my new roommate for instance...he just comes home from work, if he goes at all, and sits in front of the television for hours on end! no conversations, no telephone calls, email, nothing! its nearly impossible to talk to him! whats the deal?
2006-10-23 14:31:24 · 15 answers · asked by shinglezach 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Sounds like he's simply an introvert. That doesn't mean that he doesn't like people or doesn't have friends. Maybe he's just one of those who needs to rest his brain after work.
2006-10-23 14:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't going to answer this question, but at the same time, I couldn't just let it go.
Notice how everyone says what THEY think is wrong with someone they've never even met? Also pinpoint how some people even tell you what's WRONG with him.
I hate to say this, but YOU are probably putting way too much weight into this. He is a roommate, not a best friend, not someone seeking a friend, etc. LEAVE HIM ALONE! My goodness, it's like people in close quarters can't have their own life without others feeling offended by certain actions. We see that in the bigger portion of the world now as it is.
Let me ask you this, and I'm sorry if I seem a bit rude; what makes you so special that your roommate HAS to talk to you? Why should he take time out of HIS life to fill up YOURS? Has he even hurt you by the things he's done?
Sounds like to me you are upset because he's not paying you any attention. He's probably trying to better his life and that has nothing to do with you. He's there to do just that, not make friends. You're paying WAAAAAAAAY too much attention to him.
2006-10-24 00:03:33 · answer #2 · answered by Miss P. Square Pinky Swear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's untrusting and has issues...give him time and let him know your their for him as a friend...he'll begin to trust you...poor guy. Plan a party for halloween at your place that will help bring him out a bit. He might be gay and feels if he says anything you'll reject him. No matter what the reason this person needs a friend.
2006-10-23 22:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is shy. Try watching television with him and ask him questions about the show - see if he will interact with you through that which he enjoys.
Good Luck
2006-10-23 21:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by soulful thinker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I blame a lot of this on childhood. Many kids who feel 'different' or 'outside the norm' tend to get picked on in early childhood. as they get older speaking up in class becomes difficult because they routinely get ostracized and made fun of for what they say, even if its correct, or makes sense. Adulthood shyness stems from a deep rooted sense of low-self-esteem, and in many cases is lifelong. My advice for you is to try to make conversation as often as possible, be supportive of whatever he/she says (in terms of his/her hobby's, feelings, and interests) don't use negativity-associated terms when talking to him, for example if he tells you he likes to watch "this-show" don't say "why". ask "how come". better yet, pick a show you like and relate it to his... if he likes CSI, and you like NCIS, tell him that. open up, be supportive, and he/she will follow. Good luck
2006-10-23 21:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by kris5449 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone else might just as well ask, "Why don't some people ever shut up?" :) People are different, period. The fact that someone isn't like you doesn't mean there's something wrong with him.
2006-10-23 22:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wise remain silent.
2006-10-23 21:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has nothing to say.
Some people talk because they have something to say
Some people talk because they have to say something.
2006-10-24 03:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be uncomfortable, or he mnay be just shy. some people are like that. still reach out though he might crack one day!
2006-10-23 21:36:58 · answer #9 · answered by yellabanana77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably wonders why you have to be talking all the time. what's the deal?
2006-10-23 21:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by sunnymommy 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋