how to fall inlove again?

Question

My wife found out I talk with this girl I know on my cell phone. So she accused me of sleeping with her, nothing has ever happen between us, I told her. She talk to the girl she told her nothing ever happen. Of course she still didn't believe me are her. I truely love my wife, and I now understand that I shouldn't have been talking to her, I don't know my wife would feel the way she do. I have done everything, I have answer all of her stupid question. I just need for her to love me again. Her hate for me, is now starting me to hate her. We have a son, and it hurt me for him to go thru this. We're not living togather now, and I miss my family dearly. My wife tells me if I didn't sleep with her, then I was having emtional affair. I have never talked to her about personal matter about myself nor my family. She was just a friend , we may have spoke twice a week for 3 to5min, and then there were time we wouldn't talk for months. Help, I can go on all day. She said she wants a divorce.

Answer 1

Your wife has a problem with jealousy and trust that's destroying your marriage. If she has already asked for a divorce, she's throwing everything away for a couple of friendly chats on the phone. Nothing short if intense counseling is going to solve this and even that is a long shot at this point. Go to a counselor. Convince your wife to go with you. Call it divorce counseling if it gets her in the door. In this day and age of open society, a couple of chats with a friend means nothing. She needs to realize that her suspicions are groundless, and she's throwing away your marriage and seriously damaging your son for nothing. Good luck.

Answer 2

If the phone calls are truly as innocent as you say she wouldnt be reacting this way. Keeping in mind you dont have to sleep with someone to have an affair. Discussing personal matters and feelings with someone outside your marriage (that is not a mutual friend) is just has bad as having sex.
One of two things are going on here
1) She wanted out anyway and you have her the easy way out
2) you werent sympathetic to her "stupid question" which makes you more suspicious.

Good Luck I hope it works out for you
If you really want her back you going to have grovel a lot and let her get upset about your break in trust and disrespect of your marriage.

Answer 3

if talking and explaining hasn't done any good, then there is nothing else left. And if your wife truly loves you she would be more reasonable and talk with you. she is cutting it off to easily..