and continually says things to hurt Like" your a worthless piece of crap" so on & so on, you've been seperated for over a year now and her boyfriend has been living there at a residence for 9 months along with three other grown adults ,that you have paid for, for twelve years. You have done everything you know of to be ambiable, from paying for everything , providing insurance, etc. etc. now you have had enough and are tired of being treated like this. So, do you get down right ugly and let her have it by requesting half of the equity on the property. or a buy out, along with informing the lawyer of this long time live in as well as the others and there activities which may include drug use. wanting the property back is not an option now due to too many bad memories.your just plain tired of being took advantage of and others living at your expense. what would you do?And there is a twelve year old son, but right now he's brainwashed and full custody of him is probably not an option
2006-10-23 12:07:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to you lawyer, you should be able to tell him anything and get advice. Consider all of your options and don't communicate with her any longer. Find out how to communicate with your child without speaking with her. Ask your lawyer. Don't go off on her, she will get some perverse pleasure out of it and you will feel worse than you do.
If you have to talk to her you should be civil and maintain an even temper and not stoop to her level. You will feel more in control of the situation. Good Luck. I know it is an intense situation. Keep your cool.
2006-10-23 12:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by quickspend 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make her buy you out, refinance, or sell the house. Particularly since your name is on the mortgage-think about your credit, insurance liabilities, etc. Also, if you have been away from the house for nine months most judges (not all judges) will deem the property hers as you "abandoned it" (trust me-her lawyer will state it that way). When you leave, take your property with you since it would have been community property. Bring up everything you can to your lawyer-leave no stone unturned as it hopefully will work in your favor. I had to learn the hard way and still fighting to this day about getting the house situation taken care of....Best of luck!
2006-10-23 12:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by ba374 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is done with you man! You need to declare war. Seems like she is just taking advantage of your generosity. Now I'm sure she has her reasoning for treating you the way that she does, but that doesn't really matter any longer.
It's time to invest some serious money into reducing her to rubble. You should squeeze everything you can out of her and do what ever you can to ruin her.
Be very carefull with her as she may use sex to distract you from your goal. She may even pull out the "poor me" weapon of mass destruction. I've been divorced and you just cannot trust them. Usually men just want to see the end result. Women want to **** everything up along the the way.
Act fast and be very cautious...good luck.
2006-10-23 12:21:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jerrid 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to cut off contact and leave the sour puss alone. When you come in contact with her and she is rude politely tell her what you think and throw in some positive things you've done. Don't worry about the property because your son is still a minor, she will be delt with in time and time will deal with her. Let your kids intiate visits and phone calls they are old enouth. Get out and let some of those women out there fill your head a bit.
2006-10-23 12:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will never be a happy end.......if you choose to accept that, then you can focus on what is best for your son. You will have to share him with your soon to be ex for the rest of your life, accept that and you are on your way, Don't give up on your son by having your ex get what she wants, take what is yours so that you will be able to live and support your son, all the material things with be discarded as your life goes on, you won't want to keep anything that you obtained together cause it won't matter with time. Focus on your SON! You can't control whatever crap your soon to be ex tells him, unfortunately he will seem stuck in the middle, it's up to you being the better one to not let him feel like it.
2006-10-23 12:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by nfgatcer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Report the drug use to the authorities. With a child in the home child services will be there stat. Then go to court get a emergency order for full custody and then the home will be yours sell it if you do not want it. Do all of this while she is in jail for child endangerment
2006-10-23 13:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by BNSFENGINEER 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak with your attorney and ask for what you are entitled to. No more getting dumped on, just want what you are entitled to under the law.
If she can't buy you out, then property must be sold and equity split. Good way to get rid of marital debt too.
2006-10-23 12:20:12 · answer #7 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and stand up for yourself. A bad woman will take until she can't take anymore if you allow it. The only way she will ever change and not hurt other people is if you beat her in court and teach her a lesson.
2006-10-23 12:14:22 · answer #8 · answered by X 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The important thing here is that there is a child to consider. You need to remain the calm in the storm and be the mature one. Get thee to a lawyer. Yes, you owe child support but you need to assert your rights and get visitation. You and your son need counseling so you can regain your relationship and do it soon. He is 12, he needs his Dad desperately.
But please don't sink to your ex's level. Someday your son will realize what you did and what you sacrificed for him.
2006-10-23 12:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing requires a person to be civil during a divorce. Sure, It would be nice, but is actually unlikely. Since she treats you like crap, stop doing ANYTHING you aren't required to do. Give her nothing you don't have to give her. Report ANY wrong doing she is engaging in. Stop being nice. By all means fight for your share of assets, including your home.
2006-10-23 12:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋