I have this friend that just had her second child, she refuses to let the child sleep for more than a few minutes at a time because she is afraid he will stop breathing. She wonders why he is so fussy, he's not getting and sleep!!! I have a 17 month old son, I wasn't that overprotective of him even tho SIDS scares me, but good grief. Should I tell her she is acting crazy or let it go? This kid is gonna grow up to be a hypochondriac!
2006-10-23 11:40:10 · 17 answers · asked by skysmommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
This is in addition to my first question. Yes she is purposly waking her baby up about every 15 minutes, and this is by no means an exaggeration, I've seen her do it many times. It isn't my place to tell her how to parent but I think she is acting like a nut and it has me concerned. That baby needs sleep. I watch mine when he sleeps to make sure he is breathing but would never wake him unless I thought something was wrong. She is my best friend and I am hers and I did jokingly say something about it to her and got a look like I was the bad parent.
2006-10-23 12:09:48 · update #1
she maybe suffering from sever anxiety. we all worry about if your children stop breathing in their sleep and i still do even tho my son is 4. i used to check on him occasionally but never used to wake him up - i used to place my hand on his chest to feel it rise and fall.
i think you need to talk to your friend, dont say the word crazy tho, express your concern for her and the baby and maybe suggest she tries this. because her baby will need sleep and they will both be exhausted if this carrys on and she will worry herself sick. it maybe she will need to see a doctor also . everyone suffers anxiety but when it starts affecting your life in such a way its time to seek help.
2006-10-23 11:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by alrightyyy_then 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, poor baby. I was terrified of SIDS also, but I couldn't imagine always waking up my baby! It sounds as if your friend is having some kind of post-partum mental illness, seriously. There is a difference between being overprotective and what she is doing. Does she have a husband or other family member that can step in and talk to her? If anything else get her one of those pads that baby's sleep on that will sound an alarm if the baby stops breathing, maybe she'll relax enough to let the poor baby sleep. But really, it sounds like she needs some kind of mental health intervention, her baby cannot grow and thrive if he doesn't get enough sleep.
2006-10-23 12:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would tell her to let the poor kid get some sleep. You can tell your baby is breathing just by watching his chest rise and fall. I think a lot of mothers watch for this sign and that's completely normal...but your friend is acting crazay!! Good luck...if not hopefully she will snap out of it soon....if she is waking the baby up that much she has got to be just as tired the poor thing!!
2006-10-23 11:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by me me me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is ridiculous, maybe she should educate herself more on SIDS and she wouldnt' b so afraid of it. that poor baby will never get any sleep. u said this is her second, did she do that to her first born too? if she's overprotective on other issues too she really is a hypochondriac, i've heard 1 in 20 people have the condition.
2006-10-23 11:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by confused mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so worried find out who the pediatrician is. I would give them a call and voice your concern. Since a newborn usually has to go to the doctor very often, more then likely she has an appointment coming up soon. The doctor can bring it up without her ever knowing you said anything. The doc will be better able to evaluate the situation and you will know that you did something at least.
2006-10-23 11:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she purposely waking the baby every few minutes? If so then she needs to relax a little bit. I would suggest that she just keep him close to her and look at him to see if he is breathing. There is nothing wrong with being protective of a newborn though.
2006-10-23 11:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your friend that baby's need sleep! This is a big way for children to grow and develop naturally. If children don't get enough sleep their brains do not develop as it should!
2006-10-23 11:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some moms are overprotective of their baby. Because they love them a lot and really want them to live a good life.
2006-10-23 11:43:13 · answer #8 · answered by cheez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how close you are with your friend. Telling another person how to parent, no matter how close you are, can make waves. Still, if you feel you can be candid enough, just tell her. Perhaps broach it in a playful way, make a joke of it. She might not realize what she's doing.
2006-10-23 11:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by mommyofmegaboo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she should definitely calm down. lack of sleep will definitely cause health problems.tell her the best way to see if a sleeping baby is breathing just check and see if his chest is moving.if he is laying on his tummy then the subtle rise and fall of his chest will tell her
2006-10-23 11:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋