Let me preface that I love my 3 daughters in law. I suppose it is natural for them to want to go with their own families on holidays, however my husband and I lately have felt we have only gotten the left overs of their attention when the holidays come. We only get some off-time around the holidays that doesn't interfere with their plans and no consideration. For years I have just said nothing, but tonight I blew off at my son and feel terrible. Who else has this problem and how do you cope. My husband and I are thinking of moving seeing how long it takes them to notice!! Not really, but it is tempting~!
2006-10-23 13:20:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that you are right for feeling the way you did and you only blew up because you were not being open about your feelings. You should tell them how you feel respectfully. I think you are a great mom for not butting into your son's affairs, but wanting to be included is only natural and the attention during holiday's is not too much to ask. If you get along maybe you all could meet at one house, now that would be a party.
2006-10-23 13:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by barbie2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer is schedule the get together for the holidays early. I am one of 3 boys and we always go to my parents for the holidays. Maybe not on the holiday, but we still get together around the holidays. For instance we are celebrating x-mas at Thanksgiving at my parents. We try to do this every year, it has become an annual thing. Here's to planning... good luck.
2006-10-23 13:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by rstump1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a daughter gets married,she wants to impress both In-Laws,but when a son gets married,he is more interested in impressing the father-in-law,because now he is responsible for "Daddy's little Girl",and has to prove to "Daddy",that he is man enough to fit the shoes. Once the other In-Laws have examined the new "Kid on the Block",then it's time for your Sons to tell their wives,that they will be alternating visits,between both families. (Rhetorical Question?). Is it the possibility,that your Sons live closer to their In-Laws,which is why they visit them first?. Kindly tell them,that you would like for them to visit you first,for a change,and that you do fell "left out". They should make an effort to work this out with their wives. (Good Luck!)
2006-10-23 13:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually since my son met his new woman he is around more , she insists on it . She tells him to call me too , Didn't know it could go the other way . Sorry, I would talk to your boys .
2006-10-23 13:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you and I should have had daughters!!!! It is not just necessarily Holidays, it's just a fact of life!!!!
2006-10-23 13:34:57 · answer #5 · answered by "Hooks" 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel you girl, i only have one grown son and its the same way around my house, i truly feel you, move and see what happens, lol
2006-10-23 13:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by uimblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Count it as a blessing.
2006-10-23 13:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋