He is very willing to help out as much as possible, but I always feel so tired and finding things harder as I get bigger (currently 5 1/2 months along). We have a 2 year old, but I don't remember feeling like this when I was pregnant tthe first time. I guess we had less responsibilities back then. Anyone else feel this way?
2006-10-23 15:27:52 · 11 answers · asked by wendygirl1000 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Enjoy this time, and be glad he loves you enough to help:)
2006-10-23 15:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by ralahinn1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness, I could've written this question! Except for the part about feeling guilty! LOL
I'm 36 weeks along, with a 2-year-old, and my husband is taking care of most of the household chores nowadays. I remember feeling a LOT less sick and tired the first time around, and a lot more willing to help out.
Just remember that YOU are doing a lot of work, too, even if it doesn't look like it on the outside! Being pregnant is hard work. Make sure you let your hubby and toddler know that they're appreciated, and let go of the guilt. You'll miss all the help and attention soon enough.
Good luck!
2006-10-23 23:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by clueless: please be kind 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitley. Im 17 weeks and this is my 4th baby. I have a 9, 7 and 2 year old sons. I have been severly sick since I was 6 weeks and Cant do too much myself, and I feel guilty abou it, and I also feel guilty aboutnot being able to do to much with the kids. Im getting a little better, but Im STILL sick. I just know when I start to get away from being sick, I will be bigger and feeling too tired, then. Its will always be something. I also have high blood pressure. I just dont want peopel to think Im trying to take advantage or faking it, because Im definitley not. But I know some people do think that way of pregnant women because they dont understand. I completely understand how you feel.
2006-10-23 22:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I understand how you feel it is hard to let someone do everything for you. I have been on bed rest for several weeks. I can go for a short walk but most of the time I have to keep my feet up. I am 36 weeks and this has been going on since about 28 weeks. I just want my baby to be healthy and if help is what I need then that is what is top priority to me right now. but I know its not easy to sit around and nothing all the time. enjoy the help as I know alot of women who don't have the help. good luck to you and your family
2006-10-23 22:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by lynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We women are so trained from childhood to do all the housework, aren't we?
#1 you are doing something he can never do, growing a baby inside you.
#2 He' seems to be a good family man. Kudos to him. But don't feel guilty. Remember #1/ don't worry, there will plenty of time to help him, and I am sure you have already.
2006-10-23 22:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your first time pregnant you didn't have a two year old to keep up with! Thats why it feels different this time around.
You won't be pregnant that much longer, hang in there and when the baby's born you'll be working just as hard as your husband if not more so!
In the meantime try to make time for him to make him feel appreciated and loved!
2006-10-23 22:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by neona807 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy it...see being married as you probably know...is teamwork. You are a part of the team as much as he is, and right now part of the team is making another part of the family (aka: you). He knows this and understands this. Don't feel terrible for work he does for you, enjoy it. Let him pamper you by doing things for you. Let your guard down, and let someone serve you...because here is one thing I know from friends of mine who have kids (I will one day soon)...your time as you well know is already stretched. As a woman we are called to wear many hats in our employ, and at home is no different or lessened of a priority...if anything is the the highest priority after our husbands. But since we serve our guts out most times, it is hard for us to take the service from others. One thing I am learning to do is enjoy when my husband offers to do things for me..actually I have found it to be my primarily love language (reference: The Five Love Languages). Both of us actually happen to be "Acts of Service." So it is hard for both of us to enjoy it when the other serves the other...but we are learning and growing in this area.
Simply put...let him serve you. Enjoy it. Enjoy this time to yourself preparing for the new life about to come into this world. :)
2006-10-23 23:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by EoC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can tell you from the man's perspective that I help out around the house and with our son because I love and support my wife. HOWEVER, it is very important to let your husband know that you appreciate all that he's doing. (Of course, the occasional ******* does wonders too...)
2006-10-23 22:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by elibaker72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl take the advantage b/c there not that many fathers who are that devoted and helping out. Plus this is your 2nd you do get more tired . This is my 3rd pregnacy and this one is more tiring.
2006-10-23 22:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by mama 432 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal. You can't work. Your husband is doing all the work. I would feel bad, but you sould be happy you'll have a child.
You sould feel happy becuse he's willing to do it, it means he cares.
2006-10-23 22:37:12 · answer #10 · answered by blue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but like my husband reminds me, you need the extra help when you are pregnant. Let him help you.
2006-10-23 23:39:32 · answer #11 · answered by snape4good 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋