I am 28 yrs old and really have no desire to marry. I have been with the same boy for over a year and I want to be with him forever but dont wanna do the white dress, wedding. I would rather it stay this way. No complication ya know. Do you think I am the only girl who thinks this way.....oh yea I never want any kids either:)
2006-10-23 13:40:59 · 15 answers · asked by CaSeY LyNe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're not the only girl who thinks that way. I, however, do want to get married. It shows a committment to the other person that you don't necessarily have without it.
2006-10-23 13:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by Froggy Hoppins 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Exactly what all the other answers say. Especially suspende's answer.They mentioned the term "asexual" which often gets missed. It affects up to 1% of the population but few people are aware it even exists or has a name. Asexual means you have no urge to be in a romantic or sexual relationship with anyone, regardless of gender. Some asexual people get ill at the thought of a sexual experience with another person. Others simply don't care to. Or you may be gay, if you don't find yourself attracted to women but you DO feel attracted to men. About 10% of the population is gay. I'm assuming you're "old enough" to be attracted to women and an adult if your parents are wanting you to get married. However, if you are in a culture that wants 12 year old boys to get married, then perhaps the problem IS your age. :) Also, some people simply never want to be married, and that is normal too. Marriage is not for everyone. However, some of what you said indicates that there is more to it than that. Lastly, there is always the chance that there are other issues such as insecurity, confusion as to how to interact with women, how to physically be intimate, etc. that may affect your desire to have a relationship with them. Sometimes religious or cultural teachings that sex is "dirty" or "bad" can affect people this way as well. You really need to explain to your parents that you are simply not ready to be married. Then start asking yourself why that may be. When you have the answer and feel safe to talk to your parents about it (hopefully that is an option for you), then fill them in. Best wishes.
2016-05-22 02:53:44 · answer #2 · answered by Alison 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i dont believe you're 28.. cuz you called him a boy. And I stopped calling them boys when I was 18. Then they were guys. Now they are men, and I'm only 27. Unless he's only 16 in that case you're sick. And second, no i dont want to get married either. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we have 2 kids, but I say, why upset the balance? After you marry a guy he stops thinking of you as his young hot girlfriend, and starts thinking of you as his old lady. Now you're attached so he also doesnt have to try as hard. And if you want to break up, it's much easier to do if you're not married
2006-10-23 13:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by Smitten_Kitten 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm 25 and don't ever want to get married either, it seems more of a hassle then something good!! The world makes us this way
2006-10-23 13:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am already happily married.
Didn't do the white dress thing, and reception, me and my husband got married at a reverend's house, and we just wore our normal clothes, easy and cheap way to do it, plus more intimate and romantic that way.
2006-10-23 13:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it the ceremony you don't want...or the marriage itself?...you could elope...and as for kids...that's up to you and your partner to decide..but personally, if you don't want kids...don't have them...you'll screw them up big time...but you really need to think about this...sooner or later..the guy your with will want to settle down...you say no, and he moves on...then you get a new boyfriend...and you go through the same cycle all over again...you're eventually going to be lonely...and if you really love him then you should discuss this with him
2006-10-23 13:46:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll probably realise in another 20 years that, actually, a wedding would have been fun, and some kids, or maybe even grand-kids, would be nice to keep you company every now and then.
think long and hard before you give it all up.
2006-10-23 13:44:14 · answer #7 · answered by bravoechofoxtrot . 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Already married with kids, so not the best person to answer this question
2006-10-23 13:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by Dark Knight 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lots of women feel that way. So long as the guy agrees, you're sittin' pretty.
2006-10-23 13:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's obviously no need for you to get married, so why even worry about it?
2006-10-23 13:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋