to add to the situation my husband who is stressed too,argues and we end up fighting all the time.i have two kids who r 19 months n 2 months old n both need me all the time.i have little time for my self n have no rest at all.what do i do?
2006-10-23 10:39:00 · 7 answers · asked by eeta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im not going through the same thing but i can sympathize with you...you have problems with relating to each other two babies that need you...you need to be strong and you need help...Please realize that this is absolutely normal...your hormones are changing ...your mind is at stress your body is at stress and most of all your marriage is stressing out when you are stressed...Please seek help and regain your life and be there for your children...in the meantime honey find time even if its 5 mins in the morning tell your husband you love him...and he needs to help you ...you need him to support you ...its hard but you will feel better once you get the help you need...love ya grl
2006-10-23 11:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many women get the baby blues after giving birth. Fighting with your spouse when you need him the most, just adds to those blues. It is imperative that you don't fight in front of the children. They are young, but it DOES affect them. You should talk to your doctor about what you are going through. There are things that your doctor can do to help you through this period in your life. When children come into the picture, we tend to forget about ourselves. You also have such young children which can take a bigger toll on your marriage. It is a good idea for you and your husband to go out together at least once a week if at all possible. I know, I know, you are tired and all you want is bed and sleep. But you two need to reconnect. It is the best thing you can do for your children. Believe me, they would rather you guys be gone for a couple of hours of play than for mommy and daddy to break up. Going out once a week will help you guys forget about being parents for a moment. That is so important. It is easy to forget what brought you two together when the children need to be feed, cleaned, burped, etc. LOL. But remember, the first thing you should do is talk to your doctor RIGHT AWAY about your baby blues. It is a condition that can and should be treated. Congrats on the new baby. May your family continue to grow and prosper. :)
2006-10-23 18:48:19 · answer #2 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your doctor. Antidepressants can help a lot. As far as support from your husband, sorry to hear theres not much there. Try and talk to him, I'm sure he doesn't realize the amount of stress you're going through being that he has so much of his own. I hope you feel better soon and i hope you and your husband work it out.
2006-10-23 17:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by Violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See your doctor immediately and get treatment. This will not go away on it's own. When you go to the doctor, have your husband go with you so he can better understand what is going on.
This is a matter of your happiness as well as your family. Don't miss out on enjoying your children.
Good luck.
2006-10-23 17:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwwwwwwww I'm sorry sweetie ! Welcome to Motherhood .
I do hope you both feel better soon however this is the way it will probably be until the kids are big enough to help out , men don't or won't . So we are left being sick and still taking care of everything else .
2006-10-23 17:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask for help - don't be afriad. new babies can be stressful and your hormones are haywire. Are there any friends or relatives who can help you with even the mundane things like cooking, cleaning and laundry? Next, let your OBGYN know the next time you see her/him. They will have some suggestions and books to read.
2006-10-23 17:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sharp Marble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All is an impression. Just do not be irritated.
2006-10-23 17:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by ndmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋