1.He's not even my boyfriend.we're just friends,
I'm 19 &I have had only one sexual partner and he is deceased, and I dont plan on having sex again until I fall in love or get married.Sex is very sacred to me, I planned on having sex only when I got married but I love my boyfriend and I were so much in love we made love. He's been decease now for a year and one month.
This other guy and I are just freinds & would be talking and he would say stuff like , 'I wanna taste u' Or 'Just let me try it u'll like it'
And i would laugh and brush him off and say 'U're so crazy!' and contiune the conversation.
He's been doing it for a year now, and I just don't know what to tell him!
2006-10-23 14:47:14 · 21 answers · asked by Gifted and Gracious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My condolences on your loss.
I hate to be blunt but this needs to be said - he isnt your friend. If he was just joking around once or twice it'd be less unacceptable. However, he has been continuing to ask you and put you in an uncomfortable (and possibly dangerous situation) for over a year. This is sexual harrassment and I dont want to scare you, but there is every possibility that one day he may not take no for an answer. Stop spending time alone with this guy. If you can (and want to of course) it might be high time that you stopped hanging out with him altogether. Females are bound to get "suggestive comments" from close male friends, however it's how it makes you feel at the time and you are obviously uncomfortable about it. Before you delete his number from your phone though, you might want to tell him straight out that his suggestions make you uncomfortable and that you would like him to stop permanently. If he doesnt do this, it would be time to make a new friend.
Congratulations for making the mature decision not to sleep with anything that moves ;)
2006-10-23 14:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by roman_goddess_venus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People only do to you what they can get away with, and ultimately in the end what you let them. Its a hard lesson i've had to learn and worst of all what goes along with those kind of mistakes is after awhile of complaining about things happening to you people dont usually feel to bad when you could have just stopped talking to him, dont answer the phone, demand respect or he doesent get the privlege of having you for a friend! Plus someone with your values on sex is rare these days so a real friend would respect that about you, I also think since he's a guy basically he just wants what he cant have, some men enjoy in a sick way breaking girls down slowly and finish it off with a bang, so stop it now!!!!
2006-10-23 14:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's your friend, and a good friend, then if you, in more respectful and subdued way tell him kindly to, KNOCK IT THE HELL OFF, he should gracefully take your request and refrain from continuing the barage of pleas for oral sex, or any sex for that matter. IF he gets pissed off, then he's a jerk and you don't need him around. If he cares about you, he'll respect you enough to stop with the horny remarks.
2006-10-23 14:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by The Cuke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get the feeling he's not the one for you, but if you want to keep him as a friend, tell him you just want to be friends and that his sexual innuendos make you uncomfortable. Oh, and good for you on your view on sex. I wish there were more like you.
2006-10-23 14:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get lost. You don't need a friend like him. He's been trying for a year now. He's just waiting hoping you will say yes. He's no friend so like I said tell him to get lost. And then you move on.
2006-10-23 14:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to back off. If he can't respect your wishes about sex, then he's not a friend. Tell him why you don't want him to give you oral sex and if he still don't get it,ditch him. You have a right to do whatever you want with your body,stand your ground.
2006-10-23 14:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want him to do it say "NO". I think you should be concerned. He obviously wants more than just a friendship and if you are not ready be involved with him romantically, now is the time to talk about it.
2006-10-23 14:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by reslstancelsfutlle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SIT HIM DOWN AND EXPLAIN TO HIM YOUR FEELING ON WANTING TO WAIT FOR THE RIGHT PERSON, ALSO TELL HIM THAT AS A FRIEND HE IS BEING VERY DIS RESPECTABLE AND MAKING YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE, AND IF HE DONT STOP IMMEDIATELY THAT THE FRIENDSHIP BETWEEN YOU WILL HAVE TO BE PUT ON HOLD.
2006-10-23 15:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by regina f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend loves it. It really depends on the guy. Some guys love it, others hate it
2016-05-22 03:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you have a permanent yeast infection. ;)
No really, tell him that you are not interested in getting initimate in any way, shape or form with him. Period.
2006-10-23 14:49:38 · answer #10 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋