Should you stay and continue to be unhappy, or go and find what makes you happy?
2006-10-23 13:31:27 · 33 answers · asked by ashley s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You already know the answer to your question. You're just trying to find some way for us to ease your guilt. This may help:
If I loved you... truly cared for you... I'd want you to be happy. Whether with me or without me, your joy would be paramount. If you couldn't be happy with me, I'd push you out the door and make you think it was all my fault (so you could go free of doubt, or guilt). If that's his attitude toward you, you don't have a problem. If it isn't, then he doesn't love you the way you deserve to be loved. Either way, love your life. Love yourself. Love someone with your whole heart who loves you the same way. Don't be tied to one who doesn't.
2006-10-23 13:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing a lot of the facts and having gone through this recently.......You need to find out why you are unhappy. No sense in getting a divorce if you are still going to be unhappy after that. Go get some help first and then make your decision.
2006-10-23 13:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by ateez9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go, find something that makes YOU happy without any major cost to others. If this is a relationship, face it almost all relationships with the opposite sex will end at some time if you are unhappy (unless you have like an almost perfect marriage and all that), and you should open yourself up.
2006-10-23 13:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by nicky_8_0_8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your circumstances. Is it just the two of you? Kids, pets, living together, etc.? The fact is you need to be able to stay that you honestly stepped up and went ABOVE AND BEYOND what is required in a normal relationship before you call it quits. It's easy to stay when it's going well, but hard to stay when things are not going well. You need to give it a legitimate effort by really treating your significant other better than you would want to be treated. Give it a month, if things are not better time to think about leaving, if things get better you know what it takes to make the relationship work. Of course if you do have kids, remember what is best for them. The second you have kids its a matter of what is best for them and not for yourself.
2006-10-23 13:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by AirDevil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and find what makes you happy. It will hard to do, but once you do it, it will be the best decision you ever made. Nothing in life is worse than being unhappy. Good luck!
2006-10-23 13:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by hotmomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with follow your heart. It is your life and you that should be happy. I left once because I thought I was unhappy but I found out I was miserable in the cruel world alone. So I came back and have been back for 15 years now. Live and learn.
2006-10-23 13:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by Just Bein' Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you should do is look deeper into what the problem is are you really and truly unhappy. is there a reason if you are? have you previously tried working it out? if you leave you really need to be sure because if you still love the other person you shouldnt just up and leave because you may be unhappy for ever if they choose to not come back
2006-10-23 13:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If staying equals unhappiness then go.
Then again where every you go....there you are. Meaning, if the unhappiness is from within yourself, leaving isn't going to solve it.
2006-10-23 13:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my man of almost 5 years split up, it's so hard still, but I don't want to live being unhappy till the day I die. Think about that.
2006-10-23 13:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by chrisser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one important lesson ive learnt in life is to never stick around to satisfy others... We all are born alone and die alone. Leave for yourself not for someone else. I know its hard to just walk away but if ur happiness doesnt provail then its time to walk away. You should never surrender your own happiness for someone elses.
It may seem like the road to happiness is a LONG one but once u break away you'll see that theres someone out there that can make u happy, and u deserve to be. Good luck
2006-10-23 13:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by Elena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋