well i lyk my bff. YES, HE IS A BOY! should i ask him out? i dont want to risk my friendship with him, tho. once, he did ask me 2 da movies, but his dad is real strict and wouldnt let us go together. n once he told me he liked me. wen he told me that, it was the last day of 6 grade. now im in 7 grade. does he still like me? we hang out with eachother all of the time and everybody has been thinking we're goin out...theyve said that since 6 grade cuz we havent left eachothers' sides since. we havent even fought b4. should i wait until we r both 16 to ask him out (cuz thats wen he is allowed to hav a gf) or should i just go on wit my life? i lyk him so much! sumtimes it makes me cry cuz i lyk him so much n i cant get him. is that normal?
my other question is bout da same person. he is black n i am wite. he is not a "gangsta" or anything lyk dat. my friend thinks it is rong to go out wit sum1 of a differnt skin color than u. is that rong? n then she makes fun of me cuz she thinks we are
2006-10-23 14:11:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
goin 2 get married cuz we hang out so much n she says we r goin to hav "dalmation babies". i mean, i dont mind a little teasin lyk that, but she is serious bout it! wut should i do bout it?
2006-10-23 14:12:15 · update #1
First if you really like him tell him how you feel, and let him know that you will wait till your 16 to date but at least be honest so you don't end up with a broken heart. And second race doesn't matter I'm white and my sons father is black and my son is beautiful. Your friend sounds pretty racist even if she's not trying to be mean she's still wrong and if she doesn't stop than she's not someone you want to be friends with.
2006-10-23 14:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey girl- Don't worry. You are only in 7th grade, but you have a little crush and I think its cute. I just want you to know that I think you should tell him that you like him. Tell him you want to be more than friends, and tell him you want to give it a try, and if it don't work then you can just be friends. And girl- don't worry about what other people think. Your friend is wrong to make fun of you and your crush. If she was a great friend she would be understanding and all. Tell her please don't make comments like that and it hurts you- she should understand. Just have a personal talk with her. And NO it isn't wrong of you to date a black man if you are a white girl. I am a white girl and I have a black man. He is my life and my everything. He isn't a gangsta either. Not all black men are. So girl- date the boy! I wish you the best. I just had my son- he is 25 days old now. And he is a little cute baby. He isnt very dark- but he isnt white either. He is a beautiful color. I wish you the best girl. And if you ever want someone to talk to you can messege me on yahoo messenger or yahoo email at: lil_soldier_girl_18@yahoo.com
2006-10-23 21:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by lil_soldier_girl_18 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In response to the first question, you seem sort of young to be dating. Just be friends, and it will come in due course if it's meant to happen. There is no need to rush it.
In response to your second question, your friend is a dork. One of my best friends is black (I'm white), and we've dated before, too. Certain members of my family have problems with this, and they are no longer a part of my life.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with going out with someone with a different skin color. There's no difference in the DNA. It's just genetics. You sound like you're really close to him, and you need to cherish that relationship, because those only come a few times in your life. I know that my friend is one of the best things that has ever happened to me.
I know I used to like my friend. And he liked me. And we dated. And we nearly had a kid together (a false alarm). And now we're just very, very close, a very loving pair of friends. He'd do anything for me and I'd do anything for him.
Good luck.
2006-10-24 14:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st question- you should wait until his sixteen. Mu mom didnt let me go out with a guy until I was 15 but I still went out w/ one w/out my mom knowing. Now that im fifteen I have one and everybody knows and theyre happy, always saying he is my 1st bf. Then i feel guilt in my mind, i know thats not true. Any ways you should wait until 16. Because then youll have to hide ur relationship and thats NOT cool! It's better when everybody knows and celebrates together. If u gus really like eachother hug eachother and stuff & make him promase to be together always. Then 16 HURRAY!
IT NOTHIN WRONG BEING DIFFERENT COLORS, WHAT MATTERS IS LOVE. dOnt LISTEN TO ANYBODY BECAUSE by listening to them u wont get what u really want.
Good luck!
2006-10-23 21:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by ADE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until you 16 to start dating, everyone is getting pregnant at a young age, and yeah I think your friend is right about mixed relationships....I don't go for it either...I think it is wrong...You should just move on with your life, and think more about your schoolwork instead of guys...It will help in the long run...I know, I use to hate it when people would tell me that, and I didn't listen to their advice, but later in life, you will understand what I am talking about...Don't try to grow up too fast, slow down and live life a little, you be glad you did!!!
2006-10-23 21:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by afinechic_2000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes if you really like him u shud wait till you're 16 when he's allowed to have a girl fren
and the thing about having dalmation babies is so immature
there's nothing wrong with irracial relationships
you fren is just well maybe she's just jealous cause she doesnt have the same relationship as you do
follow your heart
2006-10-23 21:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by Kappy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are soooo young and not experienced at all!! Dont even be worrying about men because you will be having to deal with them for the rest of your life!! Take the time that you have now to figure out who YOU are, dont try to grow up too quickly. Keep your innocence! I definately regret getting mixed up with boys and trying to think my life revolved around whether they liked me or not. Go read Seventeen Magazine and forget about some boy, there are 6 million boys to pick from.
2006-10-23 22:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IF YOU FEEL LIKE HE IS WORTH WAITING FOR THEN BY ALL MEANS HOLD ON FOR DEAR LIFE. IF YOU THINK HE IS JUST KEEPING YOU SO CLOSE BECAUSE HE CANT DATE YET AND MAY LEAVE WHEN HE GETS 16 AND FREE TO SEE WHOM EVER HE WANTS THE YOU REALY HAVE TO THINK WHAT ARE YOU GETTING OUT OF THIS? ARE YOU HAPPY MORE THAN YOU ARE HURTING? IF HURTING IS WHAT YOU FEEL MORE THAN DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU UNTIL HE CAN DATE TO SHOW HIM WHAT HE MAY HAVE LOST AND WHAT HE MAY NOT BE ABLE TO LIVE WITHOUT! EITHER WAY NEVER LOOSE YOUR FRIENDSHIP! THAT'S WHAT MEANS MORE THAN ANYTHING! AND ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS...ONLY TIME WILL TELL!!
2006-10-23 21:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by KRISTY S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u know wut, i really think our "friend" was rong 2 say dat, i m wit n have had 2 blak bf, n i m only a freshman n high skool, both relationships turnd out great and not for a second do i regret it...and i think u sud go ahead and c if he still lyks u (probable) then ask him out wen u 2 r alone..
2006-10-23 21:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by sturgis 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fist of all, if you like your bff, find a time that you are alone and tell him. You dont have to literally go out just hang out at school or at home. And about the black guy you like, WHO CARES? so what if he is a different skin color/ your friend needs to shut her mouth b cuz she wouldn't like it if someone said something like that about her..like oh i can't go out with you because you are taller than me or fatter or whatever! DONT LISTEB TO HER! take a deep breath, and no matter what happens, life goes on. And if it is meant to be, it'll happen. You just gotta HELP it happen.
Hope I helped!
2006-10-23 21:18:24 · answer #10 · answered by la. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋