Why do so many women and girls ask how to get back a cheating boyfriend or how to get revenge instead of having the self respect to hold their chin up and say hes not right and just move on. It may hurt to have this done to you but is it worth the emotional energy that can be spent pursuing a relationship that gives you the love and respect you want?
2006-10-23 13:55:47 · 18 answers · asked by eric s 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Low self-esteem. Being controlled by their feelings of pain instead of simply moving forward.
Sure it hurts, but she has to deal with the pain. Many don't realize that the longer they hold on, the longer it's going to hurt. They think that by "hanging on" they could end the pain; if that doesn't work, they think that by hurting him back, it will ease the pain. However, what really happens is, "revenge usually kicks you in the a** somewhere down the line", thus hurting even more.
However, not only females do this, many guys do too. Especially, abusive males. Their tendency is to beat the woman in to submission, or even attempt to kill her, or destroy her face, just so no one else could have her.
That is not love me dear friends, that's obsession. Many of them fear being alone so they'd rather put up with abusive males and females just so they won't be alone. They don't recognize it as abuse simply because that may be the way they were raised themselves.
A self-respecting person will walk away and make a better life for themselves than what that other person had to offer.
2006-10-23 18:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 01:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so easy to say what we would do if faced with this situation. No one really knows until they are in it. Sometimes there are other factors that need to be considered before just walking away. It takes a strong person to be able to put their own feelings aside and look at the whole picture. Remember it is alot easier to run than face the reason for the affair. Although it hurts like crazy it may bring you to realize things about yourself, your partner and your relationship.
2006-10-23 15:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many people who keep on hoping and pursuing a lost love are people who can't stand losing, and not being in charge of their lives. They basically don't care whether the other person wants them or not. And sometimes what they do after they GET them back is-- go back to treating them crappy, taking them for granted, and even breaking up with them. That makes them happier because what they really wanted in the first place was to WIN.
If you are reading this, and you are in a frame of mind where you are trying to get somebody back... ask yourself if you really want this person, or if you just can't stand losing.
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2006-10-23 14:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When u love someone, its really hard to absorb the fact that they are not good enough, we often place them on a pedestal, and to see our "hero" as human, maybe even a complete jerk, is very hard.
That is also why, when a man cheats, a woman often channels her anger towards the other woman rather than the man himself.
2006-10-24 03:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by Sunrise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right. Many people let their emotions rule their actions so seek out revenge. After the dust settles, I'm sure they too, understand this. If only we thought with our minds instead of our hearts when it comes to matters of the heart.
2006-10-23 16:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, they should just not even pursue a new relationship yet and allow their emotions (or at least their thinking) to mature, if possible. You are right.
2006-10-23 13:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you are totally right, but some women do that because they feel they are not good enough to find someone else maybe because they have a problem with there appearance. I don't know but that would be my opinion!
2006-10-23 14:35:56 · answer #8 · answered by lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
true...but that's the same as friends cheating on friends(or people you think were friends)....would u just say he/she did wrong and move on? people feel that getting back at the person would make them feel better & that's why they do it....not all of us are strong and noble enough to just move on without doing or saying anything...if it hurts we want to do something to keep our hearts from hurting, so we get back at the person who cause the pain.
2006-10-23 14:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by starlove2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look am different I don't care if he cheats but I do care if he lied to me.That is when I get the guy back.Boy do I have a smile on my face because I won.I walked away so he had to pay the house bill not me this time.LOL
2006-10-23 14:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋