why is it that whenever i do something nice for my girlfriend she says she doesnt care and is very Unappreciative and she's only nice when the mood sits her she says harsh things for no reason whenever i get angry at her she makes it look like im the bad guy and starts crying. when i try to cheer her up she tells me to leave her alone and later on she'll say why didnt you help me
whats wrong with her? also she has very low self asteem
2006-10-23 14:21:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She is Probably Playing Mind Games, Let her Go, she seems dramatic and in need of Attention and you don't need that!!!!!
Some girls know what they are doing, trying to use and abuse the nice guy, Toughin up with her and she will straighten out and get her act together, if not then she is just in the relationship because she knows that you were not going anywhere
Or maybe she just has emotional Problems!!!!
2006-10-23 14:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone starts taking your for granted it's time to reevaluate how much you do for someone.
Remember crying whether a baby does it or your girl does it is a way of getting attention. If you're not doing anything wrong, ignore all that drama.
If you want to stay together, you mutually have to appreciate each other. Sometimes when you're too nice to someone they take you for granted. Don't be mean, but kindly tell her that she's pushing you away with all the ups and downs of your relationship. Tell her that you need some time to think. I bet she'll change her tune when she realizes she's going to lose you. If she gets mad, she'll either get over it or she'll be setting you free to care and shower your affection on some other deserving lady. There are so many women out there that would love a man to do nice things for her.
As far as low self-esteem, if your attentiveness and caring doesn't raise her self-worth (although you should never rely on anyone to raise your self-esteem) then her problem is deeper than you realize and you can't fix that.
Don't put up with but so much drama from anyone, especially when you're not married to that person. In the long run, it's not worth your time, that goes for family members as well.
2006-10-23 14:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by indepwman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is to break up with her because she is only making you feel bad and she is always angry and the fact she doesn't know how to appreciate you is telling you that she doesn't really know what she wants and if someone don't know how to love themselves first they can't love anyone else so she needs to love herself first before she can be in any relationship and when she does this she can appreciate anything you do for her and if she is always depressed all the time or always in a bad mood you need to make her go see a doctor so they can perscribe something for her and tell her whatever is bothering her she needs to tell you because it is making you seem like you are doing everything wrong and that the relationship is going nowhere you just need to be honest about how you are feeling so you won't be feeling that you are the bad guy and don't blame yourself she just needs help to with her self esteem and good luck to you
2006-10-23 14:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by Rivelle W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound pretty nice so there's nothing wrong with you..it's her..
she doesn't know how to communicate at all. Do you seriously love this girl because you need to show her that you don't like what she is doing at all. If you end up dumping her don't feel bad..she may come at you and say horrible things but you deserve someone better..
2006-10-23 14:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by HIMpunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probly trying to impress her friends. She might even be embarrassed when your around her while she's with other people so she says harsh things. She probly only wants attention. I would say its time for a new girlfriend. (and you're not the bad guy)
2006-10-23 14:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might be afraid to get to close or share her feelings with you. . . let her know all the time that you are here for her and you wont leave her. Try and talk to her about it. . .if she starts crying then you should break it off she doesn't deserve someone who puts everything they got into a relationship and cant decide what they want
2006-10-23 14:51:00 · answer #6 · answered by AlLySoN 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her know it's bugging you. Judging by your description, it looks like you could save her from getting hit by an SUV and she will still tell you to leave her alone. She could have a medical problem, so there is that to consider. So anyway, confront her, and good luck.
2006-10-23 14:26:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mood Swings! All girls have them, her's are just out of control. If you don't love her, leave her. Why let her stress you out if you're not the problem? If none of that works for you, try slipping her some prozac.
2006-10-23 14:49:50 · answer #8 · answered by pain_is_poetry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
does she have bipolar disorder if don't know this could be a possibility and if that ain't the case then sorry maybe you just need a new girlfriend best of luck to you
2006-10-23 15:14:04 · answer #9 · answered by kristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be anything has she tried counseling. how is her homelife maybe she is pushing you away for a reason that she doesnt know just do what you can but dont push her away and let her know that you are there
2006-10-23 14:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋