I have came out about 4 months ago to some of my family and friends. the funnyest thing just happend. the only one's I left out where my parents. I was talking with my mother and was telling her I don't want a man get it for the rest of my life. she turned and said why you are gay arn't you. I couldn't help but laught she is just now catching on. were finally on the same page. so now that I am open and care about others why am I still single? do you have any advice for a new commer?
2006-10-23 12:07:01 · 10 answers · asked by ladyjamie 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Good call by the mother. I think from her comment she may have suspected it but didn't want to say anything. Yes you are on the same page now - at least she is cool about it.
Sometimes once you get over telling people you can then come out further. It has only been a few months since you came out. I think you'll eventually get into the swing of things and get that girl.
Just because you've come out doesn't automatically mean you'll get a girl. Have you had one prior to now? I think you must bide your time and the right one will come along. I waited nearly a decade.
2006-10-23 17:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did just come out 4 months ago. Alot of people stay single for a while just to get there minds clear and be comfortable with the new lifestyle. I was single for 6 months, and I dont think that was long enough. I have been in one relationship or another since. Finally, after like 12 women, maybe a year of being by myself and just dating, I have found the love of my life. So, be patient, its ok to be single! Have fun for now, date, get to know yourself, and when God is ready for you to be in a meaningful relationship, you will. Good luck newbie!
2006-10-23 12:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by arielsalom33 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi jamie, i dont know how old you are but with me, i am 22 yo and i had a similar pattern also. but i actually came out of the closet several years ago. some people who i thought were friends became the opposite, while others who i thought different have now become friends. just let time be in your favour and i am sure that someone will appear in front fo your eyes and all your sweet dreams will become reality. do not go looking but rather let time pass. if you were really wishing, you can goto the gay scenes but i dont advise that too soon. wait and try later with a group of friends .. good luck and be proud that you have come out .. charise .. a lesbian from australia
2006-10-23 21:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by charise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is great. my mom, now that i look back, has always known that im a lesbian.lol. but when i came out i only told my friends, then one night i had enough of this closet **** and took my mom out to a club with some friends and i left her with one of my friends that cant keep a secret and she told my ma the whole story of my recent break up with a gal and when i saw the job was done i steped up next to all of them and my friend lol, she said oh **** when she saw me and dissapeared into the bathroom, but i wasnt upset because i wanted her to tell me ma. well since then iv had alot of bad break ups some that even nearly cost me my life and now i am engaged to the most amazing woman under the sun she is 12 years older than me but she was worth the wait. my advice to you is dont make the same stupid mistake i did and rush into relationships, it always ends in dissaster, wait and she will find you, have a little fun along the way but when you find each other dont mess it up by cheating take it slow and make sure she is the one you want to spend your life with.
2006-10-23 19:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by wendy4anri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time dont jump right in. Lesbians are full of drama take your time. Go out meet some new friends first in time you will find someone. Experiment first try dating some diferent women dont take the first one that gives you attention. I dont know where you live but there is usually some place for everyone. Go online and look for places by your home. Good luck.
2006-10-23 18:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by mamacitac9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that the right one comes along when you're not looking too hard for her. So, just wait a bit. It's only been 4 months. You can also try asking girls out, just for friendly conversation over coffee, little things to make you feel comfortable in the dating scene. Good things come to people who wait. Best of luck!
2006-10-23 13:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so glad that you have started out well with support and love. Others have said don't try to rush things, so just carry on being your wonderful self. I did not know I was lesbian until I met my future partner at our office. After that it was 3 years before we decided to live together.
Patience, love, Love and Patience.
May the earth Mother Bless and guide you. Rose P.
2006-10-23 14:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by rose p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on telling your family and friends Don't be in a big rush to be in a relationship. Try to establish yourself with a good group of gay friends first and the rest will flow naturally. Best of luck to you!
2006-10-23 12:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being single is a part of life, gay or straight. Give it time the right person will come along.
2006-10-23 13:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by yikes_its_a_humdinger 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go and get em!! LOL
Too many to choose from...
2006-10-23 12:10:07 · answer #10 · answered by Shortcake r 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋