2006-10-23 13:20:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I don't understand.........(2 points:)
2006-10-23 13:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by Seriously Though 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a spinal cord injury, caused by an idiot who I didn't even know who set fire to my house meaning I had to jump out of a window to save myself. Luckily I am able to walk now and am not crippled for life but I spent many months with other patients in hospitals who had permanent disabilities putting them in wheelchairs or unable to move from the neck down. I can't even begin to imagine this kind of pain and injustice, all power is taken away and the brain is left only to plan thoughts of revenge.
The aarsonist who started the fire also killed others in the house and is now in jail - 15yrs only!!! More injustice. I came to the conclusion though that he was a pathetic kid who must have a mental problem to do such terrible things. He is not worth any of my time or thoughts - he doesn't deserve any more attention. My boyfriend talked about attacking him but I imagine the guy to be so stupid that he probably wouldn't even care and still wouldn't understand the pain that he has caused.
Please don't let the attacker destroy your boyfriend's life any further - he must seek counselling and help for post-traumatic stress.
A life of being cared for by loved ones/family/carers in the free world will also be a million times better than being looked after in a prison hospital.
2006-10-24 05:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by Philadelphia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi ive read the edit on the post and my answer still stands, i think your b/f needs some professional help. he is not a burden to anyone. but i think you are the best person to make him understand this as he is probably only saying as he feels its what you want to hear. make him think otherwise, so that you can grow old together and not wait til he is inside and then both regret him doing something bad cuz by then it will be too late.
you have to ask yourself, would YOU rather help him out a lil more and have him home at christmas and with the kids etc (if you have any) or just be able to see him on visiting days.
2006-10-23 20:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by only me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have read you other questions and have answered them honestly.
i still think that you would be foolish to try to take revenge, or to retaliate in this matter.
your boyfriend may not be a 'whole' man, but at least he is still alive.
if he were to be taken away from you and sent to prison for a meditaed attack on that so called 'person' then how would you feel being left alone each day?
the best thing to do is let the anger you both (rightly) feel slowly go, and try to live as normal a life as you can.
if this person showed any guilt the he/she would have pleaded guilty and been judged and sentenced acordingly.
if this person had have been sent to prison, would that have made you and your boyfriend feel any better???
of course not.
love the one you want to be with.
let the hate for the one who did this to your advantage.
turn that hate into a way of learning to fight the feeling of distress and fustration you both have in this matter.
only together can you both get through this difficult time, and i am sure you will look back on this in a few years time, and wonder why you even felt so strongly about wanting to go to prison.
my family - especially my father - had to learn to live and care for my mother when she had a brain seizure which left her paralized and unable to do anything.
we had no-one to be angry at for that, and yet we all still had to cope.
2006-10-23 21:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered this question first time round but just in case you aren't looking at the old question and answer am going to answer it again. As others have said revenge isn't good- it might bring a temporary feeling of yes done that- but it won't heal anything or change anything. I think you need support and help as does your boyfriend and beleive me I know how bad life can be sometimes. But what you don't need is revenge.
I understand his feeligns about being a burden but keep reassuring him that he isn't- there are so many things that anyone can contribute to society, so many things to have joy in that going to prison isn't ever the answer. Go to galleries, theatres, cinemas, go out and meet people but whatever you do don't waste a life in revenge.
2006-10-23 22:41:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is definitely brown...or, perhaps, 27.4.
2006-10-23 20:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by cheaper_bills 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I need to report you for abuse... My head hurts.
2006-10-23 22:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by TLC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Say what?
2006-10-23 20:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Feel Good 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh-huh.
2006-10-23 20:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by shortstack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your still an idiot.
2006-10-23 20:34:03 · answer #10 · answered by idhard2find&looking 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋