Divorce, what should I do?

Question

I lost all trust for my wife. She has been talking and sending pictures via camera phone to strangers from the internet. I don't want that in my life. So I am leaving her. We both have a child together. I dont know what to do to save face and my child?

She wrote that she will not take me to court for anything i.e. child support or divorce settlement stuff unless I fight her for custody of our son. She signed and dated it, but I am getting a new one notarized signed and dated. Am I losing this fight? Help me.

She says she doesn't want just me to have to talk to. She wants other human companionship. She cybers with only 1 guy. Not 30 different guys. She got asked, but she tells them no. Why? "jealous husband, she tells them. But this 1 guys she did cyber 3 times with. I threated him, now he stopped. She is now sending pictures to an old professor from her old college that has a chub for her. Thats what he told her via emails that I read. What should I do? I hate my life!!! ARGH!!

TRUST IS THE ISSUE. I can't anymore. I love her, but I can't trust her ever again. In order for me to trust her, I asked her to lose her privacy till I feel I can trust her again. She laughed and said "No way!"

Answer 1

PRINT OUT ALL OF THESAE PIX AND SHOW THEM TO UR LAWYER, YOU'LL GET THE HOUSE AND THE KID AND SHE WILL BE PAYING U CHILD SUPPORT.

Answer 2

Don't jump in over your head just yet! Is divorce really the answer? Do you still love her or are you just so hurt right now that you can't see past the pain? You do have a child in this marriage. Someone here needs to be the grown-up. People are so quick to jump through hoops to end a marriage, a commitment between you and your wife before God. Realize that marriage is a covenant. It's a mirror of the way your relationship is suppose to be with God. Strong, loving, upholding. When your spouse falls, even into adultry, do you love her and your child enough to work through this? Picture yourself years down the road if your marriage were great...would you want to be with the woman you married, the one who stole your heart in the beginning? Even though it doesn't seem possible now, this can work! Seek counseling, even if it's by yourself at first. Talk to your pastor. If you don't have one, find one. Seek guidance through prayer and peace for you and your family. Ask God to reaveal sin in your life and in your family. Divorce is destructive in so many ways! How will your child grow up? How much better could it be if his/her parents are together? Be a role model and show this child that even when life deals you the worse there is ,to fight back, stand strong, and come out triumphant! Seek God, pray for your wife and your familys' salvation. Ask her to pray with you! Talk to her, find the problems. Is there something that's lacking in the marriage for her. Maybe there's something you can work on together. Sometimes, if the hurt person goes the extra mile and is the one to hold the relationship together, you can hold the entire marriage together. Contest the divorce if she files. Tell the judge that you want counseling and to salvage this. Be the bigger person and the better parent right now! Please don't do something destructive on top of what she's doing until you've exhausted all of your options! My prayers are with you! You can do ALL things through Christ who strenghthens you!!!

Answer 3

A child doesn't need to know all the dirt between the two of you. It is an adult situation that the two of you have to handle in an adult manner. The two of you will have to sit down and explain that you two are no longer going to live together and if the child is old enough say you are getting divorced. Otherwise, keep it simple. Make sure you have equal custody of the child, equal say in the child's upbringing, and continue to show love and concern for your child. It is never easy going through a divorce, but from a woman's perspective, you have every right to be angry and leave under the circumstances. Get a good attorney, and good luck!

Answer 4

You are angry it is understandable.
Did you ask her about her activities on the net? It could be harmless as well.
Why is she doing this? Did you ask her? What is she missing at home? Did you ever try to put yourself in her shoes? I would ask lots of questions. At least if you leave her - you've tried and will not have doubts like "what if...."

Do you still love her? If you don't - get a divorce. If you do - try to work things out. Seek help together. It does work for most couples.
I wish you lots of luck. It is not an easy situation

Answer 5

If you are unhappy with your wife.. you first need to ask yourself why did she choose to communicate with strangers. No marriage just breaks down in a day.

Secondly, your child did not cause this unhappiness, so you have to remember that and make sure that the child gets enough attention from both you.

So, even if you decide to get divorced, work with your wife in a way that your child doesn't adversely get affected.

Good Luck!!

Answer 6

Have you talked to her about all of this and how you feel? I think that should be your first step. Talk to her, try counselling. Don't give up so fast, but don't stay with her for the sake of your child. Marriages like that never work out. Good luck.

Answer 7

NO TRUST NO MARRIAGE! You can not have any type of relationship if you have no trust. Just think about your child. Do what is ever in the best interest for them. Make sure they have what they need emotionally from both sides.

Answer 8

if you have lost trust than there is really no hope and no need to go on, to save face leave with your dignity, don't call her, don't plead with her, don't try to get her to see reason, cause she already has this in her mind,we cannot control others, we can control how we choose to deal with this. just file for divorce, the sooner you get this terribble experience behind you the better you will feel. best to face it now than go back and try to reconcile and find out later it's happening again. so sorry for your hurt, good luck.

Answer 9

get coucelling and ask your wife to also get coucelling
above all keep your child out of this mess divorce hurts children more than it hurts parents if u must separate try for jiont cusony and not fight infront of your child

Answer 10

try counseling for the sake of the child. if that doesnt work fight for custody because she is bound to start bring these people home and that isnt something you would want your child around...

Answer 11

Before you throw it all away, you better talk to her. There must be a reason why she did that. Be thankful she has not done anything face to face. SAVE FACE and talk to her before it's to late