my husband got a phone call a few months ago from agirl who said he was full of s h i t then she hung up the phone so we talked about it he said he dont know who she was then friday a girl left him a mess. sayin she was go call him later and dont forget that they was going to dinner so she call again and said stop sending her to his voice mail and when he call her back he can guess who is pregrant now he still is telling me he dont know who she is and he is mad at me because this guy from my job i been talking too about us calls me not everday but once in a whaile and he knows im married i dont want him i love my husband but my things is a girl call his phone listen to my husband voice and still left a mess. now if it was you will you leave a mess or could he be telling the truth can a gilr call 3 times with the wrong number and still leave a mess.ohh she called him for a 3rd time later that nite to say happy sweetest day and yes i do have his pass word to his voice mail so who is rght
2006-10-23 11:48:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girl you have your hands full, Let me tell you this,
This happened at my home one time and my husband knew this female, she was a female from his past, she called information and got our home phone, and she was on some bull s h i t, my husband spoke to her, cursed her out, when I got tried of hearing him talking to her I told him it was time to hung up the phone, the very next day we got our phone number changed and unlisted, and you know what? there has never been another call, from her or anyother female from a past life or present, see my point is, if your husband loves and respects you, then he will make sure that NO ONE hurts you, see it's not the female who owes you anthing, it's your husband, I am not sure of your situation but the thing I am sure of is that you have not made it clear enough that you love him and want no one but him and it's his job to make sure that no one from his past, or anything else upsets his wife.... you, Two wrongs do not make a right, you do not have a problem with you co-worker, it's your man that you need to be talking to about this problem, not a male co-worker because that in it's self is going to create more problems and not make it better for you and your loved one, see what I am saying?
This is what you do: Get your home number changed and do not talk with this male co-worker about your personal problem and do not give him your home number, let your husband know that this is hurting you and you want him to change his cell number and make sure it's not giving out, that's all, if your husband loves you and respects you then he wants to see you happy and there will be no problem with the changing of the numbers, talk with him okay, do not talk with others about your marriage because I will tel you this, no one loves you like your mate, and no one will tell you the right thing about your marriage because they are not you nor him, only the two of you can fix your marriage........I hope you are okay and I do hope this helps and not hurt...........
2006-10-23 12:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
obviously your husband has been cheating on you. Men always accuse women of stuff when they are guilty. You need to decide what you are going to do. Fussing about it all of the time will cause you to break up. Is that what you want? you could occupy all of his time so that he dont have time to cheat on you. Change the voice on his phone and make it your voice. get the girls phone number off of his phone and ask her about who she is calling. think about what you really want before you make a move but in the mean time get that coworker to quit calling you so he dont feel like it is ok to do what he is doing
2006-10-23 11:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well First of all you betrayed your husbands trust by committing a cardinal sin. You listened to his voice messages without his permission. Now that does not make it OK for him to be sneaking around with some little split-tail (and yes he is cheating). The reason he is all mad at you is because you caught him at his game and now he is pretending to be the indignant hurt person. Tell him that is not going to work and you want the truth. If he is really good at cheating he will continue to deny till the bitter end. Hope you get at the truth. Good luck.
2006-10-23 11:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by Agnon L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You both are wrong. You can't solve a problem by adding to it. Talk to the guy at work and leave it there. You have to keep a cool head so you can find out what's going on. Keep snooping him out something smells fishy there. You will catch him up pretty soon, because the girl sounds really dumb or determined to break you two up, so when you catch them up do what you have to do.
2006-10-23 11:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey i know you are not that stupid or are you?? You already know that female doenst have the wrong number 3 times....cmon now!!! She has no reason to be calling him unless he is messing around on her. Just because you have his password or whatever doesnt mean ****....maybe he thought he could trust her by not calling and leaving messages so you wouldnt find them. Hes playing you for a big SUCKER. If you want to deal with a lying cheating jerk then feel free,,,,,but my advice to you is to leave his sorry ***.......he might have another woman pregnant??? are you crazy??? Hes liyng to you!!! wake up
2006-10-23 11:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he knows her. you did the right thing after the third time by listening to the voice mail. first wrong number okay.second wrong number followed by happy sweetest day, you know what is going on. he is trying to flip the pages on you by being mad about that guy. call her and find out what is going on.
2006-10-23 12:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the two of you need to talk.
If you have the password to his voice mail and he knows this, then I'm sure he's not doing anything wrong. Well, that would be completely idiotic to do so knowing that you'd hear the messages.
So, both of you need to communicate and compromise with one another. You're both allowed to have friends of the opposite sex but the consistent phone calls must stop.
And, if he doesn't know the chick, then he needs to change his number.
2006-10-23 11:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've had people I don't know try to collect money from me for someone else's bills. People give out fake numbers all the time.
Your husband trusts you and gave you the password to his phone, so he's not hiding.
He may be afraid that you might think its real and want some revenge.
2006-10-23 12:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh come on, u don't believe this is just a "wrong number" do u? I think he KNOWS this other woman and they are probably having a thing on the side and he is lying to u. U both need help with your marriage.
2006-10-23 11:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to have a serious, state of our relationship conversation with your husband and figure out where your and his priorities lie. A relationship is hard enough to manage and keep healthy without other people coming into it and corroding it.
2006-10-23 11:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by cjmadden2000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋