Been dating this man on and off for 7 years. About 2 years ago we decided we were going to work towards marriage, and had planned on waiting until we finished college to start planning. He got a job out of the country for 6 months...and ends up cheating on me with someone he works with - and now claims he loves her and they're in a relationship. We've talked on and off since I found out about 3 months ago...but it's mostly fights. I asked him to give me space. We went about 2 weeks without speaking then on Oct. 15 he sent me an email asking me to pick him up from the airport on Oct. 29. He said he needs to talk to me in person, but he doesn't want to talk until he sees me. I have mixed feelings about the whole situation. I replied to the email telling him not to attempt to contact me if he is going to stay with this girl or if all he wants to say is that he's sorry. He told me to just show up and hang on until we have a chance to talk...should I pick him up or what?
2006-10-23 15:27:14 · 20 answers · asked by smanthajm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you still love him and can be forgiving of him then you have nothing to lose by meeting with him. However, he could just be looking for a ride and a place to stay. Maybe even continue your relationship simultaneously while he has the relationship in the other country. Don't accomodate him. If he wants to see you ; then let him rent a car or take a taxi. You can be willing to go out with him but why should you cater to his needs? He has done nothing to merit courtesy from you. Let him put forth a lil effort.
Talk with him and see what he wants to say. The choice is all yours. You have an education to fall back on and can move on. Trust is a huge factor in a relationship and this one has a rocky start. Good Luck.
2006-10-23 15:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by kane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! Don't talk to him. Don't return his email. Don't pick him up in person. Don't take his calls. Don't do anything with him.
The reason he wants to meet with you is he feels really guilty about what he did. He wants to bring closer to the relationship and by talking to you, it will make him feel better and he will be able to move one.
Don't give him the pleasure or comfort of your conversation. Don't give him the attention he wants so he can move on. Leave him hanging... like he has know left you hanging.
You were faithful, he was not.
You know... if he feels bad about what he did and wants to deal with it... let him tell his new girl friend... let her deal with feelings. Chances are he won't talk to her about it because, he knows it will make the new GF insecure because he may do it to her.
Move on. Forget about this guy. Sour milk today put back in the refrigerator is sour milk tommorrow.
2006-10-23 15:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by BeArPaW_4709 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 21:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he threw 7 yrs away for a couple of months you need to stay away from him and don't pick him up he thinks you will always be there for him so he will continously do this to you so you need to tell him not to contact you and tell him to find his own way let him know that you are not going to be around to always help him tell him you have your own life to live and that you don't want no part of his because you don't want to get involved with him again and he does the same thing again find someone who will be with you and only you and good luck
2006-10-23 15:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by Rivelle W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. If it's bad news, like he's going to marry this other chick, it's just going to crush you. Even if he says he's sorry, this is something you won't be able to get over. You'll never get beyond this and you will always harbor some anger towards him.
Change your number and force your space. Good luck and hang in there.
2006-10-23 15:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by hairstylist1970 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me give you a little advice.
My first ? is do you for give him???
i you do let him know that so he would fell real ****** up.
now ask him what so important to him right now?
you or her.
man this is a deep ?
if you have mixed feelings about him you should not be afriad to tell him that. let him know that you need that space to think about
if he has the right to come and pick you up.
if i was you i would leave his *** hanging for a while
2006-10-23 15:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by nena chula 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that all depends on how you truly feel about him. It would probably be a good idea to go see him. If you want him back and he wants you back...then you two can work on that. If he wants to tell you that he wants this other woman, then so be it. Tell him good bye and good luck. This will give you closure. Either way, it would be good to do it. If you don't, you will always wonder what might have happened. Good luck.
2006-10-23 15:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by Cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wooooow, so YEAH, he obviously LOOVES the fact that he can just sting you along like a marrionette, making you do whatever he asks of you. F&%K his stupid ugly piece of white trash A#$!!! He's a dirty piece of nasty pond scum who probably is in all actuality, sleeping with more than just this girl, but probably a few on the side! He lacks commitment, OBVIOUSLY, in FACT, he's probably cheating on her with you now! Do you REALLY want to be caught in this nasty love triangle? Yeah you were in a long term relationship, but it obviously meant NOTHING to him seeing as how he had the gall to cheat on you, and NOW he's telling you to pick him up from the airport? Tell him to pull 10 bucks outta his a#$$ and call himself a cab, dirty lowlife piece of dirt... and YOU! How are you letting him even TALK to you? I wouldn't give him the time of day ever again! Once a cheater, always a cheater obviously and years from now, you'll realize all that time you lost in your life even associating with that loser and you'll blame yourself, when come on, look at the FACTS. Most men are trash, except some of us get lucky, like myself. ;-)
2006-10-23 15:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You think he is going to change? Wake up toots, he isn't. This relationship has been going on seven years too long. Tell him to take a hike! There are guys out there that are more valuable than this guy. If you go back to him, he is going to cheat on you again. Don't get yourself hurt . . . . . get over him and move on!!!!!
2006-10-23 15:32:17 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well he knows his way around and i am sure he can find a taxi. dont pick him up. he wants to talk then let him do it 'one of these days' when u r free
he seems the type that if u dont talk to him he will not leave u. so talk to him and get it done and over with it, u need to move on,
dont pick him but talk to him
2006-10-23 15:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋