why is the divorce rate high? I think it's horrible that people take the easy way out.?

Answer 1

Um...my divorce rate is high because I've got questionable judgment. My first husband decided he was gay (I had been his first girlfriend...maybe I should have taken the hint when his sister joked he would leave me for a man). There wasn't much way to "work on that" short of me growing some extra parts and losing others.
My second husband decided to smack me around, which I consider automatic grounds for divorce. You're all beginning to see that I pick real winners, eh?
Ah, but the third time's the charm. We met over the internet (Yahoo Chat, of all places!). We lived together for a year before we got married (which should up the divorce rate). He's in the military, I'm a screaming liberal. He's anti-social, I love being around people. His idea of a good vacation is a bed, a computer, and a tv. My idea is 22 cities in 10 days. He's an agnostic Jew, I'm a Catholic. He doesn't discuss "feelings" very much, I cry like a baby at a good commercial. And you know what, we're still happily married, and just had our baby a few months ago.

Thank God I could get out of the first two marriages quickly and easily. Should I have stayed married to a gay man or a man who smacked me around???

Answer 2

I think a lot of people don't realize just how much time and work you have to put into a marriage on a daily basis. You let one thing go for too long and they have a hard time getting back. They don't take the time to really communicate with their partners. This is a biggy. I think people just jump in without thinking about all the things that go on in a marriage and when they get tired or don't like something they just quit or give up instead of working hard on solving the problems. Sometimes it is one sided and sometimes both partners are not willing to give it their all. There are extreme situations where the one partner will cheat, abuse the other, or just be a royal pain in the ****. Sometimes people don't see this before they commit or something happens and the person can become ill in the head and cause problems too. It is very sad that people choose to take the easy way out instead and working hard to make something work. Some people work hard too late because they have allowed these problems to fester year after year. By then it is so far gone that the best thing to do sometimes is divorce.

Answer 3

The divorce rate is high because people just dont want to deal with any problems they might have. They need to start taking responsibility for their own messes. Instead of running away where there are going to be new problems. Plus they make it where divorces are so easy to get. It is horrible that this country is like that.

Answer 4

I think it has alot to do with the fact it is easy to divorce. Most states have no fault divorce so you need no reason to end the marraige. Most states do not make the couple try therapy first. So there is no insentive for the one who wants to leave to try to save it.

When I say it is easy to divorce I mean the legal act of divorce can be done with ease. If both parties can agree on things from early on it does not need to end in a full out battle. But the pain of a divorce may last for years, even for the one who wanted it. Studies show most people who divorce did not understand the pain that they would have from it.

Answer 5

Too many people live together before marriage, which undermines commitment, since it's assumed that if one person finds enough faults in the other, he's free to leave. However, successful marriages are not the result of a lack of annoying qualities in the other; they are the result of choosing to love and forgive the other daily, with all of his or her imperfections. It is the ability to sacrifice that holds marriages together, not the absence of nuisances. The desire to "test drive" a marriage demonstrates a lack of understanding regarding what makes a marriage work. It also shows a real lack of faith in one's love for the other. In one sense, the couple is saying that they desire intimacy, but on the other hand they want to leave a way out if the partner doesn't measure up. This sows seeds of doubt and distrust from the start. Some couples seem to be under the impression that a good relationship won't have disappointments. When they marry and the disappointments come, they often bail out.

Answer 6

I think the divorce rate is so high because people don't really think about marriage and what they want out of life before hand. They don't think about if this is the person they want to spend their whole life with. They just go ahead and do it and if it doesn't work out, they just get divorced. Its too easy these days.

Answer 7

Why are you calling it the easy way out? It sure wasn't the easy way out for me, it was to save my own life!!! I was married to a man that was not only mentally abused me for 17 longgg years but in the end got physically with me as well. I tried everything under the sun to try to make my marriage with him work. When I finally got the nerve to leave him, I had to literally run for my life. Then once I filed for a divorce 2 months later, it took 1 1/2 years to get the divorce from him as he was fighting the divorce every step of the way. He was even getting abusive with our 2 kids as well. So I can not nor will I say that I took the easy way out of my marriage, I took the safe way out by getting the divorce.I got my divorce from him over 10 years ago and even after my divorce from him he still tried to be abusive with me up until about 2 years ago and thank goodness I haven't heard from him since. The police was of no help to me as far as protecting me went. So that is part of my story, but I would call it the best way out instead of the easy way out.

Answer 8

The reasons are : Selfishness of the people ,They wanna try different things, wanna be free , do not accept responsibilities , and they are not happy with what they have. Some how people in the past were more satisfy with what they had and the divorce rate was lower. Now with the modern life , people are not happy , no matter how much they have.This is so sad but the story goes on.

Answer 9

The Law make it to easy for them to take the easy way out,unless you are the kids are being abused it should be more to getting a divorce,not easy.

Answer 10

I gather that you have never been divorced. Divorce is not easy and the consequences are long lasting. (Just look at some of the other questions and answers in this section.) In fact divorce should be easier and getting married should be harder.