i guess i have really always been a jealous person only when it comes to relationships though. Its almost like i expect for my girlfriend to only want to talk to ME and spend time with ME. I get upset if i find out she was on the phone with another boy or even if i find out that she called another one of her friends before calling me. It could possibly be because we do go to diffrent schools nad dont get to see each other often, i dont know i just want her all to myself. I know that this isnt right but i just cant help it...its like a disorder or something. Can anybody else relate to this or have any strategies to help me get over it?
2006-10-23 14:19:04 · 9 answers · asked by Morris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was that way in high school. You have to deciede not to be that way any more. And yes you are going to lose your girl over it if you dont change. If might seem strange to you but you have to start not careing so much. Best for you is to break up with her . Thats what I did. Then I was never jelouse again over a girl. At least not to the extent I was with her. Of coarse she was a big part of the problem. She craved attention and was hot enough to get it , from everyone!
2006-10-23 14:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by us citizen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...I can relate...except for the phone calls part. you have to realize you are wrong and that you should trust her. She obvisouly loves you and cares about you since she is with you. Dont worry about the others guys, but do tell her how you feel, and when you know she called her friends before you, let it slide, she could of been returing a call. theses are little things to be worried about ppl have other serios things to go by and you should be blessed about who you have and why you two should become stronger as a couple. god bless hun.
2006-10-23 14:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by old 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can most diff help with that one. Just think about it y do u treat her that way. If she wanted to be with somone else she would be with somione else first of all. And all ur showing her by acting like that is that u have no confidence in ur self, and all girls love there man to have confidence. Ur also pushing her away, if she can be with a guy who loves her and also treats her write y would she want to be with u when all u do is treat her like u dont trust her and like she done somthing wrong. Trust me if u dont stop acting like that she will leave u for somone who can treat her the way she deserves to be treated. So do the write thing and get over ur insecuritys.
2006-10-23 14:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be jealous because your girlfriend has guy friends. Your infatuated with her, meaning your selfish about the relationship. Maybe you should back off a bit? Tell her how it makes you feel about her having guy friends. If they have always been her friends, and never anything more and things like that. Because if your girlfriend has dated some of these guys, maybe she still has a thing for them (not saying she does, so please don't think she's still into them). But I think you should just talk to her about it.
2006-10-23 14:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by Rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if you have trust issues. Jealousy is a secondary feeling to mistrust. Either you don't trust her in some way or you don't trust yourself. If I were in your shoes, I would first take a good, hard look at myself and see if I mistrust myself. If that isn't it then I would take a look at the reasons I might mistrust my partner. It could just be as simple as a fear of being alone or fear that you might lose your partner. If that is the case I would try to seek professional help to get over those fears.
2006-10-23 14:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by kimberly m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my journey, jealousy comes out of your human being incorrect doings. which signifies that you're jealous of someone because, YOU, your self has carried out some element incorrect. i might want to get help. there is no thanks to have an outstanding relationship with someone if you're this way. believe me when I say this, she will be ready to get truly drained of this before lengthy, and then you're left with in difficulty-free words your self. i'm no longer attempting to be advise, in basic terms authentic. you actually might want to work out someone. solid success!
2016-12-05 04:01:45 · answer #6 · answered by fechter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are jealous because you are insecure about yourself. you don't trust who you are. You probably think you are not good enough and your girlfriend will eventually realize it and dump your ***, so you freak out about it. You need to learn to be proud of who you are and be confident that you are good enough for your girl. If you are confident and secure you won't be jealous of what your girl is doing
2006-10-23 14:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by tightlies 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are on the right track by acknowlegeing this as a problem, if youre not this way in other areas of your life....maybe its just insecurity with the females......which is understandable....dont let it ruin your chance at happiness in the future....focus on your positive traits..and let your confidence shine through!.....best wishes
2006-10-23 14:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to put it blutly. hell yes. if your girl is spending time with other guys or the other way around; just take a pill. try telling her the way you fell. she will understand you.
2006-10-23 14:23:29 · answer #9 · answered by abowens2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋