is it normal for a 23 yr old girl to never have had a boyfriend? i have a normal social life, go out, have friends, graduated college, had sexual relationships (still a virgin but have done everything except for actual intercourse), but never had a real boyfriend? im getting older but i just cant seem to find someone thats interested in me? is this normal? what can i do? i feel so behind
2006-10-23 15:17:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
id appreciate real answers...not asshole comments
2006-10-23 15:20:54 · update #1
First of all, don't beat yourself up about this. There is really nothing to worry about. Worrying about this issue will make it worse, believe me, I speak from experience. I'm 34 and I reminisce about my 20's. And I keep going back to the same conclusion-I wish I had more fun/enjoyed my youth. Don't worry about "getting a boyfriend" because your 20's will fly by. You rather have great memories of traveling, learning about life, make remarkable improvement in your career, etc. instead of spending all your time and energy with just one guy. These are the years to take advantage of so many things, don't lose out on this. Now as far as still being a virgin. Dont sweat that either. Sex is so overrated. You sound like a wonderful person, respect yourself and demand respect.
2006-10-23 15:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by bbw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a girl who's had boyfriends she wasn't into just to have a boyfriend: STAY SINGLE UNTIL YOU FIND THE RIGHT GUY. Otherwise you'll just end up hurting a guy who may actually really be in love with you when you're not.
It's perfectly normal to not find someone who interests you. You have standards, principles and you respect yourself; these are wonderful qualities and you ought to be proud of that. And don't worry about being "behind". Finding the right guy isn't a competition.
And don't worry about being old, you're really not old! Besides, a lot happens in a short period of time. Think of all the things you did in the last three years. Now imagine all the things you can do in the next three years!!! Don't sweat it. Enjoy your single life, it's the best fun you'll ever have!!
That being said, don't forget to spend a bit of time getting to know guys before you write them off. Most guys aren't very interesting at first anyhow.
2006-10-23 15:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by Mmmmm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just 23!!Relax!! Its good that you are giving attention to things that matter.....so that when u r in ur 30's u will have wonderful memories...and something to look upon....who would want to get hitched up with a wrong guy and then get pregnant when u can do so many wonderful things which u can do only in ur 20s or 30s...i myself got married at the age of 27....i didnt have a serious relationship right till then....but when I met my hubby I knew he was the one....now its been a year and half and we are still very much in love!!! so hang in there....keep doing ur stuff, enjoy, socialize, travel, do what you love doing the most, learn new things and before you know u will find the right guy!!!!
Best of Luck!!!
2006-10-24 08:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by Gauri P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I think it is perfectally normal for a young women not to have serious boyfriends. If you think about how things used to be years ago, young people were encouraged to date many people casually so they could get to know themselves and others so that they would make a good decision on who to get serious with. Now days, for some reason, people encourage teens and young adults to get serious right away and go steady. I think that is so wrong. I am 32 nad married now and I had many serious boyfriends before getting married, but when I look back now, I wish I would have paid more attention to my own interests, goals, etc. than getting serious with guys. You are NOT getting old and there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. In fact, I wish now I had saved myself for marriage. Maybe it isn't that men aren't interested in you, but that you haven't found anyone YOU are that in to yet. You are not behind, I think you are more mature than most girls your age. Hang in there!
2006-10-23 15:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG girl it is normal!! Don't be too hard on yourself you are just fine! The fact that you haven't have a boyfriend just means that you like to be single or the guys are so stupid or just like to play with people and they are not looking for a serious relationship!! Just enjoy life! Someday the guy of your dreams will be with you any minute!
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2016-12-05 04:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by fechter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right guy will come along and then you'll know. You are still young and seem to have focused on the right things up until now. I was a parent by your age, so just continue what you are doing and you'll find someone. You have heaps of time!
2006-10-23 15:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by Abs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont stress mr. right will come around sooner or later. i never dated either, and yet i have been married for a year and a half now. just try to be spontaneous, if your the wild type go out to a club and get with someone, you never know the relationship might develop into something serious.
2006-10-23 15:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by tru_blu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal, you are only 23, that is young to me. Look the right person is looking for you right now, be patient you will meet him.If you are enjoying your life---ENJOY it.You sound like it is a full life.Maybe you don't need a boyfriend, you need a manfriend, that will become a husband for life....Happy searching........
2006-10-24 06:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't until both myself and my fiancee gave up looking and stopped caring about whether or not we were going to find love that we found eachother. You need to relax stop worrying about getting a boyfriend and just be yourself. Men are profoundly attracted to relaxed and confident women well, the good ones anyways.
2006-10-23 15:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋