My father-in-law abandoned his house and moved in with one of his daughters(that's a seperate long story but still relates to this). He then had a heart attack. So everyone who could has pitched in to help with his bills. One of the other sisters continuely pulls the guilt tripo on my husband-who said he'd pay the storage fees. So even though things are tight she's calling here freaking out because this months is late. She and my husband start screaming at each other onthe phone. My five year old is cowering inthe corner. I've had it up to here and went to her house and told her to leave us alone and if she wanted things done on time in her way than she should be the one paying that bill. Was I wrong to go over there? If we paid the bill my kids wouldn't have winter coats this week(it's 35* here already) and my van wouldn't be drivable because it had bad brakes - I wouldn't have been able to get my kids to school. Hence now you know why we're late on the bill.
2006-10-23 14:37:58 · 19 answers · asked by puzzleraspie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
They were all aware the bill was late as we told our father in law what was going on and we also told her. She told my husband she wasn't gong to help out with paying anything any more and she didn't care if he lost his things and my husband from ther on out said we'll figure out a way, even though we couldn't. Personally I think we are all wrong. But when they're fighting and my children are cowaring because of the way they are handling it my first reponse was to go over there and give her a pieceof my mind.
2006-10-23 14:52:02 · update #1
No you were not wrong. I am sorry to say wait no I am not, your kids and family comes first. You can help all you want with them so that his bills are not behind. Well in the mean time your kids suffer and your bills are getting behind. Your father in law is living with someone and you have you and your family. Stick to your guns and keep your family going. If your father in law goes tomorrow (I pray he does not) but you still have your family to worry about, if you paid on his bills and not on yours would your in laws help you out, probably not they will say sorry. Stick with your heart and your family. Good luck!
2006-10-23 14:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by ocean1moon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had every right to yell at her. Personally, I would have done a lot more then just yell at her, but that's just me. I would let her pay the bill, it's not your responsibility, your family should come first. After all of that, I would probably change my phone number so she couldn't call and cause anymore problems for you.
2006-10-23 14:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by pain_is_poetry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you weren't wrong for putting your husbands sister in her place.
your family is suffering because of her. It would have been better if your husband would have told her himself, but I understand you'd had enough. and you were concerned about your children having coats to keep them warm, and having a vehicle that's safe to drive them to school in.
Is there any way of selling your father-in-laws house to help with his bills, and take some of the burden off of all of you?
that's something to consider, and as far as your husbands sister, I'm sure the two of you can work things out. just explain to her how she upsets the whole family when she has one of these outbursts, and that her behavior is not acceptable. and if she wants to keep having a relationship with your family she can't behave like this anymore.
Good luck to you
2006-10-23 15:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crapola your pissed! I would be too!!! She really needs to back off and pay the bill if she has an issue with why it's done, you dont have to put up with the crap, she is not your boss or your mother... you and your family deserve some respect here, dont have any thing to do with her until she can grow up, just pay the storage and take any late payments up with them, really is none of her busyness...
2006-10-23 14:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe next time youre going to be late paying the bill you should let her know so someone else can take care of it instead of risking his things being locked out so no one can get to his stuff. Just be considerate and honest about it.
2006-10-23 14:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your children come before anything else if she has a problem with that tell her that she need to take that up with you but before bills get paid the children needs certain things and for that you will never be wrong in telling her that she should pay the bill
2006-10-23 15:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by Rivelle W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly. Stop paying for the internet and wasting your time on here if there are bills that need to be paid. I think that you had a right to get mad at her for harrassing you but if I were you I wouldn't say things like... you'll have to pay yourself if you don't get the money when you want it. She may end up taking you to court. The way I see it is this... Get medical insurance and then you don't have to worry. Jesus.
2006-10-23 14:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You were right to go over there. She caused your son to get scared and is making your home life crazy. All she had to do was call and ask why instead of causing a big mess. You are doing what you can, but you have priorities.
2006-10-23 14:42:47 · answer #8 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was right for you to tell her and let her know but maybe you both can talk and figure out something so that you both pay half . Or maybe she could give you one of the smaller bills for you to pay.
2006-10-23 14:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by AlLySoN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your kids come first no matter what. you should'nt go over there its only gonna cause you and them more grief. focus on your little family first. storage dont need warm coats or new brakes or food in its tummy. and she shouldnt have called, if she had a problem with it then she should pay for it.
2006-10-23 14:43:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋