church, workplace, or just some common problems that arise from the prejudice that is out there. Also, the difference in being transsexual as compared to a crossdresser..thanks everyone for the replies I got already. Anything is helpful, pick one thing near and dear to your heart...thanks again..Angie
2006-10-23 14:51:23 · 7 answers · asked by tahwneeangel03 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am a lesbian living in a small southern city right smack in the Bible Belt of the USA. I am not one to publicly announce my personal life to the world but when my partner and I are together we do get some funny looks. However, I have never personally had any kind of face to face bashing. The only time I've ever had an encounter was at a festival up in the hills of North Carolina and some teenagers said right out loud "They're lesbians" and me being the smarta** that I am at times leaned over and kissed my girl right square on the lips. Needless to say we got some looks over that but it shut the teens up quickly! LOL!!! My partner has had some traumatizing situations from her childhood and teen years about being gay. It was VERY hard for her and she still has a lot of emotional scars from it but as an adult she hasn't had nearly as much abuse or confrontation as she did as a kid and teen.
GOOD QUESTION!!! Nice to see some thought provoking ideas coming from people!
2006-10-24 03:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Acceptance is getting easier I think. My neighbours do not know that I'm gay. We have just moved into a unit block and everyone seems to keep to themselves so we don't tell them. If they see us out doing something together I guess then they will know. IT probably won't change them because no one talks to anyone anyway.
Church - I gave that up just before I came out. I still have my beliefs etc but didn't feel that I would be treated the same when I came out. It's a religion thing I think. Like they say - it doesn't matter where you pray it's how you pray etc.
Workplace was sinch. I took over this position from someone else who was a lesbian. I was on a traineeship at the time and for five months no one really asked or anything but then my girl went to hospital and I had to tell them so I could have some time off. They didn't care - I haven't changed because they know now. I love an easy going workplace.
Going out makes me feel different sometimes. I much prefer to go to Lesbian bars. People aren't too bad in the big smoke here but still there are some indifferences. I find that if I'm in a straight club getting cosy with my girl, nothing major, then the chicks look at us in disgust and the guys want to pounce us.
2006-10-23 17:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been accepted just fine. I've had a lot of support from my friends, even my boyfriend... I'm bisexual. I'm pretty open about my sexuality, but I never blast it from the streets. The parental units still don't know and I don't think they ever will because I know they wouldn't accept it.
A couple of weeks ago, I went to something called Queer Cafe sponsored by my school. A whole bunch of local LGBTQ organizations came out and we had students come out to the event. It was done so that my college community of LGBTQ students could feel like they have a place where they are safe and can be themselves.
There is still a lot of prejudice against us, though, but hopefully in the future, there wil be less violence and more acceptance.
Btw. A cross-dresser is generally considered to be someone of one sex who dresses as the other just because, well they want to. A transsexual is someone who feels that they are mentally/ emotionally/ psychologically one sex, but are trapped in the body of the other. Not all the time, but most of the time he or she usually dresses in the manner of the sex that he or she identifies with most.
2006-10-23 15:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by Stina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is pretty funny. I moved to Oklahoma 5 years ago because my girlfriend is from here. Her dad is a minister and they absolutely love me...I have never been more excepted than I have been here in the bible belt...don't figure. I work for a great company directv, they do not discriminate.. and they fire anybody and everybody in a heart beat if they have a problem with somebodies sexual orientation, religion, ect...I'm set. They even have same sex benefits. A cross dresser was hired the other day and although it's a little odd because he dresses like a woman but uses the mans restroom which is not comfortable for men..they can't say a thing...
2006-10-23 14:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate the community I am in now. I got to a job corps, an all female job corps, and they try to keep lesbianism on a hush-hush scale. They think if they pretend it doesn't exist, the feelings go away. Other girls, who are bigoted and hateful, dog us, and deliberately stomp on our feelings and our beliefs and yet the staff does nothing about it. Girls talk about their boyfriends and how sexy they are blah blah blah. But the minute one of us says "I don't date men, I don't enjoy having sex with men." We get slapped with a fine. There is nothing that can be done about it. I've gone to several staff members, to no avail. I'm so glad that I'm leaving in 2 months. Hopefully I'll be happier at my next residence.
2006-10-23 14:56:38 · answer #5 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i live in a small town in Texas so my bisexuality isn't what i would say openly accepted in my high school. but I've fought my way through the haters and i don't really fear being harassed anymore... other than that i don't get many problems out side of school.
2006-10-23 15:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by allen=[\m/] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in Ontario, Hamilton. We are very accepted here .... Quite happy :-)
2006-10-23 14:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by Nurse KeVo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋