My fiance and I have been together for about 2 years and we have an 8 month old baby boy..... I love him completely and while I dont think sex is the most important part of a relationship, i think it is still important on some level. Problem: he gets off WAY too quickly, I mean in about 30 seconds or less its over. No joke. I never minded before.. because he can keep going afterward. But now... I want it longer than that!!!! And, once I know he came, I am out of the mood completely and dont want to keep going. I told him about how i feel and he feels absolutly horrible about it... but he doesnt know what to do to fix it. Our sex life is going way downhill and its causing other problems because of the sexual frustration on my part. Is there anything he can do to stop from coming so quickly? And anything I can do to just .... keep going ?! I just get so turned off when he does is finished LONG before I am..... i dont know... help PLEASE!
2006-10-23 13:59:24 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there are ways to cure this. From medications to pinching a certain part of the body, he can be cured. Also, it's said that alot of guys get better at controlling this with age. In any case, this site talks about all the stages of premature ejaculation and ways to handle mild to severe cases
2006-10-23 14:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by thedaybear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him please you and make you have an ....... first and then he can. Also could it be that he is just trying to rush because of the baby? Have you thought about having some time by yourself? Family or friends to watch your son while you have some time alone? Also there are also other things you can do. Like having longer foreplay. Foreplay is very important. I think is is hard when it is Wham, Bam and then thank you mam. Change the room you are in? Spice it up with some fun sex toys? Something has to change or else you will wind up getting so frustrated that sex will no longer be fun for the both of you and only a chore. Yes sex is important in any realationship. I know things change after having a baby, but you need to still make the time to make this a priority so you can have a healthy realationship with him.
2006-10-23 14:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by hehmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the first time I've ever answered a sex question. Sorry they just weird me out! But, I have (had) the same problem. The old wham bam thank you ma'am. It's surprisingly simple. Kind of a learned response but it is completely out of his control. First, get him to wear two condoms. Yep I said two. They have to be the correct size too. Too small and the effect is nullified. Next "have fun" but request that he think of something completely different. This means your in control and on top. You however must give 100% focus on achieving orgasm first. Like it's a race! You may not get there first on the first few times but after that things get better, more focused. Then the cool thing is you lose one of the condoms and start all over again. Then once this is achieved you lose the last one. Then focus again. After awhile he learns the lesson of stamina. Note: I was told in the beginning to do this two to three times a day until he starts to get control. If this doesn't work, at least I will probably be your husbands best friend ever.
2006-10-23 14:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see the movie, "There's something about Mary" one solution the guy had is to do it once manually so it would last longer when he was doing it again with the woman. Maybe you can work on someting along these lines. Instead of getting out of the mood, maybe starting over again is the solution.
Hey, I'm shooting in the dark on this but I hear Viagra really works! I mean like really. He might have to go for three with this stuff
Maybe you are just simply too sexy.
2006-10-23 14:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by cpaulw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know whether this will help as I've not ever been in this situation - but I have heard that tantric sex does help to prevent this type of thing happening due to the fact that both partners need to restrain themselves and limited touching actually takes place and the whole thing is taken very very slowly with you both gradually building up to more physical touching. Perhaps this would help your fiance hold off a little.
2006-10-23 14:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by Kble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first how often do u 2 have sex, if its once a week thats the answer. if u want it to last longer then u have to have it more often. im guessing that this is probably the case, if not then try this do something to get him of first, with the condition that he will do something like go down on us after wards, then get him excited again and he WILL last longer the second time. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-23 14:04:16 · answer #6 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is important on a level if he his coming to quick, maybe both of you can talk to your doctor about a depression pill called Zoloft its the 5's or 10's mg they can always hold it for the man and sometimes if he makes his self get off earlier that day then when you and him have sex he can go longer.I no because i had that problem with my partner.
2006-10-23 14:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by blondie5480 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what have tried? There are lotions and condoms on the market that are supposed to make him less sensitive. This sounds to me like one of two things: 1.Psychological. 2. There's something wrong with his works.
2006-10-23 14:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by Iron What? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say if he masturbates before you have sex that he will last longer when you have sex. There are also certain toys that can be used. Good Luck I hope things work out will for you and your finance.
2006-10-23 14:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try using a condom...that usually takes the sensitivity away.
Maybe you could go down on him and get him off first, then he may last longer.
2006-10-23 14:02:49 · answer #10 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋