I know I can space out at times but is this normal, or am I just rude? Also he tells me all the time about how he loves me but not all the things that come with me, like my family, "stupid" freind. He is constantly reading my myspace, e-mails and questioning me about actions, conversations, who was looking at me and when....need some objectivity, I know I think this is too much but I am married and do love him...what to do.
2006-10-23 12:39:38 · 37 answers · asked by trajan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your husband is too controlling, jealous, possessive, and manipulative. i'm sure you love him and that's why you marry him. to be honest with you, his behavior is going to get old.
2006-10-23 12:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was exactly where you are 6 years ago. My ex husband was the same way. We didn't have a computer, but he was the same with the family and friends. I lost so many friends because of him and the way he acted around them, by the time I left it was too late to get them back. Ya obviously they weren't true friends. My ex was very controlling and mentally abusive. He used to call me names and wasn't even aloud to say a guy's name in a conversation, if I did I was obviously cheating with him. It then turned to physical abuse and that's when I left. I tell ya, now I have two beautiful childern, 4 bedroom house and a wonderful fiance that i love with all my heart. He is totally different and it's great. Life is greener on the other side. From experience I would have to tell you that you have to get out. Waiting for him to change, will never happen. After I left, my ex went to counselling, and ended up having to go back with his next girlfriend. Things don't get better, sorry to tell you. Please leave while your still able to. I know you love him, and I loved mine, but you got to say enough is enough and your worth more than to be treated that way. My fiance has shown me that. Don't settle for nothing but the best.
2006-10-23 12:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by tray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
J-E-A-L-O-U-S..........and a control freak!!!!! Been there done that and it took me 15 years to get away. I am a free woman now and I am H-A-P-P-Y.......Trust me girl it will only get worse, god I hope you don't have kids with this guy, that creates more problems. If he is acting like this now just think what it will be like as the years go by. You will become his property, he will own you and let you know everyday how much he owns you. He will take away your self esteem, and you will feel like you are totally worthless.....My advice is RUN while you still got a chance, he doesn't feel LOVE the same way everyone else does. To him LOVE is ownership, it's like owning a dog or something. If you stay that's just what you will become.......HIS PET
2006-10-23 13:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by mysticmoons2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE TREATS YOU LIKE THIS BECAUSE HE CAN. My ex was the same way. after 18 years, and little self esteem, I divorced him. Best thing I ever did. If you leave him and he cries and says he is sorry, the treatment will return as soon as he gets comfortable in the relationship again. Like I said, I am glad I bailed out. Life isn't so easy finacially now, but I have confidence and alot of nice friends and neighbors. Good Luck
2006-10-23 12:51:24 · answer #4 · answered by Sprinkles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you answer him? maybe he is tired of you not taking him seriously- or at least he thinks that's the case.. I really don't know. He seem very jealous 2. the only advice I can give U -is look him in the eyes and say I love you and I want us to work- but U really have to mean it..tell him you are not stupid and your friends are your friends "i don't judge them" u shouldn't either.
Good luck
2006-10-23 12:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by carpet man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your husband has some control issues, and in order to take away the focus on his inadequacies, he focuses them on you. If he's feeling that insecure about himself, maybe he should get some help instead of trying to blame you for everything. With love comes respect, and obviously you are not being respected. I have some idiot's in my life for sure, but my mate wouldn't dare make me feel bad about loving them, because he loves me, that and I'm far to strong to ever have someone try and make me feel weak. I honestly feel sorry for you that you have to endure such treatment. Maybe some counselling would be ideal for you too, noone deserves to be spojen to like that, and maybe if you're esteem was higher, you will be able to find a healthier place within yourself to stop this treatment, whatever road that may be.
2006-10-23 12:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a wife who didnt answer me very well either I hated it. Thing was it seemed as if anyone asked her a question she never hesitated like when answering me.
It seems like he doesnt trust you. Maybe he never did before you got married. Is this new? Have you been trustworthy and faithful? If you have been, you should definitely leave him. He's no good.
He sounds terrible. What did you ever see in him?
2006-10-23 20:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by lightlytread 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is mean and abusive and an inconsiderate cold jerk! I am so sorry you married him! Do you find yourself spacing out alot? It could be a neuroligical problem. You might be having mini-seizures. Check with your doc and see if he says the same thing. Good luck!
If you don't, you need to RUN FAST AND DON'T LOOK BACK! Get a good lawyer
2006-10-23 12:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't care how long you take there is no reason he has to call you names , he sounds like a very disrespectful male not a man a male and insecure too, he needs to grow up! if he loves you he accepts all of you that includes children ,family , friends ect. he doesn't have to like them but he does need to respect your relationships with them.
2006-10-23 12:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by want2doright 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does this so he can sense like he has no blame. if he can blame then you definately he doesnt could hear you call him out. quite, in simple terms p.c.. his **** and tell him that on condition that he made his emotions sparkling and concise the different night approximately your habit and his desire to artwork with the intention to no longer see you which you felt it maximum prudent to make each little thing greater stable. supply him his stuff and tell him that the attorneys would be contacting him in some days. adn which you deliver all your maximum suitable to heidi or frodo or whoever else he decideds to finally end up with. existence is to short to stay with a prick. it hurts now yet your 33 thier is somebody greater suitable out thier for you. dont waist yet another year in this douche. his strikes are indicative of someoen who has no desire to stay jointly or that he even respects you. why even publish with it.
2016-10-16 07:58:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there's a lack of love, respect, and trust going on here. Without these three in a marriage you have nothing! Ask him why he treats you the way that he does and why he invades your privacy. Sounds, to me, like a good marriage counselor is in order here.
2006-10-23 12:44:09 · answer #11 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋