Within me, subconsciously I find there is an endless search I've embarked upon to discover "the ONE"---- AND its just PATHETIC!
It affects how I present myself (in dress, manner and appearance) and how I seem to always "look around" (without noticing it really) to see who's around me to hopefully spot someone good-looking
Some days I just wish I could never FEEL anything, just so I wouldnt have to worryabout trying to find love or waiting for it to find me.
BUT don't get me wrong, I'll always believe in the parent/child love or sibling/sibling, friend/friend type of Agape love. ----Just NOT the Man/Woman (or if you have other preferences) Romantic love.
2006-10-23 14:03:07 · 11 answers · asked by What gives? 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
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2006-10-23 16:01:22 · update #1
Death is..,
No. We aren't "always looking" if we trust that we have it and our perception is not clouded by insecurity. When you believe that you are loveable, and wait with assurance that you will attract love, ..somehow, there it is! Ever have things fall into place in an unbelievably simple way and you know you had no hand in it? I hope you've experienced that. EVERYTHING works like that. That is the most wondrous quality of life.
2006-10-23 14:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know what you mean. I personally don't even believe in UNCONDITIONAL love at all. MAYBE between a mother and child but even then I'm not so sure. (I understand you didn't say anything about unconditional love however I do undersant what you're saying too)
I believe the reason that we are always looking for love though is because human beings have a big fear of being alone. Even if people won't admit it, I think that it is one of our biggest fears as humans. So that is my answer. I don't think that we want to be ALONE.
peace and blessings
2006-10-23 16:19:55 · answer #2 · answered by Amaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume that you refer to sexual love, or sexual attraction.
In my opinion, your quest for love is an expression of your fear of dying. It is a primal urge, but dwelling too much on it can blind you and lead you astray.
You should recognize three facts that may add depth to your quest:
- Nobody is perfect. It is unreasonable to expect perfection from anyone or anything.
- Even though you may find what you think is 'perfect', during the course of life he will change, and you will change also. It is like looking at the river - although it may look the same, it changes with every drop of water flowing through.
- Nobody owns nobody else. You should not belong to anybody. Allow yourself free will. You will be pleasantly surprised.
The Middle Age chivalry tales brought this idea of idealized romantic love to the forefront. Hollywood grabbed it and popularized it.
My opinion is to widen your circle of friends. Don't settle on just one person, not right now. Travel around a little bit. Open up your mind. Be easy (to take to bed) (birth control mandatory). Build up your self esteem.
2006-10-23 14:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by m_skokin 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We are social animals, and have a need to form bonds for procreation, safety, strength, common enterprises, etc. These bonds always involve trust, and love is the highest form of trust. But it's usually reserved for a spouse, as they give us more of what we need in life than any other relationship. And we rely on their trustworthiness almost more than on any other living thing.
it's the desire to find that person, and maintain that bond that we call searching for and experiencing love.
2006-10-23 14:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by Grist 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only way anyone found love was to stop making it the goal in their lives. The goal should be to contribute to society, to learn and stretch yourself, to become a fully developed human who is comfortable with being single.
Concentrate on your interests, talents that you would like to pursue or improve. Read classic English literature. Really get to know your friends. Eat a new food each week or each month.
It takes two whole people to make a lasting couple. Don't focus on trying to find Mr.Right. Concentrate, instead, on becoming Miss Right.
2006-10-23 14:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
If u have love i think u always hope it will get stonger not weeking in time.
If u don't find it, i think u always want to even though people say they don't but they feel it inside, a feeling of needing something more but can't find it
2006-10-23 14:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mysterious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we are just looking for a piece and love is a weak, deabilitating human emotion that is often confused with this. You just need a little practice to overcome the illusion of love and life can be good with just finding a piece.
2006-10-23 14:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by NONAME 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I think that is a yes.AM in the mid's 30's am still looking for love.
2006-10-23 14:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is in our nature to search for emotional security. only the lucky ones find love with it.
2006-10-23 14:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by Eryc 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We are always looking for sex. when you find love, you may look at some one but it's not love your seeing, it's lust.
2006-10-23 14:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by Bear 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋