I love my bfriend more than ever and I 'm ready to tell him I am ready to make a baby with him. He told me he is ready and I did not tell him my side yet. should I do it while making love? sitting together? what would you do? serious answers only plz - no asshole remarks!
2006-10-23 15:56:55 · 19 answers · asked by littlemiss-sunshine 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Propose to him. Ask him to marry you. Then you will know exactly where you, and your future babies, stand.
2006-10-23 16:20:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriend?!? Ummm... you can take this as an asshole remark if you choose to, but really this is just some sound advice..Don't have a baby until you're married!! Seriously, the two of you would just be "playing house" if you have a baby before you're sure you want to spend the rest of your lives together. It's a proven fact that kids who come from a two parent household succeed better in life than those who do not.
Please rethink your decision!
2006-10-23 16:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by bettywitdabigbooty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whooooooooa, baby making??? easy there slick. Don't you want at LEAST a commitment ceremony of some sort first? If he really loves you as much as you love him, you would make commitment official by marriage or some sort of commitment ceremony. If he decides he isnt ready, he can just walk away, and I KNOW you don't want that. If your serious, I mean, go ahead. Tell him at a time when you are doing something special like sitting outside under the stars, sitting by the fireplace, something emotional and magical, I guess. But you seriously should think about COMMITMENT. That's a big issue, tell him he has to prove his commitment to you somehow. If he says no, then you really shouldnt be bringing an innocent little baby into the world. There are enough of us mistakes out there, I being one of them, and it doesn't feel good.
2006-10-23 16:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
1) I highly encourage getting married first.
2) If you find that not an option (which I would not understand why, for if you want to have a baby with him, why not marry him?), then just be direct. Sit down with him at the table and just tell him you have something important to discuss. One thing about relationships that I see mess things up above all else is trying to be sneaky about things. One thing I know being married for 7 years, and together with the same man for 9, is being sneaky or underhanded to get info out to him...never made things easier or nice. It actually made things worse. The best thing to do, especially in serious topics, is just be forward with him. And be willing to accept the fact he might say no. And if he does, discuss it with him if you want to know why...never attack him. Putting a man on the defensive will only make matters worse for the relationship. It will create a wedge, and it hurts when that wedge is in place. If you love him, you will be honest with him...no underhanded tactics, no manipluation. Just pure truth and honesty. It is the best virtue, is it not?
2006-10-23 16:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by EoC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is ready to have a baby then dont ya think he should be ready to get married- sometimes things happen and you dont get married first but if you can help it marry and then wait a year to have a child, they say the first year of marriage can be the hardest, so why put a child thru anything that can be prevented! if you two love each other and respect each other then do it the right way for a childs sake
2006-10-23 16:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by lil mac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I would take a serious look at whether or not you are really ready for a baby! I remember being young, and thinking that I knew everything. Then when i really thought I knew everything, and was in a different relationship, I just told him in foreplay what I wanted and expected, and BOOM!
2006-10-23 16:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay really there is no easy way to pop the news if you think he may not take it well, but telling him straight out is best. If you try and sugar coat it it wont come off seriously. Be happy when you tell him, kinda get him in a good mood, then just go for it.
2006-10-23 16:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by Holly M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be a stupid mistake. A baby needs 2 parents in a committed marriage who have saved and planned for him. It costs $6000. for just the first few months. He will need a roof over his head, furniture, clothes, medical expenses and money for an education. Don't ruin a child's life and your own.
2006-10-23 16:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to ask why you both feel that you are committed to making a baby together when you haven't even committed yourselves to each other yet. If you are serious enough about each other to get married THEN you are serious enough to talk about having a baby.
2006-10-23 16:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is conversing, ask her basic, non-preferable questions and see if she could provide you greater clues as to what's frightening her. Questions including "Is somebody scaring you?" and "who's scaring you?" "who're you worried of?" "Did somebody harm you?" "the place did somebody harm you?" tutor her a row of photos of diverse human beings, with one photograph of her grandfather, and ask her if any of those human beings harm her. If she's no longer sufficiently previous to appreciate your questions, get a doll and ask the lady if somebody is touching her or hurting her and ask her to show to the places on the doll the place somebody is touching her. meanwhile, by no potential go away her on my own with the grandfather. Watch the grandfather's habit too, for signs and warning signs. Does he watch the youngster excessively? Does HE keep away from HER while she is around different persons or is he openly actual together with her? in case you hit upon issues that make certain your suspicions, then make certain the lady has an entire actual and proportion your suspicions, inquiring for help. you would be able to desire to proceed being concious of the undeniable fact that no count if it is authentic, the youngster desires help and protection top away. yet while it is fake, you need to ruin this guy's attractiveness thoroughly, and end him in reformatory while he's harmless. it is quite consumer-friendly to bounce the gun in those circumstances. It additionally could be a male different than the grandfather, however the lady is reacting this thank you to ALL adult males via fact of it. evaluate different adult males that the lady comes into touch with. thank you for being conscious and for desirous to act on the youngster's behalf.
2016-10-02 21:37:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is only your bf...STAY OUT OF BED.
If you defile the marriage bed (have sex to a man/woman not married to you), you are in direct disobedience to the word and will of God.
The penalty: ALL ETERNITY IN HELL...NO REPRIEVE!
You have your whole life to be found by the man God has designed especially for you, so wait.
IT WILL BE WORTH IT.
(Just think of the STD's you'll avoid by NOT having sex)
2006-10-23 16:07:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋