2006-10-23 13:20:19 · 21 answers · asked by taximom11765 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he's still not working I can't see why you would want to win him over unless it's for your daughter or a grandchild.
You don't have to like him to get along with him. When you have to be around him just be polite. If you really want him to like you then just ask him if you can take him to lunch & have a talk with him & apologize to him. If he doesn't work he'd be available for lunch & probably wouldn't mind a free meal.
2006-10-23 13:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why hasn't he worked and how long ago was the wedding? Wow...she picked a good one, stable and ready for marriage! Well, her bed is made...she has to lie in it now. Best you just stay out of it or it will just make it worse. She has to work this relationship out for herself.
I hope you weren't as judgmental in raising her as you are in how you currently treat him, because this could be the very reason she picked someone totally opposite than her parental role model. Kids will do that and sadly by the time they realize you meant well by it all and that they made a mistake in judgement, they're smack in the middle of a big mess, likely with kids and all too. If I'm off the mark I apologize and I hope his not working is just a run of bad luck and not a way of life is really all I can say. If he IS a bum, then you have every right to your feelings and I don't blame you one bit for wanting to look after your daughter's interests. Just don't go helping them financially, and MAKE SURE your daughter does not have any children with this man any time soon. Chances are within 2 years (the normal break up time) she will come to her senses and either it will have worked itself out or she will have bailed out...but if kids come along...that will have complicated it all and likely she'll stick with him come what may.
2006-10-23 20:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. Apparently your words carried a mean wallop. Whether true or not, I'll bet money that it will be next to impossible for you to keep quiet for any period of time. So reach back into your memories of your youth; what was one of the things you hated more than anything? Doing what your parents wanted, right? So the opposite was done just to anger your parents. The outcome was not the issue, going against them was. So let your daughter make the choice of sleeping with a lazy husband, or one that, in time may prove to be not so bad after all. But I guarentee the more you shoot of your mouth the less you will see her and maybe grandchildren someday. You will be a reminder of her failure if you end up correct and facing you may be, for her, worse than anything he may or may not have done to her, not you. So Mom, call up some friends and live your life, and stay out of your daughters. Even when asked, less is more.
2006-10-23 20:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by older, not wiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you call him a bum? has he tried to get work? you may have made a judgement you should'nt have. many people in my family have that opinion of my husband because he has'nt worked much since we have been married. but he has looked for jobs and is now in school. maybe you should try to be more supportive. look for the good things that he does do. does he treat your daughter well? just remember , your daughter married him, so there must be something good about him.
2006-10-23 20:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by sarah 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he should be trying to win you over.... he is a bum. Tell him to get a job, and you might be impressed when he starts taking care of your daughter like a real man should.
2006-10-23 20:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by Smitten_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe ur son needs some time to figure out what he wants to do in life. its harder now than ever to pick a career thats enjoyable yet profiting. its either follow your dreams or make money and thats really not fair for all the aspiring artists in the world. give ur son time to pick something that he wants to do. its not the same as when u were his age u might be old or something
2006-10-23 20:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by dramateen23 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you want to win the bum over? Do you want to support him? Leave it be, perhaps your daughter will come to her senses, or not.
2006-10-23 20:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him large sums of money every week,.... but My Dr. Phil-type response is really, "Why do you want to win him over?"
2006-10-23 20:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by Tammy K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to start is to apologize, then plan a day with him, maybe fishing or something.
2006-10-23 20:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get off his lazy **** and get a job so that he can fulfill his responsibilities to your daughter - and balls to winning him over.
2006-10-23 20:23:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋