Hes an older guy in his late 40s/ early 50s, and i wanna talk about my personal romantic life, and my sex life, or lack there of (not in detail eww, but, personal relevant problems) BUT, i dont know how to just start TALKING about it, and I feel kinda embarrassed, cuz hes a guy....an older guy.
AHHH HELP! Professional opinion ecouraged, and welcomed!
2006-10-23 14:13:52 · 15 answers · asked by woah 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
That's exactly what you tell him. Simply say, I am a bit embarrassed about this, but I would like to discuss my "personal life, if that's okay with you. And although you'll "be" embarrassed initially, as you start to talk, you'll also start to relax, okay? Go ahead, you'll be glad you did. Good luck.
2006-10-23 15:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey that's what he is there for, you are not comfortable with him, maybe you need a female therapist to talk to, I feel the same way about a GYN doctor, it must be a woman, I can relate better, a woman really understands, a man just says he understand, but before you "kick him to the curb " wouldn't you like to know if he is qualified, willing and able to help you. You will never know unless you ask...40 or 50 is not old you will find that out 1 day..The worse that could happen is for him to say "NO", If that happens ask him to recommend someone, he is a professional. Don't feel embarrassed, he is there to give you advice , right...and that's what you pay your money for... utilize his services.........good luck
2006-10-23 14:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by wndybcktt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an "older guy" and a former psychiatric nurse (17 years worth), I can assure you: If he's been a therapist for a long time, there isn't too much you could tell him that he hasn't already heard. Your problems are probably shared by countless other young people, and us "older guys" went through a lot of the same stuff you're going through now. Look at it this way: Not only are you getting the benefit of his training and skill, you're benefitting from his life experience. Just talk to him.
2006-10-23 14:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by weary0918 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could bring it up in a few ways
1. ask him if there needs to be someone else in the room if you talk about "gily" things
2. try not thinking of him as this older guy who talks with you.. think of him as this program that is trained to listen and give feedback.
3. find a close friend to come with you and sit with you while you Bring up GENERAL talk about it then next time you already broke the ice just bring up an topic or example from the time before...
i am sure you don;t want your friend to know all your details so that's why i said general things just enought to bring it up.
Good luck
2006-10-23 14:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don`t worry so much. That`s why he`s getting paid, its his job. If he`s in his late forties or early fifties and he`s a therapist, he`s already talked about things like this with other patients. Don`t be embarrased, he`s there to help.
2006-10-23 14:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a lady therapist, you should be able to talk to someone your comfortable.
But really therapists are a waste of money. Find a good friend you can tell anything to. The advice they give you isn't anything special, it's mostly talking about whats going on that helps you out.
2006-10-23 14:49:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see 2 choices.
#1......Tell him exactly the same way you told us, and let it go from there. If that doesn't work,
#2.........Find another therapist you can talk with.
#2 part2.....You may want to check with some of your friends or other professional people you know for opinions of who is good at it.
2006-10-23 16:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by bob h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a professional and knows how to deal with topics like that. Anything that he can learn about you that will help him to understand you better is beneficial to you. I can understand that it is hard to just start a discussion like that, but try it like this, "Dr. so-and-so, could we address a more personal subject today?" He will probably say sure, and ask you what you want to talk about. There is your opening! Hope that helps!
2006-10-23 14:25:10 · answer #8 · answered by Lilyothvalli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an older guy huh? Well I am 70 and I remember exactly how I and people my age felt about things. Nothing has changed. You can talk to me and I guarantee I won't get judgemental. I am sure he won't either. If he gets judgemental, walk out.
2006-10-23 14:26:31 · answer #9 · answered by jekin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what the therapist for---listen---hey pay me--I'll listen for half that price......
why don't you ask the therapist for an evaluation---
including your "romantic" life..
most men older has done more than you can imagine and heard ten times more lurid details...
you can embarrass yourself but not a therapist...
you're getting cheated...
find a drunk buy em a drink and they'll listen.
2006-10-23 14:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by cork 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋