i stayed with him and we went on to have child together its been nearly 2 years now and she still has a hold over our relationship i know i should have run a mile but i belived we could get through it . she has turned my b/f mother against him and me and his mother has never spoke to me she also refused to see our child. she is now starting to see our baby because i have made my b/f take the baby to see her, i dont know if she deserves to see my baby as she ignored him for 7 months and would blank us in the street i need advice on all aspects of my story please
2006-10-23 13:29:57 · 13 answers · asked by libby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
by the way i didnt get pegnant on purpose and i know about using condoms i did and another form of contraception aswell it was one of those things
2006-10-23 13:41:17 · update #1
It sounds to me that it was not cheating, because neither of you should have sex before marriage.
2006-10-24 08:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by John B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His ex has a child with him too? Well, my advice would be to think about it, if he cheated once, he will likely do it again. Cheaters never change. You have to think if it's worth it to keep on seeing him and you also have to think about the baby. In my opinion, he does not sound like he would make that great of a man to marry (if u didn't already). I believe you should just walk away while you can because it seems like its too many problems (at least until things get better). The baby can still see him here and there. But, remember, do what is best for your child.
2006-10-23 20:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's some really F*cked up sh*t... Well firstly i don't think that ur man's ex has a hold over him I think his child does... And that i find admirable... Not many men would do that... Secondly I think u need to forget about him... I don't think u should leave him just focus on ur newborn... After all babies can sense a mother's tension and this could make ur child neurotic... So ignore everything and focus all ur attention on making ur child's world safe and enjoyable... Finally F*CK ur man's mom... She's worthless trash and doesn't need to be graced with either ur presence or ur child's... Life is what u make it... So Why F*ck it up with animosity...
2006-10-23 20:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by LaToya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to tell this girl to back off and say your not in the picture anymore I am with my child. Sit down and talk to you boyfriend and his mother and tell them how you feel. And if they don't understand or want to comprise or change then leave. Because it will only get worse. Answer this are you happy with things that way they are not? IF this girl has turn your man and his mother againist you leave and find another man that will love you and your child. You can do bad all by yourself. If his mother didn't say nothing when she saw you guys then babygirl it won't get no better and you need to leave him and his family alone they sound like to me they don't like you and don't want nothing to do with you or the baby. Sorry to say that but its the truth.
2006-10-23 20:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by ecstasy45227 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will have their child as a connection forever, just as you and he have your own child. You made a big mistake back then so you have to decide what you want, while remembering you must think of your own child. You need to concentrate on your own little family and let your boyfriend work on the relationship with his mom. And stop forcing her to see your baby. It's her loss and she needs to make the decision to visit. Don't use the baby as a pawn.
2006-10-23 20:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's unfair that she has to take her spite out on your baby, this is between the three of you, and not the baby, bit mean really, i Hope you can sort this out for the kids sakes, they don't need to be tangled up in this, she's involving other people into this and causing lots of trouble, i would just stay away from them and concentrate on you, your baby and your b/f and let them 2 seethe away with one another, theres obviously a jealousy issue going on here, but just think of it like this....you got your little family, so dont worry about them 2
2006-10-23 21:41:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry youre in this situation...the mom is probably never going to welcome you or the baby with open arms...she probably feels overwhelmed that he has been involved with and has two children...my advice is dont push the relationship...it will happen if its going to happen in her own time.Just be as gracious as you can be in this situation and hopefully get support from your friends and family....it will all work out in the end....best wishes
2006-10-23 20:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DID MAKE A MISTAKE BY STAYING AND GETTIN P/G. NOW THAT YOU CAN NOT CHANGE THAT YOU BEST KEEP A LOW PROFILE AND TRY TO GET ALONG WITH HIS MOM FOR THE BABIES AND HIS SAKE. YOU GONNA HAVE TO IGNORE THR G/F IT YOUR BO HAS DITCHED HER. YOU SHOULD ENCOURAGE HIM TO SATY AWAY FROM THE EX
2006-10-23 20:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by roy40372 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!! YOU HAVE ALOT OF BAGGAGE. NIP THIS IN THE BUD. THE CHILDREN ARE RELATED SO THERE IS NO STOPPING THEM FROM FORMING A RELATIONSHIP. TRY NOT TO GET INVOLVED, AS LONG AS THE OTHER WOMANA KEEPS HER DISTANCE AND HER NOSE OUT OF YOUR X BUSINESS THAN DONT WORRY ABOUT IT
2006-10-23 20:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by sammi girls mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how the chavs live...and the reason there are so many f`cked up kids in our schools
2006-10-23 20:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Glenn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋