My grandma shows obvious Favoritism towards my Sister? :(?

Question

I am about 4 years older than my sis, but my grandma loves her alot more.

I think its because she's cuter or something? I always played the ugly duckling role in my family, while I was the plain,dull one. She's the one with the beautiful face, the adorable eyes, etc, etc. But the way my grandma show her favoritism makes me mad. For example, if we went to visit her, the first thing she would say when she opened her door was "Sarah!" (my sister's name). Whenever we're sitting in the car, she always wants to sit next to her.
If my sis lost something, my grandma would turn the house upside down to help her find it. If I lost something, she would just pretend to forget about it.

Is this favoritism? Or is it cuz I'm older?? :( Plz help me!!!

Answer 1

Sounds like a little favoritism. nothing you can do, people are set in their ways. I was a chunky little girl and my sister was skinny, so I got Slimfast bars and diet stuff for holidays and my sister and little brother both got huge bags of candy. I had a job they didn't when I graduated from school I got a used car when they graduated they got to pick theirs brand new and design their own car. Nothings changed still, you just have to try to smile and get along with everyone and kind of ignore it. It gets bettter later down the road especially when you are used it by now and then they get put off by the grandparents by the great grand kids. You will sit back and enjoy, especially if it's yours! My daugther sucks away all the attention from my grandma now and my brother nad sister hate it!LOL I love it!!!

Answer 2

Sure it could be favoritism. But who cares what your grandma thinks if she's insensitive enough to be so blunt about her lack of interest in you and her favoritism in your sister? Something I learned a long time ago, you can't make people love you or like you more, etc. You are who you are... they feel the way they do... just know you are important special and beautiful, don't let some old lady affect that- if she's your grandma and making you feel this way, she's obviously not a good grandma.

Answer 3

Had the same thing happen in my family. My Grandpa died on my 5th birthday...me being 5 didn't realize what was going on and was a typical 5 year old. Now my brother was born 1 1/2 months later...named after Grandpa & the whole sha-bang.
My Grandma would barely speak to me over the years, and if she did it was usually mean. But my brother was coddled, spoilt and it was so annoying to watch.
As I got older I understood why she was like that to me...my Grandpa's last words were to me & not her. (he wished me a happy birthday) She never remarried, never dated and now 31 years later she is still alone.
I asked her about it a few years back and she apologised and it turns out in her mind when she thinks of me all she can remember is the last day her true love was on this planet.
Kinda sad but what can you do. All you can do is ask her about it...and maybe you can repair what is broken before too much time goes on.

Answer 4

If I were you I would confront her!
Tell her how you feel about the situation..
Try not to get angry as you talk to her, anger will not help the situation...
If you end up in tears this would not be a bad thing because grandparents can not stand to see tears in their grand children's eyes!
It would help her see the hurt she is causing you....
I hope you do NOT really feel like an ugly duckling!
I'm sure you are just as beautiful as your sister...
I am a grandmother myself and try my best to treat all my grand children the same..
Some times we may not know your feelings though...
So don't be afraid to tell her and show her how you feel....
I'm sure if she knew how you felt about the situation her actions would change....

Answer 5

It probably is 'favoritism' but so what? You like some people better that others. They may have more in common. I know it hurts some but there is nothing you can do about it. Be as mature as you can and look to being the best person that you can. Try to take it in stride. Whatever you do don't take it out on your sister, and don't let on that it bothers you because your sister might play on that to make you more jealous.

Answer 6

I'm sorry you feel like that. Maybe your grandma thinks your old enough that you don't really care. I mean how much older are you? Don't go out of your way for her if she wants to be a mean grandma and act like that than what ever. I'm sure your a good kid.

Answer 7

I think you should have a talk with your grandma, one on one. Tell her how much it hurts you to see her favor your sister. Ask her if she could try to be less biased.
You could turn out to be the more chic and stylish one of the two of you. Work on coming up with a distinctive style. Nice clothes, a flattering hairdo and make-up, and good posture can make a world of difference. See yourself as beautiful and you will be.

Answer 8

My grandfather shows favoritism towards my older brother but not me. I dont know why this is. It is apparent and is a bit disheartening to me but I still love my grandfather. I think in my case my brother is smarter than me or something. My grandfather is a really quiet person but when my brother talks to him they'll have a long conversation. When I try, it just doesn't last long.

Answer 9

I feel your pain, but with me it is the opposite. My older bro always gets my parents' attention, and like you said, If he loses something, they start a search warrant, while if I lose somethiing, they could really care less. My suggestion is to do something AMAZING. Your parents would then pay more attention to you. (I studied a lot, and won 3 spelling bees in a row.) (hah!)

Answer 10

Favoritism and act like it doesn't bother you. Grandma will get the hint .. it will stop eventually . Ignore her. if you don't need to go there then don't.