Well Ihave been dating this guy for a long time and we are having really bad money problems. and he tells me that he is think ing about leaving me. He says becase right now I am the only one bringing in money and he said that he doesn't want me to support him. and that when I do it makes him feel like a loser. He said if he left he would be back ones he got his money situation worked out. My question is. Is that the truth does he want to leave because of the money problems or for anouther reason. I mean we have been together for 6 months and we live together. And it's not like we arn't getting along right now. But right now at the end of everynight wee don't know for sure if we are going to have a home anymore. SO what is that please help.
2006-10-23 13:06:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I could be totally wrong, but I just do not buy it, first and foremost a relationship should not be based on or hindered by in any way money. If you are supporting him and he stops seeing you than what will he do? die? I don't think so. So why not just work on the money problem and see you at the same time, I mean he has to eat somehow, so however he would eat if he wasn't with you should be the same way he eats with you. Go to the park, stay home and play Monopoly, Scrabble, chase each other around the house I don't know, I personally do not see how the two situations connect, if he feels like you support him than tell him you will stop supporting him, what does that have to do with wether or not you still are involved, just my opinion but I'm not buying it!!!!
2006-10-23 13:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by dannydolphin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some men r like that who feel that they r superior then women but i personally think that if ur helping him then he should really appreciate u not break up with u but the only answer is between u and him u have to talk to him bout how u feel
im a guy and god forbid if i got a situation like this and my wife is bringing money home i would really appreciate her and try to make some money while she supports the house coz 2 is always better then 1 if u two stick together the money problem will be no longer urs
so good luck and ask him to look at u as his better half not some girl bringing money to him
2006-10-23 13:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by mrdeeds_1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married young and had huge money problems which was a big factor to the marriage ending a year later. Being young and having that much stress...in a relationship that is a whole new stress and sometimes you just need to be alone and figure things out and have that self respect before you can allow someone else to respect you. I would let him leave and let him figure things out for himself b/c if he's under that much stress he knows what's best and it would be greedy for you to keep him around. If it's meant to be he'll find his way and come back a much happier person. Be thankful that he's a real man that wants to go into the world and be a winner and provide for his girl. There are plenty of losers that aren't like that.
2006-10-23 13:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve been going out for six months and your living together? have you been dating a long time or just six months? six months is not a long time,personally i think hes full of crap,if his manhood is hurt because hes not making money he needs to get a job not leave his girlfriend,its not your fault why should you be hurt,if hes leaving to go to work thats a different deal,say hes going to go work on a boat,or something thats ok,but you certainly dont leave someone to go work at 7/11.
2006-10-23 13:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by seth s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the money thing and with you doing the bulk he feels like you are taking care of him instead of him taking care of you. Which is really sweet if you think about it. If you two are ment to be, then you will be together.
2006-10-23 13:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you love him for him not his money and that being a man is facing the difficult times with your head up. My wife makes more than me and it did bother me until i realized it didnt bother her because i love and respect her and do so many things for her that money cant buy. His pride is just hurt but you really need to tell him you just need him to be there for richer or poorer.
2006-10-23 14:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by eric s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does wantto leave because of money problems then thats one of the sweetest things aperson can do for you.
2006-10-23 13:09:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say pull back from the relatiopnship but stay together and work on your financial situation.
2006-10-23 13:14:29 · answer #8 · answered by maes_quest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to find out now rather then later.
2006-10-23 13:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahahha bs...well I would feel the same way, but i would do anything to bring something to the house...
2006-10-23 13:09:12 · answer #10 · answered by jmol72001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋