He was dating her 9 yrs ago. Wait no, he would meet up wih her and f*&^. She was living with his best friend. So we know why the lie but why continue contact and lie to the new wife. Knowing she sd it was ok to have exs as friends. . He bought her gifts took her to dinner but yeh, there was no hanky panky so he says. OOp and lies about taking her to a concert. HE sd she bought tickets, I did not care whatever, Then I found out he bought them. Weird..
She never made it to the wedding shower... and could never anae to go to dinner when the wife was ableto join. hmm Opinions anyone? I even did IVF asking him are you sure you never were with her.. I didnot wnat lies in to my marriage and my babies lifes. UHG FOund out when I was 5 months pregnant. People suck.
2006-10-23 15:32:40 · 8 answers · asked by Susan P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortunatly it's divorce time. He will only keep lieing to you. That's my expierence from my divorce. My Ex-wife did the same thing. Chin up though life gets better. You'll look at things differently now but you'll be happier in the long run and so will your child. And whatever you do don't use the child to try and save the relationship. Thats not fair to the child.
2006-10-23 15:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by d2amondman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you just wish that men came with stats like on a baseball card? that way you know where he's been, who he's done and what his track record was. Unfortunately it's not that easy and it appears you've gotten yourself a fish that needs to be thrown back into the pond. Honey, if he's lying to you about the trivial things, God only knows what else he's hiding. The fact that she's still in his life, after finding out what they use to do, should be a huge warning flag for you. You are better than this, smarter than this and you deserve to have an honest man. This guy isn't cutting it....don't settle for him. Mr. Right is out there somewhere...it's time to let go of Mr. Right now. And I know easier said than done...you have a child, etc. However, you cannot hide the anger and distrust you already have in your question. Don't let it get the best of you. Your baby is young yet and will adapt much easier at this age. I wish you luck!
2006-10-23 15:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
via fact he replaced into worried of the spouse's reaction. The questions is, what's the subject? That he lied approximately dating her or invited her over? If the worst is inviting her over, what's the vast deal? Are you that insecure? And if the lie is the vast deal, it is beneficial to look interior the mirror and sweetness why he's afraid to tell you issues.
2016-10-02 21:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's either lying because he's guilty or he knows you'd be upset knowing he still has an on-going relationship with her; even if it's not a sexual one. Anyone who still goes out with the "opposite" sex when they're married, is only asking for trouble. I don't want to hear that you're only friends; EVERYBODY gets vulnerable one time or another. If MY husband did that, I'd tell him to either shape up or get out; no 2 ways about it. If YOU did that, I guarantee he would have a fit!
2006-10-23 15:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men have many reasons for lying, mostly its about not wanting to accept responsiblility , and not wanting to be accountable for this. i would say he is very much in a ralationship. men also lie so they won't have too admit it, to admit it would mean you had to stop it, and be accountable for it.sometimes we marry the wrong people, we think they are one way, and once we marry them we realiaze we didn't know them at all. i would not want another woman in my marriage, and if your hubby won't admit it, than you can never get to the bottom of it to work out anything.if it were me i would give him an ultamatium and than i would listen very carefully to his response, and if he wasn't willing to seek counciling, or he showed no remorse than i would be on my way to seek a divorce, and than i would move on.
2006-10-23 15:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People don't suck.....but your husband does.
My suggestion.......pack your husbands things in some boxes and move his stuff on the street......change the locks.....see a good lawyer because you need at least a legal separation and child support.
Once you're in control of your life......you will be happier.
2006-10-23 15:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sound like a nitemare!!!! Not enough details for an opinion,email me n we can have a chat apart from that goodluck
2006-10-23 15:39:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men suck !!
sorry
2006-10-23 15:36:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋