What does it mean when a wife has a hard time having company over.?

Question

Can anyone tell me what you think on this subject. I have a Friend who is married but never enjoys herself when she is with him. When they go camping or anything she is always wanting to go alone or at the most just go with his mother. Her husband on the other hand enjoys people coming over or camping with them to have a good time, do family stuff. She even does not like family like her sister inlaw to come etc. He is getting annoyed and is now standing up for himself. Why do you think she is like this. Does she have some sort of phobia! She has a hard time making friends and never wants to keep them.

Ok she does get her downtime with him as well. And she also has no problem socially in terms of her job etc.

She sometimes wont even open the door when her neighbor comes over and they are close friends.

Answer 1

She probably has social phobia and is very anti social. It probably has something to do with some kind of inferiority complex and insecurity.

Answer 2

she has no phobia maybe he form of behaing is due to her past. I'm like that too and it bothers my Fiance. I nver had friends as a child, teen etc because my parents were really strict with me. But now that i'm an adult and i come across someone i'd like as a friend- they either betray my trust or don't call me or stayin touch withme. Being married is different. After you're married you have dirrent types of friends. IT's ahrd to keep friends who are still single when you're married because you have nothing to talk about. If you have a friend who's maried you can talk about your kdis school, your house stuff, etc. Your wife probably has a hard time trusting people in her private life even if it means her onw home. Don't push her. The only thing you can do is take her out more often. Go dancing together where you can interact with other people and hopefully she can get used to it and your problem is solved.

Answer 3

1. She may not like camping. If she associates his family and friends coming over as a trip out camping, yes she could become a little ambivalent about the idea.

2. She might (like me) just love downtime to be unwind time, which involves... no people! (except for a loved one)

3. She might not like his family all that much, but not want to say it. Nice to spend Christmas and thanksgiving with them, but his family may not be the kind of people she wants to spend time with a lot

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4. Maybe, that after working all week she doesn't want to have to do all the preparation and work that having people round entails, possibly he isn't that much help.

Answer 4

I'm the same way......I prefer to be only with my girlfriend, she has got to have a bunch of family and friends around all the friggen time. It's a sign of insecurity for people to be constantly around people. It's not anti-social to want to be alone or with just your loved one(1). Down time is down time, R & R doesn't consist of being smothered by a bunch people tee heeing over the usual dumb stuff. Most families suck anyway. There's always one that's a loser drunk, a couple that don't get along, someone that can't keep there hands to themselves, always someone thats vulgar....then there is always the hidous conversations that include sports, or gossip. Just leave your Friend alone !!!!!!!! She's fine her husband is frigged up.

Answer 5

I am in the same boat as this statement reads. Are you sure that you are not talking about my wife?
My friends will not come to my house, because my wife does not like me having my friends over. She never has, and it is a miserable thing. Some of my friends will say I like you, but I will never come to your house again.
I would love to have friends come over and play cards, other games, watch sports, or to barbecue outside, but I know they will feel miserable if they show up, so I do not invite anyone to my house. I said house not home.
I can understand exactly on what you are saying and that is terrible. I guess it is the way they were brought up in their child hood. My brothers will not come to my house.
We have a living room suit that we purchased in 1970 and it still looks new.
That shows you it is hard to call a place like this home.

Answer 6

Maybe she has a hard time or doesn't know how to be a hostess. Maybe she feels she is constantly on trial with the family when the family is over. If she is shy like you said she is, maybe she just doesn't feel she fits in and feels uncomfortable. Talk to her and see if you can make her feel more at ease about the family functions. Be her friend, sounds like she could use one.

Answer 7

She sounds very shy. This sounds like me to some extent, or how I used to be. He has to very gently find out whats up. He can ask her gently, if he can help. Maybe she's ashamed of her appearance, the condition of her house, or his awful jokes, Maybe she's clinically depressed. Sounds like alot of the symptoms, If she was always this way, then maybe its just who she is, and he knew that going into the marriage. But the not wanting to keep friends part is what really made me think of depression. Good luck.

Answer 8

Sounds to me she suffers from social anxiety , which is very real, and its not her fault, she gets extremely uncomfortable around others, to the point that her nerves are shot, she cant relax, and its an extremely uncomfortable scenerio.. surely u and ur friend have at one point in ur life been around someone that u were so nervous that u just couldnt wait to get away from , that u were that uncomfortable around them.. well its the same for her, except it isnt just an isolated person its people in general..

Answer 9

Some people are social and love being surrounded by them, and other people actually enjoy themseves more just being around the people they love, or the familiar people in their lives, different strokes for different folks

Answer 10

My wife has the samething wrong with her. It is called a social disorder. It is pretty common, and nothing to worry about