I have been marry for 27 yrs and wow oh wow do i have problems first my husband has a drug problem and have been spending all his money then his brother moved in with us ( he does not have a job he gets like 200.00 every two weeks in unemployment), then his niece got sick and you guess it she came and stayed with us along with her 2 teen age children. I have a 6 yr old and a 16 yr old of my own now there is 7 people living in a 3 bedroom home. I am thinking about leaving but i do not want to move my kids because this is there home I have a strong believe in God but right now i feel like he just does not know me right now. Any advice would be good right now.
2006-10-23 14:22:40 · 13 answers · asked by stef 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
More PRAYER, sister...your patience is now tested, not by God, mind you...trials come our way but to those who endure to the end , a crown of life is his/her reward, wouldn't you like that ? There is nothing impoosible for God to do and in his own time, he will see you through...at times we may think that God does not care that is why he allows problems to come our way, but I assure you, he does...at times you may worry about your husband harming you guys because of him being a drug addict..but mind you : Psalms 34 ...the ANGELSof the Lord encamps around them that fear ( honour ) him...I believe situations like these are allowed by God to make us more stronger in our relationship with him..be assured he does not forsake those who are his... Think of Christ on the cross saying : Father , why hast thou forsaken me ? Did God forsake him ? Of course not.. so God is like that...be patient and more loving to your children by not leaving them to perish... they need both of you... to your inlaws, love them for God may provide a way for them to see the light and turn and be saved...at times we may think as to what salvation is worth when problems are so heavy to carry and God seems so far away ?...Psalms 34 : 17 ...when the righteous CRY ,the Lord hears and delivers him from ALL hi troubles... The key word is RIGHTEOUS...you have to set your relationship with God straight... call... and he delivers... May God Bless you as I pray that he will...
2006-10-23 15:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by srjione 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your husbands brothere a suit and a job application far,far away and force him to take the job.(something easy because you know those kinda people are a little stupid) DO NOT GET A BLOODY DIVORCE you are ruining your childrens future. If you have family tell your husband that u r going to visit like ... your mum and that when you come back the whole fiasco shall be finished. And i really hope that your niece has health insurance if not well why doesn't your niece have a home. Get your husband into rehab if u have insurance its free pretty much. so out goes niece and kids and brother in law and husband everybody has a bed wala!!! tada!!
2006-10-23 14:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Nicholas M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorced. To no longer be married seems like some thing is fallacious, despite the fact that a unmarried character may have a pleasurable existence, preferably a youngster involves be at a few factor, and for me, now being a daddy proper within the center of household is among the such a lot existence changing matters to ever occur to me. At forty five, and unmarried, you could as good move with a fine glass of wine, after which do all you'll be able to as a unmarried character to make this existence some thing distinct.
2016-09-01 01:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The easiest thing to say is "GET OUT". BUT...you need to say that to all the deadbeats living with you. Think of the discomfort you are causing your children. Leaving would stink at first but then they would enjoy the time they have with their not so stressed out mom. I would serve my brother in law and his family with a formal eviction notice. Then, if they do not leave, the Police will gladly move them for you. If your husband doesn't like it, he can go, too. If he is using, have him arrested and don't bail him out. I believe in God, too and trust me, God will take care of them as you need to take care of your kids and yourself.
2006-10-23 14:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by bballmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I think u should leave, (with ur kids). If uv tried talking to him and he just acts like he dosent care then y should u. U have kids to worry about. And staying with a situation like that bcause the fathers invoveld dosent mean its the write thing to do. Then best thing to do is teach ur kids whats the write thing to do no matter how hard it might be.
2006-10-23 14:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to get help or get out. You are enabling him to live like this. You must put your children first and take care of them. This is not a healthy environment for your children to live in. God helps those who help themselves. Good luck to you.
2006-10-23 14:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ceajae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST TELLTHE HUSBAND TO GO TO REHAB AND IF HE EVER MESSE WITH DOPE AGAIN HE IS OUT OF THERE. NEXT TELL HIS RELATIVES THAT YOU ARE NOT RUNNING A HOUSE FOR THE NEEDY AND THEY GONNA HAVE TO FIND SOMONE ELSE TO PILE UP ON. ITS NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO CARE FOR ALL OF THE FAMILY DEAD BEATS. LOOK YOUR RELIGON WILL ONLY CARRY YOU SO FAR AND LOOKS LIKE THE END OF THE ROAD IS JUST UP AHEAD. YOU HAVE TWO CHILDREN THAT NEEDS AL THE SUPORT YOU CAN GIVE THEM NOW AND YOU DO NOT NEED THE EXTRA BAGGAGE
2006-10-23 14:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by roy40372 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not responsible for these people or their problems, and there is no future in a man who does drugs.it is just too stressful to have that many people living in your home, ask the people to move out, than don't allow anyone to move in again.
2006-10-23 15:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to nicely tell the brother and the neice that it is just to cramped with all of them in the house. Tell them that you will be more than happy to help them find a place but they have one month to find somewhere else. Explain to them that you have issues going on in your family that need to be dealt with and you can't focus on your family with them there.
2006-10-23 14:26:33 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have a meeting with everyone and make plans on what everyone will contribute to the situation.
2006-10-23 14:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋