Lesbian identification?

Question

I have a friend who is a lesbian and she wants to know how she can tell that other girls are into her. She finds it hard to meet other women cuz she doesn’t know if they are lesbians also. How can she tell if other girls are lesbians

Answer 1

Lesbians have a special way of communicating with each other. True lezzies identify each other by emitting a special “lesbo” scent that only lesbians can smell (kinda like dogs, they identify each other through smells) -This is a fact!-

Answer 2

There are many stereotypical ways to identify lesbians, the most well-known being the masculine or (tom)boyish butch who dresses non-femininely, probably has short hair, acts tough and macho, etc., etc.. This is not always a true representation (there are straight girls like that, too!), and it leaves out the femme lesbians who look and act "normal", so that they seem straight and people don't know until they tell. Since it seems that your friend is having this problem, I'll assume she wants these straight-looking, femme girls. There are probably some truths that will help: gay pride paraphenalia (like rainbows) is always a dead giveaway. Unfortunately, there are a lot of silly myths- I know someone said to look at fingernails, I've heard that lesbians usually play the guitar, they'll wear blue (not pink), etc., etc.. Are they true? Probably not, except for individuals or some groups. Next some idiot will come along and say that all lesbians emit a special scent- oh wait! Already done :)

None of that will really help your friend in the long run. There are a lot of other ways to find girls and similarly let them know that she is open to them: wear gay pride paraphenalia like rainbows, post personal ads for singles in her area, join a GBLT group in her school/community, visit the gay scene (you instantaneously know that everyone there is gay/bisexual!), or simply come out as lesbian (tell people, write it in a Myspace bulletin, send out engraved announcements, you get the picture). And flirt! Unless the people around her are very homophobic, a mistaken come-on won't be the end of the world, and even if the object of her affection isn't a lesbian, those friendly eyes, chatty banter, and light touches that say "I'm into you." might just convince her to try something new!

Those are just my opinions. Hope she can find herself a nice girl.

Answer 3

Definitely eye contact. A straight girl will look away after a moment. If a woman is intrigued by or interested in you, she will hold your eyes. What is crucial is not just the one glance, but the return glance. That's the clincher. It shows it wasn't just an absent-minded stare.

Other than that, there isn't really any concrete way to explain the "Gaydar Radar". It just takes time to develop. I have learned to pay attention to things like hairstyle (or lack of one...), clothes, mannerisms, jewelry/piercings/tatoos, gait.

Generally, though, I've found that if a woman is interested in attracting potential dates, she's going to be more obvious about it -- give off gay signals, rather than act straight. Part of the whole mating ritual! ;-)

Answer 4

LOL. First thing to look at is the fingernails. If they are cut short, and clean, thats a good indication. Usually no nail polish. No self respecting lesbian has dirty fingernails or not cared for fingernails. Secondly, eye contact. Usually another lesbian will give the all knowing "Look", and nod her head at you. The look takes practice to learn what it is. Third, the way she dresses. This can be confusing, many lesbians dress boyish, but femmes can look as straight as ever, so dont always count on that. Usually with femme women, you look at the fingers, and count on the eye contact thing. Tell her to pay attention to their actions and the way that they carry themselves, lesbians carry themselves with an air of confidence usually. Tell her also to try to meet lesbians in lesbian establishments just to be on the safe side.

Answer 5

It is hard, unless you go to a lesbian bar, or what not. If she isn't into the bar scene hang out at a trendy coffee shop, or book store.

She can also ask questions after she strikes up a conversation, are you dating, what's their name..things like that.

Answer 6

Go to PROVINCETOWN, cape cod, Mass, and you will see what is all about.
Real lesbians look so much different then those slim and sexy ladies from movies etc..
Average P-town lesbian weights 100 kg, wears combat pants, piercings in ears, nose, etc.. and the haircut it absolutely terrible. short hair of a bloke.
They also wear a lot of leather etc..
Really dude, check out the place and I guarantee, that you will never fantasy about lezzies again.

Answer 7

First of all is your friend a "femme" or a "Stud"...Femmes are the females and studs are the males..of this lesbian game we play. You will have eye to eye contact that lingers longer than 60 seconds. If the girl is walking past you and she looks back ,.she is interested. If the girl looks longer than 60 seconds ..she is interested.. is your friend shy or bold?..Can she make the next step when she notices someone looking at her as well? Find out more information about your friend, and come back.

Answer 8

Like she always does. A smile, a subtle look, and touch, lots of strategic touches--adjust the other's hair, a lingering fingering of the other's jewelry or a feature of the other's clothes, a kiss of greeting or farewell and a hug or caress that lingers a tad bit more each time. If she zeros in on women who are frustrated and in need of comfort or those who are unhappy with men, she increases the odds of success. If she takes her friends clothes shopping with her, comparing how your bodies look in this or that, "confiding" of pushing the limits from time to time. Speaking of how she teases and tantalizes men, but not letting them close, "How do YOU like me in this one?"

Just like she's always done, just do a little more of it a little more deliberately.

Answer 9

Yeah, that's a problem. I mean unless she wants to go full out biker dyke, or deck it out in rainbows. If she thinks a chic is hot she just has to give her the look. Put herself out there a little. I've had girls hit on me... it's not like I'm advertising. But they can get a vibe off you if you flirt a little.

Answer 10

She should try a gay or lesbian bar. If she is interested in someone she sees there, there is a good chance that the girl likes girls too!

Answer 11

The more you are open about your sexuality the more people will come to you...
For instance, if you are out at work, someone at work will eventually like tell you they know someone else who is gay. She should then tell that straight friend she is single and say she wants to meet other gay people. Hopefully she will meet nice people through her connections.