should I force my husband to quit?

Question

Well I have been with my high school sweet heart for 11 years now. We have been married for 6yrs and have 2 awsome girls. He cooks he cleans and works hard to take care of us. heaven sent right? well one fault, he smokes pot. he doesn't drink he doesn't party heck he doesn't even go out with his buddies. He stays with us or goes fishing on his own. But I can't handle that he smokes pot. it drives me nuts. Should i be greatful or should I make him quit? or tell him i am leaving?so many things to consider exspecailly our kids?

Answer 1

I am sure he thinks this is ok but you have a right to be upset about it because it is illegal and its not a good example to set for your children.They will to think its ok to smoke pot and we all know that one type of drug leads to another and your girls may experiment which can lead to addiction maybe if you break it down for him like that he will see it differently.Its not harmless because it will affect the your girls they won't know how to say no.

Answer 2

I don't see anything wrong with smoking pot; though I'm not personally into it (and never really have been), I know a lot of wonderful, hard working and successful people who smoke it on a weekly basis. When I was 19, my parents finally let me in on the fact that they smoked pot (and it came as a surprise, because it was obviously so well hidden that I had NO idea), so I don't think that it's necessarily a bad thing for your kids if he keeps it away from them and they don't know about it.

Now, it sounds like the only problem is that for some reason YOU don't like him doing it. That's a valid thing that needs to be addressed. I think that you should have a talk with him and see how receptive he is to cutting back or quitting. If he doesn't seem receptive to this, I think you need to sit down and make a list of all the good things in your life and all the bad ones...if the good outwieghs the bad, then you need to figure out some way to deal with the problem. You might have to come to some sort of compromise, maybe he can only smoke on the weekends, or maybe just certain weekends out of the month, whatever you think you can live with. But I do think that if it is something he enjoys and it is not having a negative effect on him working, being a good husband and a good father, you shouldn't make him give it up all together.

Answer 3

so what's the problem?

the only reason that pot is illegal is because the government can't figure out how to tax it.
you have a wonderful husband. everybody has faults, is he going to make you quit one of your faults because he doesn't like it?
leave him alone, or better yet join in.
there are all kinds of medical studies saying that pot is not addictive and has medical benefits. anyone that tells you different is naive.
i personally don't smoke it, but i have nothing against it, and i know lots of people that smoke it and have never touched any other type of drug other than alcohol.

Answer 4

Has he always smoked or is this a new thing?

If he has always done this then you don't have any right to think he would change. You picked him for all that he was then accept him for what he still is. I know its harsh but that's the right thing.

If this is a new thing then you need to sit down and talk with him about it. Find out why he has chosen to pick this up. You 2 need to discuss your wants and concerns as adults.

*Good Luck

Answer 5

Does he know that you don't like it. Maybe you should talk with him about it. If you let him know how you feel he just might quit without you having to ask him. Explain that if he gets caught that he could go to jail and then what would happen to your marriage and the kids. He might just see things your way then. Good Luck

Answer 6

Smoking pot is always worse if the partner doesn't. If he is as good as you say and is as devoted to you and the children . leave him alone ..