I am 22 year-old and have been going out with middle of 30’s boyfriend. He has two children 10 and 6 year old and most of times, he has to do the parental duties during weekday and weekend such as pick his children up. The reality is more complicated. He is still regally married with his wife and living with, but their marriage has been not working out at all from beginning. (he married with his wife, because of pregnant of his first san.) We are willing to marry in the future surely until his first san gets 13. When he has to leave me for his parental duties, I feel jealous of his children so much. Do you think he loves his children more than me?
2006-10-23 15:50:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
any parent that does not love his/her chidren more than a girl/boyfriend does not deserve to be a parent.
a child is a godsend.girl/boyfriends come and go.
this is a part of life that u need to understand and deal with.those are his kids,and i am sure as a parent he WILL love them more than a girfriend.
i dont sound mean to sound like a jerk,but those are his kids.u should not feel jealous or left out.if u love him and he loves u things will work out for the 2 of u.
i really think the jealosy that u feel is the "kid" that is still in u.
just give it time and be patient.
2006-10-23 16:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by 'HUMVEE' 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES he should love his children more than you because they are his children. YOU are the OTHER WOMAN. A selfish woman like you needs a man that doesn't have any excess baggage let alone a wife. If you think he's going to leave his wife think again. He's simply stringing you along because he knows that you will continue to believe him when he tells you that his marriage is working out.
Men -especially CHEATING MARRIED MEN will tell you anything to get into your pants.
Have you actually witnessed this so-called bad marriage in progress? Sweetie, his wife wouldn't be pregnant if their marriage was bad. If he was serious about leaving her, he would have done it before getting her pregnant.
Grow up and realize that you are being used. He's willing to marry you in 3yrs..... The sad thing is that you believe the bullsh*t he is shoveling.
You deserve better than what you are getting.
2006-10-23 23:32:42 · answer #2 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well like any good parent kids come before anyone else,maybe you should think how you would feel if it was you that had kids. i don't think that you should be jealous of the kids but if he is still living with his wife maybe you need to move on to someone that is a little more single.and being a father is very time consuming kids need alot of parent time.you just seem a little young to be tied down to a guy that much older that you and with kids and a "wife". there are many many more fish in the sea so dive in. and i say that about the age only because i am 31 and my mom is 17 yrs younger than my dad it has been a problem for yrs because they have nothing in commom. and it has messed them up for as long as i can remember so good luck
2006-10-23 23:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by ykingrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a different kind of love that you have for children than you have for your girlfriend or wife or whatever. if you want to date someone that has children you have to realize that above all else they are a parent. His children are and should be his top priority. I dont mean to be rude but the fact that you are jealous of them makes you sound like a child. Maybe you arent ready to date a man that has children. You have to live with his parental duties as you call them, and if you can't then you have to date someone without children.
2006-10-23 22:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by my101201cutiepie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, what?? He still lives with his wife-whom he's still legally married to....and you know for a fact he's "not" with her?? Right. Honey, he's leading you on, he's probably not leaving this woman...and yes, most parents love their children more than life itself.
Sorry, but you're too young to be in that type of situation. So many men out there, what makes this one special? Lose him and lose him FAST!
2006-10-23 22:59:41 · answer #5 · answered by hairstylist1970 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definately. You will never be first. I am "l"egally married to my husband and we are quite happy and he loves our 2 children more than me. He's told me so and I'm glad about it. Go find someone unattached to start a life, clean and easy. Mr. "middle of 30's boyfriend" has too much garbage in his life (not his s"o"ns).
2006-10-23 22:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by ecutepup 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably does, and should.
You shouldn't be dating someone who is not divorced - big mistake, as you are seeing. Also, once you are involved with someone - you get all the baggage, however wonderful it is - kids, ex, finances, etc.. At your very young age, I think you should be sticking with men closer to your age, who are also starting out in the real world.
2006-10-24 07:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He better love his kids more then you.I can bet he loves his wife more then you also.Keep in mind that he as a father is obligated 24/7 to do for his kids even if they dont live with him.
2006-10-23 23:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he does, as he should.
Maybe u should be with someone without baggaage...someone not MARRIED to someone else.
2006-10-23 22:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse he loves them more than you. Get over yourself.
2006-10-23 23:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋