Am i confused?

Question

Okay my friends calls black people the n-word. I don't get offended for some reason, because most of the time the black people were doing something that would piss her off. I didn't stand up to her when she said stuff about the black people and I'm mostly black. Yet when she says stuff about white people I get offended. My grandmother was a quarter white. I'm like on six percent white. I always stand up for the white people. In addition, I don't feel black. I was raised in a mostly white, asian and hispanic neighborhood. most of the black kids don't really consider me black. I only have four black friends. Sometimes i find myself thinking I'm latino. I've hung around with hispanics so long i know spanish well. I speak with the spanish accent. I do my hair and makeup the way a hispanic girl does. All my friends are hispanic. My preference is for hispanic or white guys. am i confused?

Answer 1

It seems like you are multicultural, and are mixed.

Is anything wrong with that? Race doesn't always matter. In fact, it doesn't even really account for anything.

You don't sound confused, but be proud of all the nationalities you are!

^_^

Answer 2

Not, really, you are growing up, and haven't found your own niche yet, but you will. Give it time. As for me I say you can be and act the way you feel most comfortable, later on in life, you will have to decide where exactly you stand. And the reason I say this, is because the man that you marry has to know how you feel about everything that concerns him and you. So for now, enjoy, be happy, you don't have to defend any race right now, people of all races act like animals at time. Just listen, and don't speak. Just let it slight. OK. Young woman keep enjoying and doing the things that you like. Have fun. God Bless you for being honest and thinking that you did wrong when you didn't. I am a mother of 4 and 55 years old, I know what Iam talking about.

Answer 3

You're not confused.

#1You've already made up your mind what you want to be; Hispanic, but due to the fact that your constantly surrounded by the hispanic culture. So, it's expected to be sided with your environment.

#2 Obviously you've lost touch with your "black" and "white" heritage. It's to the point that you don't connect to that side of yourself when someone make a racial slur about those in your blood-line. Example: you automatically dissassociate yourself with "blacks" as soon as your so-called friend uses the "N" word about us. You don't even try to speak up.

#3 You need to reconnect with all the races that you have flowing through your veins. You're young, give it time. As you grow older you'll understand what I'm talking about.

I am mostly black. I too am a mixture of other races but appearance wise I am still black, I can't pass for anything else. I too grew up in a mostly latino community. I love the culture, the people too. I speak spanish well enough to serve the public at my place of employement. Some Latinos even mistake me for being Hispanic due to my features, my unique accent, and my vast knowledge of the Latin culture. But I reasure them along with myself that I am black.

Remember, it's natural to fall into your environment, but NEVER forget who you really are. As for your friend, you need to double-think how loyal she is to you. If she's really your friend, racial slurs about your "peolpe" should never come out of her mouth.

Good luck and stay focused.

Answer 4

I don't think you're confused. I think you are at a great advantage and may not even realize it. We are products of our environments. You do have to act a certain way that most black people act just because you are black. You don't have to like white people instead of blacks, asians, or hispanics just because you are white. You do what you want because you're just being yourself.

I would suspect though that your tendency to defend whites over blacks on racial issues is because the same reason I do (also mixed black and white). It has become politically correct to be racist against white people. Meanwhile, many things that are not even race related are turned into supposed racism against blacks or hispanics (especially relating to immigration). Or perhaps you have other reasons. If so, I would like to know.

Answer 5

Babe your not black or white, your both, why not except it and be you. Anyway, black people go out with white people that is how you came to be.

White people do the same, people choose who they like regardless of the things you name because they can. You choose men because your embarrassed for being who you are. Who cares what you are it is about who you are and if you choose men the way you do then you are like the other people, the ones who judge you

Answer 6

There's no respect of person from whom you were made. Color is just a description of the skin you happen to be in. Stereotyping individual races can be somewhat confusing and against the grain; especially when we're just mere human beings that are so uniquely made.

Peace,

Hope

Answer 7

No its called Flavor and you have it! Your mixed so you don"t fell prejudicial about people. There are bad people in every race but it is called stupidity in this day and age to use the N word,African American will surf ice. Don"t sweat the small stuff and enjoy your teenage life.

Answer 8

the atmosphere around you determined the way you feel about yourself. You might be black,but you were raised as hispanic.

Answer 9

No, but you don't seem to have alot of pride in being black. Why?
You need to figure out why and try to get pass it. It is a part of you and one day your kids. Don't feel bad about it, embrace it and use it to be strong.

Answer 10

well I think that you sould just be yourself and dont worry about what other people do and act you should act the way you were raised do what you feel is right and if you aren't pleased with this answer talk to your friends or your parents