My boyfriend just became best friends with my... best friend.. they want to spend time together alone.. and he is treatning to break up with me if I tell him he cant hang out with her, and now she hates me.. and i'm fearing they are starting to like eachother... and he doesnt want to stop being friends with her...How do I get rid of her for good? I want her gone... how do I do it.. I want him... not him to have her..we have been together for 4 1/2 years and I dont want to dump him..What do I do?...
2006-10-23 14:10:57 · 8 answers · asked by pwned 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ur in a tight fix. if they want each other odds r they're going to get rid of u. however, u can kill her which may drive ur bf away but at least he wont have her right? ok being serious. i think its a lose lose situation and im sorry ur in it. however, u can have a minor win. if u r gracious and dont try to stop ur bf from going to ur friend then ull still have them as friends.
2006-10-23 14:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by The Evil Drummer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like ultimatum time. You say to him calmly and unemotionally (because men only listen when you're firm, calm and concise), I'm uncomfortable with your relationship with so and so. The two of you act as if you want to be more than friends and this is not an option for me. In order for us to continue seeing each other, either we all spend time together or you can see her without me. Your bf is being inmature and personally I think they've already slept together from the way this reads.
The funny thing is a man would easily make this decision if it came to you and another man, he'd let you go. You need to do the same. Don't be a doormat, be a steel magnolia. Kind, mature, yet firm with your convictions. This situation to totally unacceptable and you teach people how to treat you. If you accept this situation, worse things will happen. There are men out there who won't cross that line with other females.
2006-10-23 14:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by indepwman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the lady you point out isn't (and in all risk on no account became) fascinated in you as a bf. right here is the element; once you first meet a woman which you quite want as much as now, you mustn't act like yet another considered one of their girlfriends, or a lovable doggy they could take abode. For the main area, ladies have an interest in adult males that come off harder and greater beneficial. some people say that it is maximum suitable to have a friendship first yet it quite is a bunch of bull*&%$. no person needs to be buddies with somebody they're fascinated in. If a woman is going to grant you a guess, she would be able to do it perfect away. So, the subsequent time you meet a woman you have an pastime in, my advice is to ask her out on a date perfect away, yet no a#s-kissing! in simple terms attraction and manly self belief!
2016-10-16 08:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't tell anyone who they can or can't hang out with. All that will do is drive him further away. If he ends up with her then he was never really into you anyway and do you really want to be with someone who doesn't care about you? The reality of life is you can't control anyone else.
2006-10-23 14:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I'm sorry but it is YOU they are going to try to get rid of. I know that is terrible, but if she were a true friend and he really cared about you they would keep their friendship casual out of respect for you.
Please just let them both go and do NOT let them see that it bothers you.
2006-10-23 14:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all you have to believe in yourself, Do Not force yourself on him..if this is how he is now then this is him 10 yrs from now. if he does not respect you for you, and she does not either get rid of them both,, and before you get rid of her, give her a piece of your mind,, and make it clear" what goes around comes around"...Most important here is you, be at peace with yourself and stop the worries
2006-10-23 14:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by Rosa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try talking to him. See what he wants. See if he is interest into your friend. Follow your heart. Don't let hi break your heart.
2006-10-23 14:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you want to get rid of her for good ehy.... i say you call her up ask her if she wants to hang out take her to an abandoned building and... MURDER HER.. make sure you do a good job at it.. first torture her alittle for getting with your b/f then KILL HER.. and discard of the body properly and clean off any evidence..
2006-10-23 14:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋