Does anybody think it's a good idea to write someone in prison like through a penpal exchange? I've always been attracted to the "bad boy" type of guy and this seems like the best place to find one. I'm 18 years old but I'm still in high school and I live in a small town, and there aren't any other gay people that I know of, so I thought this might be a good way to meet people. Has anybody out there ever written to a penpal in prison or had a similar experience?
2006-10-23 14:10:26 · 13 answers · asked by Tyler_Boi 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Do NOT get involved with ANY inmate. They are incarcerated for a reason. Don't feel sorry for them. They are master manipulators. You will soon find yourself being asked to send contraband. Simple things like stamps are used in gambling and as money. A book of stamps in the prison system is worth about 100 dollars believe it or not. They fight over cans of mackerel even. You are very young; it might take you moving to a bigger city to meet others who have the same interests as yourself. While a person can come out of prison and change his/her life it takes time to prove that. Everyone in prison gets religion but only a small fraction actually change their lives. You don't want to be part of that prison world. An inmate will tell you whatever you want or need to hear to get you to trust them and do things for them. Once they get their hooks into you for the little things they will fast move on to the bigger items. I can't stress it enough.
DO NOT BECOME INVOLVED WITH INMATES.
Rehabilitation doesn't occur behind those walls and they are commiting crimes within them on a daily basis. It is a society in and of itself.
Get involved with your education. Pursue a career. Volunteer etc...Keep yourself busy.
2006-10-23 16:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by kane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are generally in prison because they have done something very wrong, Usually they have done a lot of things wrong because it takes many infractions for them to wind up where they are. Just because you are over 18, doesn't mean that you have the emotions and personal boundaries that won't be damaged by befriending such a person. They are usually masters at manipulation and lying and while your faith is admirable, I would find another way to make a difference and leave this one for someone with a lot more life experience. Help the homeless, or a woman"s shelter. these are people who may have been incarcerated at one time, but have been screened professionally and judged to have some understanding of what they have done and how to overcome it. Too many young and impressionable girls have been sucked in by young male offenders who want a sugar mama or will romance a woman with various promises about how "you have made me a changed man" Sorry, but most people are who they are and the risk to you and your safety is a higher price than I would hope you would accept.
2016-03-28 05:35:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to meet people try penpals that aren't in prison. I would never chance it because what happens if they ever get and have your information. If you have a P.O. Box then that's different. But I wouldn't go seeking companionship with a convict there are plenty of other places you could try on the net.
2006-10-23 14:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't write to a penpal in prison. It is not the way to find a "bad boy". There are reasons they are in prison and you probably don't want to be around that. Go to a website like hotornot.com or myspace.com and find local people that you can chat with that aren't in jail.
2006-10-23 14:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by jshepard17 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would like to share with you what had happened to my friend who exchange letters with an inmate. First, she got so excited to have him as friend. Later as the years went by, their friendhip turned into love relationship where he promised my friend that he is going to marry her as soon as he is released from prison. Well, the sad thing about this penpal thing, was my friend's heart was broken because she was deeply hurt by the incident of this man going back to his wife . I just hope this wouldn't happen to you or to anybody. good luck.
2006-10-23 14:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't have a prison pen pal. Try for foreign maybe, like Thailand, France, Canada, Philippines, Singapore.... You may be pleasantly surprised at the cultural exchange.
No prison dudes.
Good luck.
2006-10-23 14:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am writing a friend that is gonna be in prison for the next 6 months.But that is only because I know him.Do not start writing people you don't know that are in prison.It could be dangerous.
2006-10-23 14:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't write to someone that I didn't know in prison, but it's your choice. I know people on the inside and I write them. But honey, finding people in prison is not a good start to finding someone to get to know. Go on my space. And you can click on the browse tab and click the advanced tab and you can find what you're looking for, girl boy, gay or straight and in your area. BUt trying to get to know someone in prison like that isn't a good idea. Remember, they are in the inside for a long time or for the rest of their lives, and will tell you anything for you to send them money and then when they get out some of them will go to your house! I know because my uncle is in prison and he wanted me to look for some lonely person that can he could sweet talk them into putting money on his books. But I refused to help him do anything like that. I wouldn't write to anyone I didn't know, and if you still do, be cautious... I know writing a letter sounds harmless, but I have heard numerous incidents with people who got mixed up with people in prison they didn't know getting scammed or set up. Your chances are better finding a guy on the internet than in prison honey.....
2006-10-23 14:17:51 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
to be honest it is a waste of time some home one line or in letter people evencally get reall woked upi over each aother and it can lead to you being manipulated.
2006-10-23 14:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by ats02171 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not the best way to meet someone, especially if you are looking for a relationship.
2006-10-23 14:13:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋