of three children who stay home at the same time. I don;t believe that its impossible, just wondering how many of you think it is, because I know that it is a common perception. I just feel that there are so many factions of feminism these days, that it is basically different for every woman. I don;t think there is one perfect form of feminism. Opinions?
2006-10-23 10:48:28 · 8 answers · asked by ? 6 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
As a former feminist activist in the 60s and 70s, I feel I can comment with confidence and authority. Feminism does not imply some kind of a tuff woman whose working as a CEO and making a huge salary. Feminist thinking simply means that you believe women are just as fully human as men. Simply that! And that is exactly what the message of a major player in the Feminist movement, Betty Friedan, was trying to convey. It also has nothing to do with hating men.
But it does have everything to do with loving yourself and being your all. Being a stay at home Mom does not mean you are not a feminist...it is a temporary thing. Now if you believe you must cling off your man and stay home forever lest you not be there to wipe his behind when he returns, then you are not a feminist. Women ,and so many of them today with there anorexic/bulimic bouts, who suck up to men are not feminists. I do beleive however, even in the most radical feminist there is a little girl who will regress at times, who will maybe be a little too overly concerned at times with her appearance in male eyes, etc,.etc. It is all a matter of degree. we have all been raised in a sexist society and no one is free of it completly.
What I think is truly wonderful is to celebrate women and all we do to the highest. Women's ideas, such as things related to domesticity and raising children, are considered far less than so called men's things such as sports. Just look at how much money is spent on sports compared to how much is spent on our children. Time to do a reverse! I personally though an avid feminist with strong self confidence and self image, still enjoy things like cooking, gardening, decorating and a baby grand daughter I adore!
I propose tht we raise all things related to women to the highest degree. Let those women who stay home with their kids be considered high powered Goddess! Let cooking and gardening become Sacred! Etc. get the idea..let male sports pale in comparison.
And so it is! Blessed Be!
2006-10-23 12:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Greanwitch 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all, feminism isn't about hating men. Too many people have been made to believe that. It's not true.
True there are more radical feminists who "male bash", but not all of us do. I'm a feminist, and i'm a wife and mother. I believe in a positive lifestyle for both men and women. If only men stop fearing the word "feminism", and learn to understand that many of us only want a more positive lifestyle than what was offered many women of the past.
I also have friends whom i've met and befriended in university who have also become wives and mothers. Some don't want to raise children, but there are some of us who do.
Too many people have a misperception of what feminism really is and therefore fear it. One of the major changes in women today, because of feminism, is that she's now taught to stand up for herself, speak up, and stop being a "doormat".
Being a "doormat" had absolutely no positives for women. Women were depressed, misunderstood, abused, mistreated, and she was expected to stay with the man she married regardless of the treatment she recieved.
Today, women have choices. In the days before feminism, she just had to sit there, look pretty, and wait to be picked by a man. Today, she too can pick who she's to marry. She has a choice to make a career for herself and work, or stay at home to raise her family. It's her choice.
2006-10-23 20:52:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
feminism seems to be skewed... i mean, back then women Fought for their Rights.. to vote, to equal pay, etc etc.... now that things Have indeed changed.... the younger generation has No Clue what the "women's movement" was about!!! all they talk about is "women are STRONGER than men", they are "better" than men now.... how does that have Anything to do with anything?? just as they were fighting to prove men were not better, so women should not start saying women are better! it's like rehashing a NEW double standard! makes no sense whatsoever.
i'm all for strong, independent women who know what they want, and go for it. but that has nothing to do with IGNORING the fact that we are Natural Made Nurturers... we carry the baby, we nurture the family, we cook, we clean... sure, men these days start pitching in, start taking care of kids, switching the roles, etc..but that makes Neither of them the "weaker sex"!!! the thing is, men and women naturally have Roles that they do best... and both are equal: for example, if the man brings home the bacon, and the woman stays home to rear the children..those roles are EQUALLY important.. no one is "weaker" than the other. ....neither are they "equal".. because they are innately Different. but u still have to Appreciate each other's roles, and abilities, and help each other..that is the whole point of Male and Female, to complete each other where the other is lacking. good luck to you, and all the rest of us who are Working mothers OR Stay at Home!!
2006-10-23 10:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Feminism wants to open the doors to women so that they can choose what is best for them and their families. That freedom to choose includes being able to choose to be a stay at home mom. Anything that tries to limit a woman's choice is anti-feminist bullsh!t.
2006-10-23 11:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by random6x7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Feminism is all about women have a CHOICE to use the rights that we've earned. If a woman wants to be a CEO...it's her choice. If a woman wants to raise her children at home...it's her choice. It would be sexist to say women can't work outside the home and it would also be sexist to say that women who work inside the home aren't feminists. Whatever women do, we should enjoy it and do it well. That's what really matters.
2006-10-23 11:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by bbchicki 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
to me, they can be achieved at the same time.
this is a matter of perception. because there are so many forms of feminism. staying at home doesnt deprive you of the chance to have equal concern over political, social or economical issues or your say in them. it certainly shouldnt place in into an "lower" status with male partner.
2006-10-23 22:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by allee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many different types or degrees of feminism. I for example am one, just not an extreme male bashing one.... More power to you for being a strong, independent mother!!
2006-10-23 10:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by Curlz 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Woman are doing better than boys or young adult men in many important fields. More woman are graduating college than young men. Men are really falling way behind women - so looks like you won the battle. Now you woman can take care of us men - I think the whole world knows about how strong American woman are. The are so strong they got a set a balls down there
2006-10-23 11:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by dally d 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋