I am middle aged but still dam hot to look at (that is what other guys tell me). My bf treats me as if I were there for his pleasure and does nothing for me - or says things he knows hurt my feelings. I want to tell him and have told him when he says hurtful things - but the insensitivity is really getting to me.
2006-10-23 12:30:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hes jealous of you ! and the only way he can deal with it is to put you down ,
don,t allow him to treat you like chit , tell him you are not going to change but he as to ,and if hes not prepared to them end it , you deserve better
the best of luck
2006-10-23 12:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by lizella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well its like this a man can only do what a woman allows him to do to her. If he has no reguard to your feelings that you have expressed to him then he has no respect for you. Ask yourself if you respect yourself. If so then, with you being so damn hot you should have no problem finding a new man but if you love him which im sure you love him alot more than he loves you to treat you this way. Then I know its alot harder to say just leave him than actually leaving him. If this is the case then you will have to just accept him the way he is selfish and insensitive until you are sick and tired of being sick and tired. See I am 31 and wasted about ten years of my life with someone selfish and insensitive leaving him was the best thing I did even though it was hard. I found someone who respected me for me and wanted nothing more than to satisfy me and I been on cloud nine ever since...Good luck.
2006-10-23 12:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going to pull my hair out! When will people quit asking these stupid questions and just leave the person who treats them like crap. if you stay you deserve what you get. get some self esteem for gods sake and quit being a doormat. Why cant people get it? If you found one boyfriend or girlfriend then you WILL find another. no wonder the worlds so screwed up.
2006-10-23 14:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by eric s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really sure what your looks have to do with this. Bottom line - if you have told him in the past that you don't want to be treated a certain way and it keeps up - leave.
2006-10-23 12:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say, "You are selfish and insensitive." Then you leave him alone. Move on. He's not your husband, he's your boyfriend. It might be hard, but find somebody else who will treat you right and more importantly, someone who respects you.....and respect yourself!
2006-10-23 12:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by GIG45TXFL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look him straight in the eye and say "You are selfish and
insensitive, neither of which I intend to put up with much longer."
2006-10-23 12:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a abuser. I would jump ship and trot on down the line! Head high, self confident... You go girl.
2006-10-23 12:34:03 · answer #7 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be "mean," but if you've told him this in the past, and it hasn't changed, then it's time you move on. You deserve someone who won't say things that he knows will hurt you.
2006-10-23 12:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by K R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him everything you have written here, then tell him you will no longer take his abuse and to get out of your life.
Good Luck.
2006-10-23 12:40:42 · answer #9 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont try to make chicken salad out of chicken ****. Find another boyfriend.
2006-10-23 12:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by Phil S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋