What are the real elements of an "old school" marriage? I tried asking this and no one is really hitting on one of the most essential points. What could be wrong?
2006-10-23 14:45:00 · 27 answers · asked by devotionalservice 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why no one is able to give a complete answer to my question about old school marriage?
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2006-10-23 15:02:05 · update #1
You can say "traditional" if you like. Some people still practice this to some extent. But, there is one little element everyone is missing. If someone can mention this they might win this QA.
2006-10-24 02:26:08 · update #2
Thanks for all the answers. I had some idea of what the answer would be to this question. But, this is helping me to expand my understanding of a question like this.
2006-10-24 02:42:48 · update #3
Depends on what you mean by old school.Could be that the wife stays home,husband goes to work.When he comes home there is dinner waiting for him on the table.Wife does all the house work and he brings home the bread.Either way you look at it,both are doing a job,and both are working together to make a home.
2006-10-23 14:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already have the answer, or at least the one you want.
An old school marriage could be a couple of different things. You might be looking for the situation where a man rules the house, makes all the decisions, requires his wife to be subservient. Not the type of things that will work today.
You may be talking about commitment, about fidelity, about a love shared with God. The type of marriage that after 50 years together still shines.
I don't know, you didn't really give specific information in your question.
2006-10-23 21:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Complete devotion to the union. Back in the day, family was the number one priority. But today, the need/want to make money has taken precedence. Therefore, the family life takes a backseat. Then, people actually took thier vows seriously " for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health". Now, its " or until things get difficult". Nobody wants to put the effort and work into a marriage. Divorce is as common as changing your socks. Then, to be divorced was a sign of failure.
2006-10-23 21:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An old school marriage in my experience is when the man works outside the home and the woman takes care of all the domestic chores, including children. The man is the head of the household, and usually has the say. Women of these marriages usually don't work outside the home and respect there husband for his role. I think a perfect example of this is "Leave it to Beaver".
2006-10-23 21:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by june clever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I think of "old school" marriage, I think..wife stays home raising the children and the man goes to work and is the main bread winner. The wife is like a soccer mom, very involved in the children (s) lives, and the husband is the strong arm. Kinda like the 60's type family.
2006-10-23 22:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by hairstylist1970 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in a lot of cases the old school marriage where one of the male dominating over the woman, woman had their place in the home and in the relationship, and both men and woman accepted those boundaries. ie that's a woman's place, or a woman's job etc. with the advent of the woman's liberation movement those old school stereo types where exposed for what they were, glorified role playing, showing no respect towards woman at all. their was no equality in the marriage, woman where treated more like servants in a lot of cases. many eastern countries are still tied down by them, ie irag Iran etc. the christian principle of love if applied in all things would give balance the woman would be equal, a partner in all things good or bad, real or unreal, there is no woman's place or mans place.
2006-10-23 21:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by redsyoungstud 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll give it a shot. Trust, mutual respect, good communication, the ability to compromise and fidelity are essential. True love endures, so sticking it out and staying the course through thick, and especially thin is what committment is all about. Also, being able to agree to disagree when you don't see eye to eye on issues that you feel strongly about.
2006-10-23 21:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, you already have a clear idea of the answer to your own question. Why are you trying to test everyone here. Perhaps its a language barrier. Try using the word "traditional" and you might get more results.
2006-10-23 22:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by kane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old school, variously spelled old skool, oldschool or oldskool, is a slang term referring to an older school of thinking or acting, and to old objects in general, within the context of newer, more modern times. Rather than carrying the negative connotation of obsolete, it may be used to refer to a time of perceived higher standards or level of craft. The term "old school" may be effectively equivalent to "They just don't make 'em like this anymore."
This is why it is difficult describe old school marriage.
2006-10-23 23:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The ladies will kick my butt for saying this but....
1. submission from the woman - letting a man be a man. accepting the man as the head of the household and that he is the ultimate person responsible for her well-being and the family. she trusts that her man is handling is job. it is important to note that no man can be submissive in nature if a man is not truly doing his job. b/c submission is not forced.
2. sacrifice from the man. - includes spiritually the family is going in the right direction by leading through example. this happens through direction of finances and making sure he doesn't squander. he will have to sacrifice his time to his wife and family without question/complaint.
2006-10-23 22:32:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋