me and my child's father get along pretty good, but we are not together. im fixin to give birth to her in a few days. i have feelings for him but not enough to be with him because of his lifestyle. he is fixin to do some time and i think the reason why we are not together is because he doesn't want to get too close to me and then have to leave. since him leaving his child is hard enough. he will always be in my life, but i don't know if i should wait for him or not
2006-10-23 11:18:41 · 14 answers · asked by tina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tina, please do not take this in the wrong way okay, I too have a "Baby Daddy" and he too is doing 60 years to life, because of the life style he decided to live, so I do understand you completely.
Now with that out there just let me say this much, if he really wanted to be apart of your life in the right way, he would have did right by you and that was to marry you before he got you in the family way, and yes it's true it takes two, and you have done your part in that also but, please let me ask you this, him (the father of your child) Him being away is hurting who the most, you or that child that you will have to explain why their father is not with you two, you and the guy were adults when you made the decsions that you have made but, the child didn't get to make any chocies in this matter, you know? Yes, he will be a part of your life because of the child but, what about the child's life? the lives you live are not your own anymore,and do you want your child to grow up thinking it's okay to make choices without thinking of the others it may effect? Believe me, I know because my daughter is almost 21 yrs-old now and the choices that her father & I made as young adults have not hurt us as much as it has hurt her.......All I am saying is that you need to think about what is right for that small life you are responsible for now, and as for you & "the baby daddy" who knows, do what's right for your baby now then that way you will not have to explain the things you did in the past that was not done for that baby.......I hope I have not offend you here I only wanted to be honest, I love my daughter with all my heart but, everything that is wrong in her life is not her own but, my fault and her father's.to let her tell it.................
2006-10-23 11:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you, I can tell that you are a thinker. You are most certainly going to have some difficult times ahead. Keep the baby's father in the know, keep him as close friend. Move on, but not yet, not too fast. Your wants move to the back of the bus when the baby comes on board. Focus on her. Tell him that if he wants to come on board, get out, get straight give him one year to prove hisself. If he does and you decide you want him back, well then you'll chose. Best of Luck!
2006-10-23 11:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by Patty B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you LOVE him?
Next, since this guy is going to jail is he really worth waiting for!
Do you really want to have your child around a man that is going to jail?
Of course I don't know the circumstances that caused his imprisonment so can't judge the situation....
But if you don't love him it would be a disaster to marry him, for you and for your child, because you wouldn't be happy and your unhappiness would be contagious to him and your child....
You really need to think about this because what ever you decide you have to live with for the rest of your life!
2006-10-23 11:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by TRUE GRIT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know what you want out of this relationship yet, don't push it. Let things happen. If you two are meant to be together than eventually it will happen. Get along right now do it for the baby don't add anymore stress to this already complicated relationship.
2006-10-23 11:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by oreo29 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like his lifestyle then move on. Don't wait for him. You have to think of this little baby of yours. Have him around for the baby and maybe later on when he's done his time and he's on the straight and narrow then see what happens. In time....everything takes time. You need to concentrate on your baby. Enjoy the fact that the baby's dad is even around. Some of us don't have that "pleasure".
2006-10-23 11:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait for him. You have your child to think about now. You should be focusing on that. It will take up a lot of your time anyway and if an opportunity comes up then you can see where it goes.
2006-10-23 11:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by vancie121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be kind and send him pics and keep him uptodate on the baby and how she is doing. If you aren't interested in keeping the relationship going, don't. It's not fair to either of you or the baby. But be honest with him too.
2006-10-23 11:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by firey_cowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you care about him mabey you should wait for now and see how you feel later.after all you are going to be busy for a while in a couple days. hope i helped a littlegood luck.
2006-10-23 11:23:15 · answer #8 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you made a mistake getting pregnant for this man n second why you waiting for .
2006-10-23 11:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on what he is like when he gets out of jail, but i wouldnt hold my breath waiting for him though
2006-10-23 11:21:18 · answer #10 · answered by someone_you_wish_you_knew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋