OK, i told my boyfriend that i was THINKING about getting a tatoo later on in life and i mentioned that i had three piercings in each ear. and the piercings aren't gothic or anything, i put little gems in them. and the tatoo would be small and on my ankle. we got in a fight and ever since the fight and DURING the fight he would say some rather harsh comments about me and i don't think it's called for. i already understand that he doesn't approve but calling me names and stuff doesn't help. What do i do?
2006-10-23 10:52:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
i have told him what i think, nicely too.
but yet more insults
2006-10-23 10:58:25 · update #1
He probably cares about you but is not good at expressing it. In general tatoos in the wrong places could but obstacle for career. Maybe he was trying to make a strong statements.
I think that's right. He probably feels like you're not listening to him and is trying to get your attention. He probably realizes the dangers of getting tattoos, how fatal they can be, and the moral issues that come with them. I think he wants the best for you, but has never encountered this situation, so doesn't know exactly how to react.
I can tell you that most people postpone the fights so the relationship will last longer, but this guy probably wants to get all your priorities set from the start and to not have any arguing later on.
Did he over react? It depends on the guy and most guys would probably let their girlfriend do just about anything that she wanted to do. I can tell this guy has concerns for you and doesn't want you to go earlier than your time. He probably wants to live a fulfilled life and doesn't want to make any regrets.
This is the type of guy that doesn't care if he's being offensive if there are potential risks and harms in the long run.
I can tell he loves you with all his heart and he only has eves for you --- he doesn't have eyes for any other girl. He wants to spend his life with you, but wonders how that'll be accomplished with the struggles A relationship poses.
He's not overexaggerating. If anything, he's being protective and I think he believes relationships should always be 50-50 and if there's something that you see wrong from the start about doing, YOU SHOULD DO ANYTHING TO GET YOUR POINT ACROSS.
He knows you weren't planning on getting a tattoo for the near future, but think about your life together. He's planning for your future in a way you don't know yet.
I'm sure that if he were in this position, he'd be thankful for your interference.
...and let's make a deal. Yahoo just complicates things, so I won't be posting any more questions seeking advice about your relationship. It's an open-handed deal, but it's my deal after all. Just think about it.
2006-10-23 14:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its YOUR body, YOU can put whatever you want on it. HE shouldn't have any say in the matter. What does it matter if he approves or not? He got mad at you for just thinking about getting one? He sounds like he has some major control issues. You need to think seriously about whether you really need someone like that in your life. And he's being a baby and calling you names. Sounds like a great guy to me.
2006-10-23 10:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by *Cara* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably cares about you but is not good at expressing it. In general tatoos in the wrong places could but obstacle for career. Maybe he was trying to make a strong statements.
2006-10-23 11:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) You're body is forever, you're boyfriend is completely replaceable(which is not a bad idea).
2) Your body is yours, no one elses.
3) It is never okay for anyone to disrespect you or call you names when you fight. That is verbal abuse. If he agrees to work on it, you can give him a chance. Otherwise, move on. This guy doesn't deserve you!
2006-10-23 10:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new boyfriend now. If you don't like the way he is treating you now, it might escalate later. Name calling is a form of abuse!
2006-10-23 10:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, no matter how mad he gets at your for whatever, he should NEVER talk disrespectful to you. Just remember how he treats you is how he will treat any kids you have in the future. I really dislike tattoos, but if my man wanted to get one, I would express my opinion, but never talk bad about him.
2006-10-23 10:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by lynne0101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs anger managements
2006-10-23 11:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by Maria AKA one of a kind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think seriously about getting a new boyfriend, someone who will treat you better.
2006-10-23 10:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont put up w/ name calling tell him to grow up and if he wants to talk about things tell him to cool it and come back when he is able to act like a man
2006-10-23 10:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you're too "wild" for him, he sounds immature calling you names, sounds like he enjoys insulting you, that's all I'm saying
2006-10-23 10:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by Meowmixtape 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋