How difficult is it, really?
Any advice from experienced people?
2006-10-23 15:05:11 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what kind of struggles can I expect to face?
2006-10-23 15:11:49 · update #1
Expect moments of boredom and jelousy. Don't let that get out of control. You must trust your mate if you are to have a successful relationship. Remember your family comes first. Never take sides against your mate and keep your personal life private. Talk with him openly and don't make him feel like he has to constantly prove his "love" for you. Laugh together often. Be friends always.
2006-10-23 15:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by kane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can expect to cook at least 75 to 100 meals a month, wash and fold 20 or more loads of cloths during that same amount of time, vaccum, dust and strip the beds at least a half dozen times a month, grocery shop for the same dozen or so meals that your husband likes, tell him to get his feet off the coffee table a couple times a day, bring him his meals and glass of sweet ice tea every evening while he sits and watches football or golf, set the alarm so that you can be the first up to fix him some breakfast, while he gobbles it down and reads the morning paper all at the same time, ohhhhh yeah, he'll need you to pick out his clothes, find his shoes, keys, phone and comb, and that's just in the first month and just skimming the surface of marriage.......but you know what???? You will do ALLLLLLLL this and more too, if you really love one another, use 'soft' words to each other, show respect, trust, are always honest and truthful to each other and never allow your character to be questioned by your spouse or anyone else. Always remember that a person without character is no person at all!!!
2006-10-23 22:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by onemorchatykathy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look just keep everything open no secrets no hiden tresures, he is yours you are his, and the most sincere comunication. There has to be lost and lots of communication dont miss a spot from bed to profetional carrer, from what to wear to how was work. of course there will be some little thing that he may never know but just try your best. It is really not too difficult may be to start living with the person is very weir at first since you are away from home now but try to see it this way is a chenge in life and chenges have to be taken with enthusiasm cause is a fresh start that god gives us and with the person that you love, well what else can you ask for, dont you think.
2006-10-23 22:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by jonnybravo1965 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your future husband really does love you for who you are, he'll love you no matter what, and he will care about you a lot, and always be there for you whenever you need him, this is the good side of marriage.
Marriage is hard, you have to work at it, when there's a problem, you two will argue, and you have to find a solution to each problem that rises, can't give up, or marriage wouldn't last. Some problems last longer than others, but if 2 people keep working at it you'll eventually get through the hard times. and have to compromise with eachother, marriage is just like relationships, is all give and take, sometimes you give more than you receive, or vise versa. Enjoy the good times together, and get through hard times together, that's what marriage is all about.
2006-10-23 22:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its difficult.
not really. it actually depends on you and the other.
lets put it this way... if there is trust, loyalty and honesty.
of course there will be love. if its always there.. then it could be easier. learn how to work it out. there will be problems. of course! you cant help it..no matter what, just always stay strong till the end. ;] talk all the time. communication is a must. always talk everything out. dont make decisons so fast. just go with the flow. have fun but be serious. you know this isnt a joke. its actually a serious business :) expect the unexpected. dont expect your marriage to be perfect but it could be in your own very way... nothing's perfect. remember? so there. good luck!
2006-10-23 22:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by liliiian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage has all the potential to be either/both the most glorious and wonderful experience in this life, or the most miserable. You will generally get out of marriage what you put into it. We have a tendence to make of our spouse what they become to us. It is certainly a two way street and one that must be worked at very hard every day to be successful at. To have a mate to share all the pain and joy with is the most satisfying of all relationships and is worth the effort.
2006-10-23 22:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by hoover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage can be wonderful, but it requires hard work for both parties. Make a conceited effort to stay connected, go out on dates, sit down at dinner together and talk about your day. Don't get home from work, tune out and turn on the tv.
The biggest fights wil be a bout money - hands down. Keep a budget, work on your finances together. Marriage is a team effort. It completely requires effort from both people to work out in the long run. Can be very rewarding.
2006-10-23 22:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhmmmmm....are you already living with the guy??
The biggest mistake that people make is thinking that once you are married things will change, like if you don`t like something about the other person, that then it will magically change for the better. Expect things to be the way they are NOW, but always hope for AND work for The Better!!
2006-10-23 22:10:29 · answer #8 · answered by Roxie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the first year was easy for things like sex, and loving things, we felt like it was so new, but hard for things like talking without argueing as much, and being fair, those things have come in time. I've been married for 6 years, and with him for 9 years. I think marriage is great, and the best thing is, I feel so connected to him 99% of the time, he's perfect for me.
2006-10-23 22:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by petluvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can expect a different man after the ring is on your finger. Be sure to put him in his place right away. Do not let the your insecure etc crap fly when you ask him Qs be bold and keep him on his toes, do not let HIM make you feel insecure.
If he is worth keeping and he may be, then you should expect happiness, support and someone to meet your goals in life with.
2006-10-23 22:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by Susan P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋