I'm 20 yrs old and pregnant...how do I tell my parents?

Question

i'm 7 weeks pregnant and i haven't told my parents. i'm so afraid to tell them because they would never expect this from me. My bf and i have been together for 4 years and they love him but i come from a family where you go to school, get a degree, get married, and then have kids. and they're religious too (but not overly religious).
i'm just dreading having to tell them (and my grandparents too)....it makes me sick just thinking about it!!

Answer 1

I would just tell them, you think you might be pregnant first, to get them adjusted to the idea you might be

Answer 2

You know what?! I had the exact same problem! My parents sound just like yours. I am 19 and I have been with my bf for 2 yrs. I thought my parents were going to freak out to. I am also the only child so you know how that goes! lol...But to my suprise they werent mad at all. My dad was a bit dissapointed that I didnt get my life together first, but he came around after a few months... I mean started to rub my belly and stuff. My mom on the other hand, was very happy to be a grandmother. She was also feeling the same as my dad, but said there is nothing she can do about it and people learn from their mistakes. Good Luck! Dont overreact like I did. I worried to much about what they would think, but everything was fine in the end.

Answer 3

Not that long ago I was 20 and pregnant. I thought about just leaving because I too dreaded telling my parents. I didn't have that long of a relationship with the father to top it off. My best advice would be to sit down with your parents with your boyfriend and just tell them- We didn't expect for this to happen at such a early time in our life but we need your love and support. Yes they probably will be upset but they will get past that sooner than you think. Don't make the mistake I did and tell everyone but my parents because soon enough it got back to them and they were more hurt and upset that I didn't tell them myself. If you would like to talk, please don't hesitate to email me. [e-mail]

Answer 4

This is hard thing to do for anyone that has parents that want nothing but the best for their child(ren). You mention that they are religious, that is going to be the key right there. You get down on your knees and pray that God will give you the strength to speak with you parents and guide you thru this . I know it seems like a dumb thing to some , but at 17yrs old had to do the same thing . I he took care of me . (All things are possible thru God ) he has never given me more than I can handle although it seems like it at times . You know parents want the best for you as their baby , and them being into religion , God will give them the heart to forgive and accept this blessing that you are going to share with them . Pray about and it know that all will be okay and well

Good luck

Answer 5

I think that the fact that you have at least been with the guy for a long time will make things easier for them. Babies don't have to change college and career plans. They will understand, and I suggest not waiting too much longer to let them know. Take your boyfriend with you and the two of you tell them together. Have a plan, tell them how you two plan to stay in school and continue on while raising their beautiful grandbaby. Tell them how you plan on paying for things like daycare and diapers. It may take them by surprise, but they will be happy in the end. Congrats and good luck.

Answer 6

I was in the same situation but i was twenty two when it happened and my senior year in college. way to finish right. Anyway it was easier for me to talk to my dad about things so i told him first but i was on my way to school and he was at work. He didn't freak out. I told him not to tell my mom and he didn't so my boyfriend told her because she was really crazy about him. That made it better for me. you should try it. Good luck

Oh and it doesn't mean that you have to get married. A lotta people say you should because of religious views but the point was marriage then baby. if you're not ready don't do it because you're pregnant regardless of what others say.

Answer 7

look if it helps dont think of the what they going to tell you just think , iam going to tell em and thats the way it is , in other words put your mind to it. there is nothing you can do, i mean if you and your partner have talked about this and decided that you're sticking together in this. then dont worry ,you're parents and family love you they wont feel dissapointent youlll see that when that baby is here they will be so happy!, you know why iam telling you this because that was me 11 months ago!.a baby is the best thing that can happen to you. Trust me that is a joy!!

Answer 8

i does no longer get engaged and then tell them, it is going to likely be obtrusive out of your dates which you already knew. Your mom and dad are not idiots. i've got self belief the place you're coming from, my now husband and that i've got been residing jointly for 2 weeks when I found out i became 4 weeks pregnant, I under pressure approximately telling mom and dad, yet waiting did no longer make it much less complicated. I informed Mum first and then Dad, as he became the single i became quite afraid of telling. He became quite calm when I informed him, His instant expectation became for Hubby and that i to announce our engagement, at that factor nevertheless we weren't engaged. in case you want to have the toddler and intend on elevating the toddler jointly as a pair then the two be modern-day while the information is broken on your mom and dad. Your boyfriend will could step up as a guy and enable your dad comprehend that he loves you and is going to be there for you and the toddler. tell them then which you had already pronounced marriage formerly realising you knew you have been pregnant and tell them the way you intend to handle the area. it is complicated and stressfull, your mom and dad will come around and ofcourse they are going to love their little grandchild. Be reliable, wait untill after christmas in case you sense greater suitable approximately doing it that way, yet you are able to't sidestep the inevetable. To all the people answering this that have pronounced abortion, informed Claire she is in simple terms too youthful and pronounced shotgun weddings: i became 20 when I got here across i became pregnant for the 1st time. I informed mom and dad. My now Husband proposed while i became approximately 8weeks alongside(to my ask your self) and now 7 years on we've 2 eye-catching toddlers, our very own residence finished with a private loan and characteristic no longer regarded returned. So the timing is slightly off, that does no longer recommend the top of the international. we adore the undeniable fact that we are finished with the toddler stuff our buddies are in simple terms beginning as much as income approximately, that we are going to nevertheless be youthful while they depart abode and that we've achieved the wonderful element by our young toddlers and raised them jointly with out any regrets.

Answer 9

Just be honest with them. I know it is difficult. Telling parents things that we think are scary enough as it is for us, can be pertifying. But one thing I have learned as a daughter of my parents...despite how disappointed they were...if I withheld or delayed certain information from them that they needed to know about, the harder it became for me. And the more is tinkered with my mentality on it all. I began to think they would disown me sometimes (I had my own deals, not pregnancy, but it was terrfiying enough to have me think this extremely), they would never talk with me again, they would make me feel guilty the rest of my life...and yadda yadda. But when push came to shove, when I just made the decision to tell them the truth, not only did it come easy to me to say what I had to say...they actually were more receptive to me than me trying to hide something from them; or tell a flat out lie. The truth will always be more freeing than anything else, so the best thing to do in this situation...just suck it up, put on your big girl panties, talk with them, and tell them the truth. No matter how they react or respond (and believe me, you will know if it is a reaction or response...reactions tend to be more negative. Repsonses tend to have more positive notes to it.), just know you did the right thing. The truth is always the right thing, even when we think it is not...is always is.

Answer 10

I was 20 when I told my parents and I waited 3 months!! Make up your mind on what you will do-keep or adoption. Talk to them about the "plan" you and your BF have-where to live, working, insurance, daycare, schooling...go in like a mature adult with the conversation. They may be mad but they will get over it. Good luck.

Answer 11

No....you're sick because you're pregnant...ok, not funny. Just sit them down and be honest. Tell them you don't expect anything of them, but love and support. Apologize, if you need to for not doing things in the right order, but assure them that you and your BF are committed to raising and loving this child and ask that they understand. My prayers and best wishes for you and your family (all of them)