him a favour and allow for him to find someone who wants him and only him.
2006-10-24 00:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by zea_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it. Me and my girl talked about this and eventhough we know we want to spend the rest of our lives together, we have an open relationship, which means we're allowed to have **** buddies
2006-10-23 23:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, perhaps you should discuss it with the guy you are seeing.... come to some kind of agreement
2006-10-23 23:07:46 · answer #10 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋