I'm asking this simply because my boyfriend is in the Army, and we had already planned on getting married when we were like 23-ish,(we're both 20). But since he's joined the army, he wants to move marriage up. We love eachother unconditionally, but everyone else is saying we're too young. So I guess what I'm asking is, what would you do if you were in this situation?
2006-10-23 12:58:14 · 23 answers · asked by army g/f 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
,y husband and I got married in are early 20's.That was 4 years ago and we are doing just fine. The only thing I would suggest is wait until he is done in AIT(advanced training) Since he is going to be experiencing things that you won't be able to and it might put a distance between you guys. When I left for basic training and then tech school,my husband and I were apart for a year and he felt like a had lived a sperate life that didn't include him. But if you love each other go for it!
2006-10-23 13:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First thing I would like to tell you is that I am 18 years of age. Although I have never been in a position like yours, I will tell you my opinion. My parents, who are now currently going through a divorce, were married for 28 years. My mother married my father when she was 21 and he 19. She had a difficult life at home, and wanted to get away from it. That was the main reason she married him, that and pressure from others. Now, I know that not all marriages end badly, my grandparents are a shining example (54 yrs this July), for me. But I must say, don't do it because you feel pressured to, if your boyfriend loves you as you know he does, he will wait for you. If you feel pressured to get married, I am not necessarily saying that you'll regret it, but you might. Good Luck with your decision :D
2006-10-23 14:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by lilangeleyes_07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 22, I am now 34. We have a great marriage, two kids, it is wonderful. You two need to decide, forget everyone else. They don't know what you really feel and want for your life better than you. Good Luck. Getting married young isn't bad if you plan for the future as you do it.
2006-10-23 13:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was 20 when we got married, and that was 10 years ago. We still love each other if not more now than we did when we first got married we didn't have much money then, but when we look back we wouldn't change the fact that most nights we only had crackers and butter to eat..by the way we eat a lot better now...come to think about it... maybe you can live on love... Good luck in all you do...
2006-10-23 13:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you love him and you want to be with him then you should not wait and should not listen to what others say. I got married at 19 and my husband was 21 and he is in the army. I just know that I loved him more than anything and I wanted to be with him and it did not matter what anyone elsa said. I mean if you feel that you can wait 3 more years or so before getting married than go for it. It's all up to u.
2006-10-23 15:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by Nicalo22 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are truly ready to get married. Don't "move it up" because of certain conditions. That may be the time to wait and see. My husband and I were both 23 when we got married and we've been married for 27 years. There have been ups and downs but nothing better as far as either of us is concerned. Trust in God, pray, and it will be revealed to you.
2006-10-23 13:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by elease06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 19 and my bride was 17 when we got married. That was in 1989 and we're still happily married. You are too young, so what? All that matters is your commitment, and your maturity. I was in the Air Force and we pretty much had to get married if I wanted her to come with me to the Philippines. Like you, we had planned on getting married anyway so it wasn't a big deal.
2006-10-23 13:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by Cybeq 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 19. I'm now 21 yrs old (soon to be 22) and our marriage is great so far. My husband is also in the Navy.
I would advise u to get married when u are both ready to.
2006-10-23 13:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My lady and I were high school sweethearts, and we got married the day after graduation. We had our children very young and we all grew up together. I wouldn't even dream about changing a day in my life from high school on. I've had the very good fortune to have my best friend, most interesting companion and sweet lover in my life for 45 years now. It just keeps getting better.
2006-10-23 13:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait, wait, wait. I got married too young and it lasted less than 3 years. We have a son and I still have to see my ex evey other weekend for another 4 years at least. Our son was just about two when I was done. You have nothing put time on your side. Wait.
2006-10-23 13:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋